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Nice post. When I first learned about red pill, it was very disconcerting to think that I had to play a game that I wasn’t very good at, and didn't particularly enjoy to get women. Even worse, I thought I had to play it forever, and that I could never be comfortable or natural around women...

What if dopamine is not toxic? What if there is nothing to detox from and the better idea is to consciously switch your sources of dopamine from unhealthy to healthier sources?

It’s fascinating isn’t it? I’ve seen it in here more than once. A man comes in here asking advice about women, is given good advice, and argues with every single dude that tries to help him out. I think most people don’t really want to do the hard work of change. They want some magical instant...

I had a friend in HS that had to pee all the time. He finally went in and got tested and had type 1 diabetes. The best book I ever read on the subject of insulin resistance is “The Complete Guide to Fasting” by Jason Fung and Jimmy Moore. I only eat in a 6-8 hour window every day since...

83 year olds give a ****

Go to work for a storage business for one year. If you pay attention you will learn everything you need to know to start your own business.

Been sober since 2013. For years I tried to control and enjoy my drinking. I changed the type of alcohol, the times I could drink, the days I could drink, etc. I think I crossed some sort of invisible line because when I tried with all my human resources to stop, I found I was absolutely unable...

I wouldn’t lump all churches in with mainstream Christian church. Maybe there’s a sect that would appeal to you. I always thought the Quaker’s had some good philosophies and most major cities have a dharma center if you want to explore Buddhism. My opinion is it wouldn’t hurt to go check out a...

There is a quote in recovery literature that people in the depths of their disease cannot differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. Before I stopped drinking, I thought everyone drank like I did. I refused to hang out with people who didn’t...

After I was divorced about a year (20 yr marriage) I talked to a friend of mine and he said it took him five years to get over his divorce. I thought no way can I go through this sh1t another 4 years. Turns out he was wrong. It took me more like seven. It’s been eight now and there’s no...

Only if I was really really desperate and I wanted what he had very badly. Your binge drinking probably isn’t that bad yet. The only people I’ve seen succeed with AA are those who have really hit a hard bottom. Hopefully you will find a way to manage your drinking without spiritual help. Good luck.

Maybe it’s not for you then. Maybe you can find another way to stop. I was just telling you what worked for me. You’re like the guy who says that the only way to pick up girls is by trying to be super nice, be their friend and wait for them to escalate. You find it’s not working so you ask...

I’m my experience there is a lot of difference between spirituality and religion. Many of us had trouble with the God word when we came in. I suggest going to a meeting and seeing if you identify with the people you meet there. It doesn’t cost anything and nobody is going to chase you down and...

Derby and I are the only two people I’ve seen in here that are actively in 12 step recovery. The drinking patterns of alcoholics vary widely. I was also a daily pot smoker, when I decided to put it away, my alcohol use gradually became more and more frequent. I would wake up horribly hung over...

I’m ISTJ and the gal I’m dating is ENFP. We have a lot of differences! I’m also in individual therapy. My therapist has intimated that this could be a difficult relationship unless both people are committed to growth and change. At least you two share one characteristic. Here’s a neat site I...

That was the best thing you could have ever done for yourself. Five years from now, you’ll look back and see this as one of the pivotal moments in your life. You are following your own moral compass and aligning your actions with your words and beliefs. That’s called integrity and there is no...

Agreed... the fascinating thing is that the community here somehow turned a troll post into a meaningful discussion about an important topic.

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This is good advice. When I did this, the woman got very angry and it shook me up a bit, like I had done something horribly wrong. Looking back, it was exactly what I needed at the time, and having her cut off all communication was exactly what I needed so I could go out and pursue women who...

Congrats. No matter how the relationship turns out, you are a changed man since your divorce, and that is the important thing.