what do you do when she says the magic words?

tennisfreak

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HEre's a hypothethical situation:
Supposed you've been going out with this chick for like a month, observing all the DJ rules. SO one day she says she 's
in love / really likes /head over heels about you.
Whats the DJ way to respond? Play it cool and don t respond particularly excited?
Or tell her you feel the same way since the FIRST day you met her?
 

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Don't tell her that you feel the same way unless you do. It is a mistake to say, "I love you too", just because it seems like the right thing to say. "I love you" is a very serious statement. I'd say something like "I don't want to say that I love you until I am absolutely sure I mean it. I think that my honesty will make you happier than saying words without meaning them right now".

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A while back, someone posted a similar question, refering to when a girl asks, "how come you never say you love me?" The person posting said his favorite response was from a movie and it defnitely fits the bill. Say "Because you know I do."

--I'd like to give credut where credit is due, who posted this originally?

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The last few relationships I've been in it seems like the girls are telling me this after only knowing them for a week.

I just keep my poker face on and let them wonder for awhile. Telling her your true feelings is a good way to chase her out the front door.
 

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Originally posted by BigBadJon:
The last few relationships I've been in it seems like the girls are telling me this after only knowing them for a week.

I just keep my poker face on and let them wonder for awhile. Telling her your true feelings is a good way to chase her out the front door.
Testing, testing...

Sounds like you're passing those tests with flying colors man.

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Definition Of Insanity: Doing what you've always done and expecting things to change.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I would just say "That's wonderful" and then kiss her.

If asked how I felt, I would say "Keep going with me and find out". She will be mad but will be DYING to find out!

Never tell a woman how you feel under two months. Now matter even if she says how SHE feels.

Most new relationships break up in eight weeks. You must see if she will be around after the second month.

Remember, you may want to dump her before eight weeks. You can't say 'I love you'. Then break up with her when you discover something you don't want.

Wait and be sure.

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Yep, made the mistake of telling her the same three words, even though there was doubt.

(Made all the other pre-DJ mistakes as well, but they are stories for other times!)

But I *do* think it's important that, if you DO love the lady, then you tell her. Just not very often. As always, less is more.
 

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Originally posted by Solitude:
Yep, made the mistake of telling her the same three words, even though there was doubt.

(Made all the other pre-DJ mistakes as well, but they are stories for other times!)

But I *do* think it's important that, if you DO love the lady, then you tell her. Just not very often. As always, less is more.

Say me too, or I love me too, or I do too.
 

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"And I love your Hair"

I know the post is 3 years old, but I had to say it.
 

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Originally posted by Solitude
Yep, made the mistake of telling her the same three words, even though there was doubt.

(Made all the other pre-DJ mistakes as well, but they are stories for other times!)

But I *do* think it's important that, if you DO love the lady, then you tell her. Just not very often. As always, less is more.
hey solitude, where in canberra are you from? i'm from tuggeranong.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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My response is generally 'I love me too.' You'll get hit for it ;)

If she pushes you bust on her for it.

Then one day if you decide you mean it and tell her you love her it'll have a HUGE effect.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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