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you feel disrespected, but you are more concerned about not appearing as “coming across as jealous or controlling...” What’s more important to you, “coming across as jealous or controlling”, or you feeling disrespected? Betas care more about what other people think of them then they do about...

Showing anger is not showing weakness...lettting your anger dictate your actions is what is weakness. Anger is a good motivator...when you are in the driver’s seat, and in control of your anger. With most hot heads however (think road rage), once the switch gets flipped, you run the risk of...

Haha, yup. Cold hearted...they are not all sugar and spice and everything nice... The thing is, in these kind of situations, she wouldn't just "leave him" all neat and clean... how it would play out is she would detach and start lining up future breeders on the side while finalizing details...

Like I said, not enough information provided to know what happened...the only information provided was that they were not able to get pregnant. Not being able to have kids is a major strain on a marriage... but if he was the reason why she could not have kids, game over. Biology always wins...

I hear what you're saying, but what I'm trying to say is there are deeper reasons why your friend is in the situation he is in...reasons that go beyond analyzing what she brought to the table financially, or what insurance measures he could have taken. As you seem to agree with your last post...

I think your friend needs to start thinking more with his penis and less with his head. His brainwashed head is what got him to where he is now.

it was only 3 years...the assets could not have appreciated that much...He does not have to contend with crippling alimony payments/child support. Legal fees are only an issue if he’s stupid enough to go to trial. Money is still somewhat cheap to borrow. Tell him to get a good lawyer and...

No kids and only married 3 years? He’s not going to get financially raped. He’s super lucky...divorce without kids is like a scrape on your knee. Divorce with kids is like getting your arm ripped off. Your friend is lucky as ****. He has a relatively pain-free opportunity to wake up and start...

I would consult a lawyer in your area. Where I am from, the law states that you and your spouse are "equal" on the day of divorce as you were on the day of marriage. So if you were both worth nothing on the day you were married (i.e. neither of you came into the marriage with assets) then it's a...

agreed

Been to the real world and back. Lost everything...my house, my business, 80% of my kid's lives, most of my so-called friends..reputation in tatters. BPD ex went thermonuclear and I barely survived. Used the experience to learn about myself. Built myself back up to the point where rejection is...

learned that the hard way...my ex-wife was a 9 to 10 with an inner confidence level of about 1 to 2. People who are generally good with themselves tend to gravitate towards each other. It sounds as if OP is unsure about who he is, and therefore needs to worry less about shirts/shoes/carb...

Haha, I just checked in after years of being away and I see my old post is still active. So I told her right away: 'I dig you baby but if you can't figure out how to make yourself happy, I'm out...' The issue never came up again and we've had a great relationship ever since. She knew I meant it...

I went through a similar situation with my LTR a few months ago...basically it was a giant **** test. The way to deal with it is firm, firm boundaries. I told her that if she wants to be with me, she needs to learn to figure out how to help herself, because I have my own **** to deal with. When...

Nobody is saying he can't leave...OP, just make sure that if you do leave, that you do it in a legally responsible manner. If you just walk out, you are potentially forfieting your equity share, and custody of your kids. Better to find a place to crash, or rent a room and try and work out a...

Custody of your kids, and your life savings are pretty compelling reasons not to leave. Don't leave your house until a lawyer tells you it's safe to do so.

I can only offer you advice based on what I went through, which is pretty much the same thing you are going through right now. You need to do the following 2 things: 1. Do not move out of your house until a lawyer has advised you that it is safe to do so. Moving out before you get clearance...

Great advice. You're spot on regarding your assumptions. She's shared those exact sentiments with me, ie, how it's sometimes hard for her seeing how patient and dedicated I am with my kids. I'm going to cut and past your post BE and refer to it in the months ahead. Thanks.

At the end of the day, it's all about respect. This woman respects me, and never has pulled a move to make me think otherwise. Bible-Belt you make a good point. I'm going to give this woman a chance to figure out her challenges and rise above them.

Yeah...this is a tough one. She has been nothing but respectful for two straight years. Now I'm not saying she was disrespectful, I'm just saying for the first time, she started trying to **** test me, and have the typical emotional meltdowns that most women seem to have...which I dealt with. I...