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You are the voice of reason that my ego needs sometimes.

Well when you put it like that..

Thanks for the replies, I wanted to confirm my course of action and it seems pulling back a bit is the way to go.

It depends on the city/area you live. Where I am, I have found that it works best to match, exchange a few messages and then ask for number to arrange a date. Works almost always and if I get a "I want to get you know you first” or equivalent I don't bother. You can do some light texting once...

So I met this girl through OLD a couple of weeks ago. We went on 3 dates, had good chemistry in all of them, she was initiating texting half the time to set up dates too etc. I asked her to come back to mine last Wed but she wanted to get home (she is the type that needs to go to bed early, wake...

To tell her how I felt and be open about potentially being more serious with her. On the upside, I learned to never take dating advice from women again.

Cant say you’re wrong, I’m feeling the oneitis surfacing up again with this one. I am spinning plates and have options as we speak but now she just comes on top of all of them in my head. The mind works in mysterious ways

Hey fellas, bumping this to ask the DJs here for their 2c. For anyone that can't be bothered to read this I'll give a synopsis: Girl I went out with for a couple of months last year and called it off (I might have played it wrong cos I was really into her and might have come a bit too strong...

Thanks for the input hombres.

i think that makes sense. Escalation will be very difficult, if not impossible, if we are just sitting in a park and it’s not that I’m interested in knowing how her life is going anyway. An out of the blue direct text when things are better asking to go out is a solid approach.

that was right before lockdown and I’ve just been going to hers since. we can still go out, but I mean I can’t have a drinks date where I operate best, and asking her to come straight to mine will not get a positive answer after a year of not seeing each other.

unfortunately a proper date is not possible due to lockdown, a walk is the best thing possible.

Agreed, she definitely wants attention, no questioning about that. I’m just thinking if and how I can make the best for me out of this situation.

Hope everyone is managing to stay healthy - I'll try to keep this brief. I dated this girl for a couple of months last spring (OLD), before she became distant and suggested we stay friends. I had become a bit too invested, maybe even developed oneitis, and might have come a bit too strong so...

Just a note on day dates, as I think they are a bit misunderstood. I’ve had two day dates (tinder), both for coffee and some walking - built good connection and ended up in the bedroom on the second date in both. It was actually pretty obvious that it was gonna happen from the first date in...

Cheers guys

Alright here goes. I had a first date with this girl on Friday, which went really well and she invited me to a friend's party the following day. We ended up leaving the party very late and went back to hers. We were both pretty dead by then so didn't even make a move and we just went to sleep...

Unfortunately that’s what I think it’s gonna happen too. The main reason for my bump post was to get suggestions on how to turn this around now (if possible) and save the situation on this date (if she doesn’t flake). In my defence, the texting was not so heavy and was mostly initiated by her...

You’re right, maybe I gave off a needy vibe after some time, although I was never one to over text or ask her out all the time at all. Come to think of it, I was much cooler towards her before we slept together and didn’t care much. Whereas now, I think of her even if I’m with another girl.

I’m by no means a pornstar in bed - I’ve had plates that I’ve made *** from the first time and are blowing my phone afterwards and others that I’ve definitely not rocked their world. Majority are keen to return though. My other plates don’t need a lot of work atm - they’re the ones to usually...