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Thank you for your support, brother. Much appreciated. Recommended reading noted.

Good one :up:

Agreed. Very strong post - thought provoking stuff. Number 3 I'd never really thought of, but it's really good point.

When I was younger I was good looking; big and muscular; long thick wavy hair; and got loads of female attention. Nowadays I'm a lot slimmer and a lot older. I'm still a decent looking bloke but frankly I'm nearer 60 than 50. I've also lost a bit of confidence due to the marriage. A woman...

This is a difficult circle to square, because you're effectively at a woman's mercy once you introduce children into the equation, although you're even more vulnerable if you're married too. It's something of a conundrum.

I try not to be jaundiced but it's very difficult to recommend marriage nowadays. Obviously, my own experiences haven't been great but, when you weigh it up objectively, there are just too many downsides to marriage (for men). As Rich Cooper says, it's 'high risk, low gain' for most guys...

This is what a lot of women are like, especially when they're into you. They fuss about and ask lots of questions, it's all part of their 'charm'. I know what you mean though, it can get a bit tedious - especially if you're not that into them.

Meanwhile, a mini-update. Had a few positive interactions with women over the last couple of days. Nothing amazing but still nice after everything that's happened. 1. Work is very quiet at the moment but I'm sat at my desk and an attractive young woman, who I sort of recognise - I think she's...

Believe me, brother, you don't want to find yourself there. The dice are loaded against you.

I was watching Rich Cooper on Youtube and one of his videos dealt with red flags: jealousy; violence; lying; having daddy issues; being a drama queen, and so on. All of which makes sense. Another one Rich mentioned was having tattoos and piercings. Why is this a red flag? Instinctively, I know...

This is true. The confidence has taken a battering. Some of the words posted on this thread have most helpful though. So, thank you folks.

I'm loving the positive vibes, brother :up:

One thing I have come to learn is that I would much rather be in a criminal court than a civil court. With the former, the evidence has to be pretty strong for things to go against you and you appear in front of a jury of your peers. With the latter, it's just one persons decision and they...

I did try to fight it but my former wife is extremely malicious and manipulative, and made extreme allegations of violence and abuse against me, which she submitted to the family court. If I pressed on that would have resulted in a finding of fact hearing (effectively me being put on trial for...

I don't.

This is a good point. My game's not as good as it could or should be. Being a chad in my youth meant a lot of game wasn't really needed. Times have changed though, I'm older now and the big muscles have gone, although I'm in decent nick (but more slim Jim now). Still OK financially, although...

Thanks, Sparta. I hope things work out for you but all I can say is - be vigilant. I'm not sure I'm actively hunting for a woman. Or not yet. But there are a couple of things I'd say about any future relationship: First - and most importantly - I'd want somebody 'normal'. So, not bitter...

I shouldn't have.

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful post and for your encouraging words, Ma'am. I hope you are right about the children but my ex has taken them to live in another part of the country and the youngest is only 12 so it will be some time before they can decide they want to see me. I live in...

Initially things seemed great but, in hindsight, it was effectively love bombing. So, she suckered me in and I was slow to pick up on the red flags when they started to emerge. Things then turned really bad after our son was born.