1 month relationship gone sour overnight!

Telemear

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Firstly wanna say hi to everyone being my first post. I came across this forum as a search for answers with what has recently happened to me with a girl I've been seeing.

To set the scene, I met a girl in a nightclub about 3 months ago, got her number but didn't see her again after that save for a few sms back and forward. Then randomly came across her at a beach resort around 6 weeks ago. I took her back to my hotel room that night and had a great time together. It turned out she works within 10mins of my office so when we went back to the city we met up fairly frequently.

She would stay round my apartment and some days I'd go to work and come home finding everything cleaned and tidy. Plus she would regularly stock up my fridge with food and drink. We had been having regular sex and I would constantly be getting txts from her saying how happy she is with me etc and she'd always call or sms goodnight/goodmorning practically everyday.

Anyway, about 2 weeks ago she txt me asking to come over (was around 1am) but never showed up. I called her a couple of times, first time didn't answer, second time phone was turned off. Called her next day asking what happened and she said she went out with a friend and got really drunk so ended up at her friends apartment. Asked to come and see me after work but when it came to it told me she was then feeling too ill!

After that I suspected something was up but was still willing to continue to contact her speak on phone a bit etc, but she is no longer responding to me other than polite conversation. I've not heard much from her the last few days and am certain she has either gone back with an ex bf, met a new bf or simply lost interest.

My question is what have I done wrong for her to almost overnight go cold on me?

It has been really useful to read some of the stuff on this forum eg - 2 strike rule and stopping contact for 5 days which I certainly plan to do. It's just really baffled me as to why this has happened so quickly considering how into me she seemed. I don't have anymore plans to see her but it would be nice to know for future reference how I could avoid this situation in the future as I did genuinely really like her.
 

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it might have been a small slipup, but then you reacted too needily.

the best thing you can do now is just cool off for a few days. she's probably got someone else fulfilling her needs now but she might miss you after some time. but you're definitely not going to get her back by being proactive now.
 

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Yes, I believe I did react too needily, thought I had settled into something fairly stable far too early and ended up making some very basic AFC mistakes!

I gave it 2 days without any contact and she called me asking to meet up on the weekend but told her I was busy and we could sort something out another time.

The info on this forum has really helped me get back on my game as it's quite easy to slip into some old habits and its good to be reminded to not accept any BS from a girl nomatter how much you like her!
 

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just ignore her man....sounds like shell come back soon enough
 

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I certainly plan to make no effort with her. Infact having a few days without speaking has made me realise she isn't anything particularly special that I can't find better somewhere else.

It is fairly easy to fall into the trap of being infatuated with a girl and letting your guard slip as she tries to take control of the relationship. Feel so much better for emotionally detaching myself from any outcome and focusing on my life and the things I can control, rather than trying to control her and her behaviour.
 

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Drunk at a friends house? Some new male friend she got drunk with most likely. She's probably dating him now. Let her go
 

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Telemear said:
It has been really useful to read some of the stuff on this forum eg - 2 strike rule and stopping contact for 5 days which I certainly plan to do. It's just really baffled me as to why this has happened so quickly considering how into me she seemed. I don't have anymore plans to see her but it would be nice to know for future reference how I could avoid this situation in the future as I did genuinely really like her.
She got to take over your place right away.

Don't leave girls at your house when you first get to know them.

Don't let girls clean right away. She's being a detective while she's doing it.

Don't be too available.

That and I'm sure a bunch of other things pretty much removed all of the mystery right away. In a month it got boring and predictable.

When you start dating another girl and getting some, you'll look back and see exactly what's went wrong in such a fast amount of time.

I'd say "live and learn" and move on, you really can't be mysterious now to her.

It sounds like you're really close to being a man's MAN and you can't do that if you're trying to repair an already broken relationship.

Move up another level and chalk that one up as a learning experience that you will not repeat
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sodbuster said:
Drunk at a friends house? Some new male friend she got drunk with most likely. She's probably dating him now. Let her go
This man speaks the truth. She cheated, it's OVER. Don't even try to get back together, all she is good for is a pump n' dump.
 

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I wouldn't bother overanalyzing a 1 month-long relationship. It's no big deal, just move to the next.
 
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