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We had a little college reunion trip and hit up a bar. My buddy is posted at the far end of the table just quietly texting his GF and browsing Reddit not even trying to engage. Meanwhile my other friend, 6 foot 4 jacked and an aggressive cold approacher PUA guru, spots two girls and goes over to work his game.

While he is in the middle of seducing one of them the other girl notices my quiet friend in the corner. Out of nowhere they both just stop talking to my PUA friend and go straight to him instead. By the end of the night, he somehow ends up having a threesome by doing absolutely fvcking nothing. Dude has that awkward nerdy introverted gamer vibe, no game, does not work out, works a minimalist job, buttttt he looks like Ryan Gosling in the face. And to top it off he has never dealt with toxic women always ends his relationships on his terms doesn’t know a single thing about game and still gets max investment from women without even trying.

Meanwhile, you guys are over here putting in all this work and effort to only receive emotional abuse & bu ll from women. BTW, these women had a lot of guys blowing up their phones too. Furthermore, my cold approacher friend has one of the highest lay counts I know, so he is not a novice or anything. This is why you shouldn't be sweating over women because they do not give a flying fvck about the average man and will drop everything for facial genetics.

Last, I learned that you can pay to have women around you at a club lol.
 
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Okay, I too have witnessed this amusing phenomenon in pubs, where some dudes who put in zero effort get cold approached by women.

An example comes to mind: I'm at a work function on a weekend afternoon at a beachside pub, a popular place for singles to meet.

Most guys there obviously put in effort in dress, grooming, they look in reasonable shape.
They try to dance with some of the single girls in our group, but none are biting..

Then in walk four or five dudes, straight from the surf.
They wear scruffy tshirts, shorts, messy hair.. zero effort.
And they aren't Chad's or anything.. couple of them would be subfive in the face, though they're all athletic, and one is quite tall..
But other than that, I'd consider these guys to be the lowest common denominator in the joint.
So not quite the blackpill experience, but something like it.

Three of the girls in our group (two of whom have 'boyfriends' at home!) peel off and practically clamber over them..
These guys are pretty indifferent to this attention, their age is around 40, old enough that they likely already have gf's or wives.

I don't know how this ends, since none of those guys took the bait offered, but I know that those girls hadn't given up after I left..

No one mentioned the events of that night after.
I managed to talk with one, tangentially, she wouldn't look me in the eye, but from what I gathered, those scruffy carefree dudes are what she's used to.
 

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We had a little college reunion trip and hit up a bar. My buddy is posted at the far end of the table just quietly texting his GF and browsing Reddit not even trying to engage. Meanwhile my other friend, 6 foot 4 jacked and an aggressive cold approacher PUA guru, spots two girls and goes over to work his game.

While he is in the middle of seducing one of them the other girl notices my quiet friend in the corner. Out of nowhere they both just stop talking to my PUA friend and go straight to him instead. By the end of the night, he somehow ends up having a threesome by doing absolutely fvcking nothing. Dude has that awkward nerdy introverted gamer vibe, no game, does not work out, works a minimalist job, buttttt he looks like Ryan Gosling in the face. And to top it off he has never dealt with toxic women always ends his relationships on his terms doesn’t know a single thing about game and still gets max investment from women without even trying.

Meanwhile, you guys are over here putting in all this work and effort to only receive emotional abuse & bu ll from women. BTW, these women had a lot of guys blowing up their phones too. Furthermore, my cold approacher friend has one of the highest lay counts I know, so he is not a novice or anything. This is why you shouldn't be sweating over women because they do not give a flying fvck about the average man and will drop everything for facial genetics.

Last, I learned that you can pay to have women around you at a club lol.
The power of a good face is undeniable.
 

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Dude has that awkward nerdy introverted gamer vibe, no game, does not work out, works a minimalist job, buttttt he looks like Ryan Gosling in the face.

My super slayer friend/ex wingman who I wrote about many times in field reports and stuff ended up moving away so I don't really see him anymore, but man, going out bar hopping with him was a always a BRUTAL black pill experience

Just had a model face. Looked like a mixture between every handsome hollywood actor you can think of! (I always thought he looked abit Like Leo Dicaprio in 'the departed' but also a bit brad pitt and maybe henry cavill due to coloring?) - He wasn't even tall. He didn't work out (although I will admit he had a semi decent body just due to his odd genetics but he had never stepped foot inside a gym in his life).

But man, he'd wipe the floor with the guys with 'game' and get approached like 6 times per night by really hot girls who would throw themselves at him lol. