“I Love you” and the razor’s edge

[Roober]

Suggesting that one sex loves more than the other is a fools errand, and a naive one at that. Can a man ever love a woman like she loves a child? Can a woman ever be ready to sacrifice herself for the love of her man?

To even compare these is a fundamental misunderstanding of gender dynamics and psychology. Each sex loves differently and thus operate in different ways with their compassion and love towards each other. Some of you sound like Hitler, claiming some sort of superiority over a lesser race, due to the differences which you do not understand.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that you should live with an open heart, even if it hurts. To close yourself from the world, and from the opposite sex because of any of the millions of reasons people do this (usually unresolved childhood issues) is robbing yourself one of the things that make us human.

This becomes increasingly difficult as you lay more partners. This may be a shocker to some, but it affects men and women the similarly. You could argue that it affects women more, but it does affect men as well. High partner counts offer insight into alternative partners, therefore they tend to become dissatisfied more easily (sound familiar?). I have heard that much more here than with any of my peers outside of SS, regardless if they are married or single.

With each partner, people tend to add new items to the checklist. What they fail to realize is that the list becomes so long, it is bound for failure. So they then relinquish their opportunities for meeting the impossible standards they have developed, and continue to blindly look while claiming they are "waiting for the right person". Why date 1 or more new partners a week if you are not actually looking for someone or looking for love? Why commit so much time and effort to pursuing the opposite sex if it is not a priority in your life?

 

[lamath]

It is self evident that the older a woman gets the more baggage she gets. In relationship to a man. Now a man who was trashed by a woman can have quite the baggage as well. He still blames the women and her disregard for how much he gave to the relationship.

I asked a woman once about why does an older woman carry so much baggage. She was not offended at all but simply said....”men”

Now I know she meant her frustration with men. But how many times has a woman thought, “oh this new guy is the $hit!” Because of how he makes her feel. Then two months later...”Oh never mind, he wasn’t what I thought he was.” Boom. Bonded then went flat. Multiply that by 12.
She’s ruined herself. Then you pile the Feminine Imperative on top and then how everything is a man’s fault or the cult of men in general.

So a guy pair bonds and then gets trashed like garbage because of his raising. Then he decides to despise women for it. Baggage.

The last two “dates” I was on there were small things through conversations that pointed everything to someone else’s fault. Baggage.

Most if not nearly all of women, are incapable of self examination. They will think something critical about themselves and let tell her girlfriends and then “WHAT? Girl you are awesome. He didn’t deserve you. You are the $hit. He’s just a stupid man.” Boom!!! Any self evaluation is nullified by the imperative.

So yes. Every time she bonds, a little bit more of herself is flushed down with the tampon.
It’s rather sad if you think about it.

Even more reason to offer her redemption, femininity and protection. Let her mold to you if she can. There’s a living hell between her ears.

Very good stuff there, for some ltr or even short lasting relashionship i see how it could affect a women.
What about women that do ons or sleep around without getting serious.

The strategy i see often and has affected me in a way that i dont approach like i could is when women are together they like trashing some guy for trying to get with her. I use to work with lots of women saw it often.
(He called me at 1 am i know what he wanted) Like he was an ******* or something.

 

[Spaz]

Most if not nearly all of women, are incapable of self examination. They will think something critical about themselves and let tell her girlfriends and then “WHAT? Girl you are awesome. He didn’t deserve you. You are the $hit. He’s just a stupid man.” Boom!!! Any self evaluation is nullified by the imperative.

That's a nice one hahaha

Made me laugh by the truthfulness of it.

 

[Spaz]

The older i get the higher a women count will be in general, so i guess a man cant have too many expection of a women to have a low count

More numbers means the better is it for the man.

He understands better and thus has much to offer.

The same can't be said for women.

 

[Spaz]

Suggesting that one sex loves more than the other is a fools errand, and a naive one at that. Can a man ever love a woman like she loves a child? Can a woman ever be ready to sacrifice herself for the love of her man?

