Firstly wanna say hi to everyone being my first post. I came across this forum as a search for answers with what has recently happened to me with a girl I've been seeing.
To set the scene, I met a girl in a nightclub about 3 months ago, got her number but didn't see her again after that save for a few sms back and forward. Then randomly came across her at a beach resort around 6 weeks ago. I took her back to my hotel room that night and had a great time together. It turned out she works within 10mins of my office so when we went back to the city we met up fairly frequently.
She would stay round my apartment and some days I'd go to work and come home finding everything cleaned and tidy. Plus she would regularly stock up my fridge with food and drink. We had been having regular sex and I would constantly be getting txts from her saying how happy she is with me etc and she'd always call or sms goodnight/goodmorning practically everyday.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago she txt me asking to come over (was around 1am) but never showed up. I called her a couple of times, first time didn't answer, second time phone was turned off. Called her next day asking what happened and she said she went out with a friend and got really drunk so ended up at her friends apartment. Asked to come and see me after work but when it came to it told me she was then feeling too ill!
After that I suspected something was up but was still willing to continue to contact her speak on phone a bit etc, but she is no longer responding to me other than polite conversation. I've not heard much from her the last few days and am certain she has either gone back with an ex bf, met a new bf or simply lost interest.
My question is what have I done wrong for her to almost overnight go cold on me?
It has been really useful to read some of the stuff on this forum eg - 2 strike rule and stopping contact for 5 days which I certainly plan to do. It's just really baffled me as to why this has happened so quickly considering how into me she seemed. I don't have anymore plans to see her but it would be nice to know for future reference how I could avoid this situation in the future as I did genuinely really like her.
To set the scene, I met a girl in a nightclub about 3 months ago, got her number but didn't see her again after that save for a few sms back and forward. Then randomly came across her at a beach resort around 6 weeks ago. I took her back to my hotel room that night and had a great time together. It turned out she works within 10mins of my office so when we went back to the city we met up fairly frequently.
She would stay round my apartment and some days I'd go to work and come home finding everything cleaned and tidy. Plus she would regularly stock up my fridge with food and drink. We had been having regular sex and I would constantly be getting txts from her saying how happy she is with me etc and she'd always call or sms goodnight/goodmorning practically everyday.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago she txt me asking to come over (was around 1am) but never showed up. I called her a couple of times, first time didn't answer, second time phone was turned off. Called her next day asking what happened and she said she went out with a friend and got really drunk so ended up at her friends apartment. Asked to come and see me after work but when it came to it told me she was then feeling too ill!
After that I suspected something was up but was still willing to continue to contact her speak on phone a bit etc, but she is no longer responding to me other than polite conversation. I've not heard much from her the last few days and am certain she has either gone back with an ex bf, met a new bf or simply lost interest.
My question is what have I done wrong for her to almost overnight go cold on me?
It has been really useful to read some of the stuff on this forum eg - 2 strike rule and stopping contact for 5 days which I certainly plan to do. It's just really baffled me as to why this has happened so quickly considering how into me she seemed. I don't have anymore plans to see her but it would be nice to know for future reference how I could avoid this situation in the future as I did genuinely really like her.