“Why did your last relationship end?”

[Murk]

Do I use that question to throw my ex gf under the bus and let any new girls know I don’t tolerate lies, high body count or women pushing/manipulating me for kids/marriage.

Or do I keep it light and topical, “we wanted different things/ended amicably” and keep it moving.

 

[Billtx49]

Or do I keep it light and topical, “we wanted different things/ended amicably” and keep it moving.

^^^^
This

 

[In2theGame]

Do I use that question to throw my ex gf under the bus and let any new girls know I don’t tolerate lies, high body count or women pushing/manipulating me for kids/marriage.

Or do I keep it light and topical, “we wanted different things/ended amicably” and keep it moving.

"Things just didn't work out" .... keep it moving.

 

[Deranged]

Damn good question. I find myself drifting to the ladder as to avoid bringing too emotion into the equation. But answering with the former can produce some interesting results.

 

[pipeman84]

Or do I keep it light and topical, “we wanted different things/ended amicably” and keep it moving.

This one. ^^
Suppose you were honest right off the bat and said that you don't tolerate high body count women. She could very well lie about it. Whereas if you're just keeping it light, non-judgmental, and see yourself as being on a data gathering mission, she could out herself on the first or second date. And then you could end it with 'sorry, but I've realized we're not compatible'.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

1). You aren’t going to get a real answer, this is your judgement.

2). This should be obvious from the start. Women with high lay counts cannot pair bond properly/are selfish so you will see this extremely early in the relationship. Kids and previous marriages are things you need to know on the first date.

 

[Barrister]

Don't ask this question. You should keep everything light and fun. Only enter these waters if she is the one who takes you down this path. If you do it unprompted, it looks weak. It also eliminates mystery -- which is a major attraction factor in early-stage dating.

Never volunteer this information about yourself. If she tells you on her own then keep asking her questions and avoid divulging the same information about yourself.

 

[Murk]

Don't ask this question. You should keep everything light and fun. Only enter these waters if she is the one who takes you down this path. If you do it unprompted, it looks weak. It also eliminates mystery -- which is a major attraction factor in early-stage dating.

Never volunteer this information about yourself. If she tells you on her own then keep asking her questions and avoid divulging the same information about yourself.

To clarify, this is about ME being asked the above question by new women.

 

[Barrister]

To clarify, this is about ME being asked the above question by new women.

Gotcha - I still wouldn't really give an answer. I would be very vague with a "we had our differences but it's water under the bridge. What do you want for your next drink?" This maintains mystery and you dodge the overall answer. And certainly don't reciprocate by asking about HER past relationship.

 

[Bingo-Player]

It depends at what stage the question gets asked i mean if on a first or second date just keep it quite vague ( but circling around the truth)

If your at the 3 month + stage and it gets asked then you can and should go into more detail

 

[RazorRambo24]

I always tell them I'm still friends with my ex.. which is true, I'm cool with two of my ex's .. But I usually preface it with like "I rarely talk to them but we're still friends" "We decided we'd be better as friends" kinda thing..

While I'm just being truthful to an ex.. my most recent ex was toxic/is crazy and we don't get along. I wouldn't bring that up because then women will think I'm toxic or have baggage.. and believe me, while I'm not as toxic as I used to be, I certainly still expect alot from women.. Entitlement is a crazy thing.. im spoiled when it comes to women