Recent content by Serenity

Alright, since you summoned me I will comment on it. My personal opinion which may not reflect the opinions of other moderators, is that the member in question is attacking views moreso than personally attacking other members on this forum. Very obviously this member and most members on this...

Then it's not a serious boundary, but this is not the situation you initially illustrated. You had this in your first post. If this is the case then she's serious, even if she played it off jokingly/playfully in public as that's just to save face.

If they get excited by anger they are broken, that's not healthy.

Accurate. In fact I had to throw out a decent chunk of theory I learned on here because it didn't align with my experience. Knowledge is useless anyways if not put into the context of experience. I don't use knowledge to gain experience, it doesn't work like that. I use knowledge to help me...

By default, if she's serious then I will respect that. If her boundaries are too restrictive or too numerous for my liking and it starts affecting my enjoyment of the relationship, then I have to consider ending it. If it suddenly arises far into the relationship standing out from the...

That's kinda true, but there's a bit more to it than that. It's the case for women with low self-esteem and a need for control. She feels the good guy is too good for her, so she'll basically sabotage herself. The good guy will be somewhat intimidating to her, she can't control him or the...

I have no respect for people who deceive me and I do not expect others to have any respect for me if I deceive them. I guess you're of a different mind on that. I suppose you're fine with people lying to you since you're so fine with lying to others, if not you'd be a hypocrite. It's really odd...

It's really cumbersome to discuss it when you assume such a black and white stance on it. Sure, everyone lies at least a little bit at some point, but there's certainly a difference between those who find excuses to lie such as yourself and those who try to stay as honest as possible. I'm not...

You should drop the condescending attitude and learn some respect. I'm well aware of neuroplasticity and how it works, but it's entirely besides the point which you just refuse to even begin to understand. You're either really dense or intentionally refusing to understand what I'm saying, make...

No, they are not being themselves. They may have gone most of their life not having dared to be themselves though. To be a pushover is inherently to suppress ones own desires in favor of others desires, they are literally suppressing themselves in favor of others, they are not being themselves...

Knowing each other better than anyone else. See, this is an impossibility, a contradiction. You can't truly be yourself and be a pushover because being a pushover is to do what others want at the expense of yourself, to go along with something you don't truly want to go along with. Luck is...

Let me start by stating something obvious, a relationship isn't always beneficial. It can be, but it can also be a net negative. Thinking relationships in general is a good thing is a mistake, one that seems very common. Plenty of people out there who have a need to be with someone, to the point...

No, because a major part of it is to learn how to feel good in life despite not always fulfilling desires. That means letting go and seems to be one of the things people in general struggle most to do, but it's absolutely necessary. It's not a matter of "if", just "when" and many people waste a...

I think as long as it isn't abnormally small or freakishly large the equipment doesn't matter nearly as much as how it's used. If your actions make her squirm in bed, she won't give a fvck about the dimensions of the thing giving her otherworldly pleasure.

Sure, all gone now.