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Really? What was my intent, then? Apparently I didn't convey my REAL INTENT, and it came off to you in a completely different way. For that I apologize, really. But please, don't assume you know what my intent was; YOU ARE NOT ME. Don't worry, I'm not taking it personally. Actually, I...

I definitely don't understand your logic there, but to each his own. If I started a thread about what everyone's favorite color was and how it made them feel... does that mean I am suggesting I might change my favorite color? No, no it doesn't. I assure you, I won't be changing my...

Haha, step down from your soap box. I never said anything about CHOOSING MY PROFESSION in order to get more social proof. I only related my EXPERIENCE, and asked if anyone else NOTICED THE SAME THING. Perhaps read a little more carefully next time and quit assuming things.

EDIT: Let this thread DIE. I evidently wasn't able to convey my curiosity properly and gather a proper response. People are taking it far too literally.

Quit approaching with an "end game" or "close" in mind for a while. Someone recently told me that his only goal (at first) with approaching women is to make the smile and laugh, bring a little light into their day -- not just approaching to get a number. Once he's accomplished the smile and...

NOTE: You can skip ahead to the part labeled "THE PRESENT" if you are short on time or don't feel like reading the back story -- though some of you I know will find it interesting. BACK STORY: My sophomore year of high school I was as AFC as you can get -- nerdy, hung out with the nerdy...

When you say come along with me, do you mean in the "hey I'm going to the library, you should tag along with me" way, or like "hey I'm going to this show tonight, you should come?"

When you are talking to a set, you've got to give attention to everyone at first so as to not make them feel uncomfortable, and get them beyond the "this guy is interupting us" mindset. Once you've established the approval of the group, which could take anywhere from 30 seconds to a couple of...

Societal programming says that if you invite a girl (that isn't your friend) somewhere, anywhere, where it's just the two of you... it's a date. And most girls will think it's a date if this is the case, regardless of what you try to do to make it non "date-ish." I have never tried what...

I wouldn't bring up the aspect of making the relationship exclusive yet. From the sounds of it you haven't even hooked-up or kissed. Move in for the kiss the next time you see her when the opportunity arises, because whether you want to believe it or not a kiss is going to tell you a whole lot...

I'm in a similar situation right now in that the main girl I'm pursuing is going to be at the same big party as me right now, and I was all trying to scheme how I could talk to this chick again when someone on these boards brought up a really good point -- don't even worry about that girl, dude...

It depends on what she is asking, who she is, how long I've known her, etc. Always try and be C&F about it though, that is, if you are into the girl. A personal favorite in these kind of scenarios is play the "what's-in-it-for-me" card, and I'll ask for a shoulder rub/massage in return for...

I'm not quite sure I read you. Are you saying that after you are C&F, they say "You're cute?" If that is the case, pay attention to her body language and tone of voice. If her tone is energetic and her proximity/eye contact is good, that's an IOI. If she kinda smirks and her tone is such...

Interesting. I'm actually starting to lean in that direction as well, now that I am absorbing the Don Juan world, and finally getting "out in the field." I wouldn't say that I'm being used in a particular sense by any of my friends, though I do notice that sometimes they only hit me up when...

There was a post recently about befriending women, and what the benefits of doing so might be. My first reaction was to "defend" the fact that I have some women friends. However, some of the replies got me thinking -- and after doing that thinking for a while and truly breaking things down, I...

Ahh, excellent point... I will definitely be keeping this in mind. Thanks! Too true, now that I think about it. I just need to get used to being chill about things instead of business minded trying to get everything done ASAP.

True. My only thought is that there is a decent chance I'll see her again this weekend (randomly, not planned), because we've both been invited (by separate people) to the same party. This is certainly not a bad thing, per se, but it would kind of defeat the purpose of a first coffee date...

Brandishing the gun in any way that is showing off is not a good thing. Regardless of whether they like guns or not, this will be a turn off. Other than that I think it depends on the individual girl. The best policy is not to show off or bring it up randomly, but let them discover this...

Wow... I certainly agree with you about the social proof. I don't think it is "quite" as strong as you make it out to be, but it definitely helps. This isn't possible. As someone already mentioned, you can only have one or the other, not both. You either want the friendship, or the poon...

I think having girl "friends" is a good idea. In fact, I have quite a few of them. There are plenty of benefits that most guys overlook, and I think it is absurd to avoid having girl "friends." Firstly, they can give you good advice on stuff. Need a gift idea for that LTR? Ask your girl...