To even compare these is a fundamental misunderstanding of gender dynamics and psychology. Each sex loves differently and thus operate in different ways with their compassion and love towards each other. Some of you sound like Hitler, claiming some sort of superiority over a lesser race, due to the differences which you do not understand.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that you should live with an open heart, even if it hurts. To close yourself from the world, and from the opposite sex because of any of the millions of reasons people do this (usually unresolved childhood issues) is robbing yourself one of the things that make us human.

This becomes increasingly difficult as you lay more partners. This may be a shocker to some, but it affects men and women the similarly. You could argue that it affects women more, but it does affect men as well. High partner counts offer insight into alternative partners, therefore they tend to become dissatisfied more easily (sound familiar?). I have heard that much more here than with any of my peers outside of SS, regardless if they are married or single.

With each partner, people tend to add new items to the checklist. What they fail to realize is that the list becomes so long, it is bound for failure. So they then relinquish their opportunities for meeting the impossible standards they have developed, and continue to blindly look while claiming they are "waiting for the right person". Why date 1 or more new partners a week if you are not actually looking for someone or looking for love? Why commit so much time and effort to pursuing the opposite sex if it is not a priority in your life?

Unbeknownst to me this topic has already been touched on by POOK, although he has put it in a more palatable language but it's similar to the views that I've posted here.

@LARaiders85 rightly pointed it out that this has been discussed in the past. Here you go;

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/unplug-yourself-from-the-pickup-matrix.126357/#post-1185593

@Ranger supplicating/calibrating as your described was discussed above

 

[Spaz]

Well then, when can we see any clear examples of the supposedly deep love (other then being induced by the feminine imperative) by a woman from either any women here or from the feminine imperative fanboys who enjoys grovelling and then feels proud as being the best groveller - the best PUA trickster ?

I'm sure one of you can come up with something - I'm counting on it to put it to the test.

Aside to the women here, saying "I love you" or "I just absolutely loveeee" this handbag or that high heels or the beta provider doesn't equate deep love, it's actually love for ur survival (lifestyle). Care to dispute me ?

 

[Roober]

Well then, when can we see any clear examples of the supposedly deep love (other then being induced by the feminine imperative) by a woman from either any women here or from the feminine imperative fanboys who enjoys grovelling and then feels proud as being the best groveller - the best PUA trickster ?

I'm sure one of you can come up with something - I'm counting on it to put it to the test.

Aside to the women here, saying "I love you" or "I just absolutely loveeee" this handbag or that high heels or the beta provider doesn't equate deep love, it's actually love for ur survival (lifestyle). Care to dispute me ?

Maybe it would be more beneficial to provide examples of men illustrating this "deep love" that you seem to believe is only possibly demonstrated by men? That would provide some context as to your definition of the word "love", and help guide the proper examples illustrated by women.

The demonstration of love towards partners is multi-faceted and doesn't follow a narrow spectrum of actions or words. It is unique to each individual, and not necessarily quantifiable or observable as you seem to suggest. If you could provide explicit examples of what "you" consider love, I am sure an equal example could be provided of a woman displaying those affections for a man.

 

[Spaz]

Maybe it would be more beneficial to provide examples of men illustrating this "deep love" that you seem to believe is only possibly demonstrated by men? That would provide some context as to your definition of the word "love", and help guide the proper examples illustrated by women.

The demonstration of love towards partners is multi-faceted and doesn't follow a narrow spectrum of actions or words. It is unique to each individual, and not necessarily quantifiable or observable as you seem to suggest. If you could provide explicit examples of what "you" consider love, I am sure an equal example could be provided of a woman displaying those affections for a man.

It's littered around the forums, various postings of men sacrificing everything he has to offer; body, soul and mind. Even in this thread it's already been spoken of.

It's also in great works of literature.

It's in music.

It's everywhere if you are observant. Look at your neighbour, your coworkers, your siblings - look deeper.