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Yeh.. parents, sister, etc. Everyone tells me to put it aside... it was b4 marriage... u cant be mad at her. U wrent even dating. They all told me to believe her about leaving me at the bar. ( which i now know was bad advice). So yeh. Stay. Hang in there..is what ive always heatd...

U r right. This has been this way for roughly 20 years... and ill be a senior citizen with this same mindset. I guess. Ive always hoped she would eventually come clean... and we could really start over

My buddiez cant believe it... ive talked to a few buddies i knew years ago when me and her were dating... Trying to get clarity. They moved to colorado 6 moths b4 we married. They didnt attend wedding. I got mad at them. Talked to them and they both said... they knew it wouldnt last. She was...

Im trying to figure out what to do. Ive been in it for so long and havent really been able to talk this in depth with anyone albeit anon.. So i apologize for being stupid... Im just trying to navigate. Each persoective helps

Yes. It has tormented me. So .. even though it happend b4 we were married.... she is right... so long ago.... youd divorce her for that?

I agree 100%. It sux that i have this person sleeping next to me and she still lies.... remember, she said she only has had sex with me and her college bf

Heres the thing im trying to come to terms with... this bar night she left was 16 years ago. Since she admitted to leaving with the guys (which is recent) she always has said..." we werent dating really, we just went out"...and "it was b4 marriage"

I know. I appreciate it. Really. Its the kids im concerned about. And the crazy hope shell be nice and love me back... and i can trust her. I know thats weak. But its the honest truth

I guess it solidifies what ive gone through. She has told me for years how nuts i am for thinking she did anything but go home with gfs... I guess.. it helps me get to where i need to be. It lets me know all the bs ive heard from her is ....bs. So. Thats why im talking about it. To help me...

Thats true. Thx

Ok. Thx.

Yeh. Ironically... a couple of years b4 leaving me at the bar... we went to her gfs wedding. Wed been dating a year... And that same group of frat guys was there. Including the ones she would everually date and leave me for... So i go in the bathroom and they start giggling a little.. i...

Thank you. Yes. It does help to talk it out. You realize how hard its been until you see it written down. Then you read it back and think... how did this guy let this happen. Unfortunately... im that guy. And it sux.

Yes. All true. I didnt know about leaving with the frat guys until years later after married and had kids. She started changing the story. I told her b4 we got engaged to tell me the truth about that night... and in a extremely believable way...she swore she just went home with gfs. Thats all...

Thx. Talking it out really helps. Ok. How do i do that....set up a private group

No. This is real...

I know. Didnt know what was happening when it was happening. I was young and naive. Swe were still hanging out even a week b4 xmas that year and she was thinking about going back to my parents with me for xmas. Flying her up. Now... i know she had no intention of doing it as she was dating a...

Yeh. Funny thing. Bout a year ago.... we went back to my college town with her.... Saw a band play. And after the band played... she told me she wanted me to **** her in the bathroom... ive never asked her to do that b4...

Dated 3 years. Then When we were on a break. Soft breakup...i also dated others. she dated a frat guy she knew from college for a month. Then the next frat guy asked the 1st guy if he could ask her out ( she told me)... so they dated til 6 weeks ...right b4 valentines day. He breaks up with...