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The fact that we are both married and living in different countries makes me a bit more assured that she just likes the casual and fun nature of it all. Of course I have contemplated the fact that she might be a psycho or act all emotional but so far she hasnt shown this. I have been much more...

And why should she do that? What does she have to gain?

I dont think she is religious, how is this relevant?

So far the only thing that has happened is that we both interact by text now and then. Some times the texts are just casual, getting to know each other and other times they are a bit more sexual. I also do not believe we will snitch on each other, since as you say we both have something to lose...

My impression is also the same. I have heard those lines millions of times before, so I have learned to ignore them. Things like sending updates about what she is doing, what she has been thinking, and sharing information about her family, though, show me that she is bonding. If a woman says it...

By the, what clues make you think she is pretending?

Irony asise, I am not a first-timer with women, and I know how fickle and deceptive they can be. Obviously such BS dont resonate, but you can tell more about actions than words. Perhaps she is in just for the thrill and excitement, and maybe is a serial flirter. I am not completely blind or...

You hit the nail on the head with this comment. I have caught myself falling in this trap and it takes some cognitive effort to recalibrate and not move into this mode of thinking. What helps me is that I think of it as a friendly bonding, where the sexual part is not that important due to...

I am fairly sure that I could keep it platonic if needed, but you have a good point. The emotional part has the tendency to creep up when you dont expect it. I hope that she also feels the same, although I cannot know what she is thinking. Since we only meet 2-3 a year for a couple of days each...

For me getting attached or for her?

Yes I am It is crazy, but it is true. When I was single such things were never happening and the dynamic was reversed.

Those are fair points, and I am perfectly aware of the risks of engaging in such situations. My hope though is that it will not end up in something like this. Both since we do not get to see each other very often and because a lot of the discussions are platonic. Just a few compliments here are...

My impression of the situation is that she is not receiving the attention and type of interaction that she would like from her husband, and this is the root cause of the infidelity. From my understanding of the situation, he doesn't care too much about what she is doing, and she perhaps married...

That's good input, and thankfully, there are no kids involved in the situation. What is also reassuring me is that she has been married for some time, so my reasoning is that she is also just seeking an "escape" from reality. She is not demanding attention, and she can easily get it from 1000...

Why do I continue the interaction? Well, because it is interesting and fun. It is not only about having sex. If that were the goal, I could purchase it. I would also say that I am equally guilty, and maybe what we are both seeking is this sense of excitement that gets lost when you are in a...

An update for those that wonder how these things unfold. So, after keeping no contact after the initial couple of days of meeting in person and having sex, she reached out and started chatting. I have been keeping it cool, and we have had some light and fun chats, but nothing sexual or too...

Thanks, this seems to be the case. I stayed no contact for 3 days and she reached out to me for a quick chat. Kept it light and fun, so it does seem that she might be in for more than just the sex. I also keep away from the gossip and all the negativity.

A few weeks ago I was attending a work meeting where at dinner I ended up sitting opposite a woman I know very little. Due to work, we both know each other through others, but have never interacted much apart from a couple of times very briefly. We are both married and we both know about each...

Thanks, that is what I am trying to do. She is the one pursuing a bit more and getting me sucked in acting GF mode. There are some red flags with her that I cant overlook and has been causing me to have some doubts about her quality so I am not emotionally involved. But sometimes you get...

So, some more news since this thing is progressing. Dating is going well. Hanging out doing things 2-3 days a week. A lot of talking, laughing, having sex, kissing etc. Having increasingly more deep conversations in which she is revealing a more sensitive side. So it is not only a physical...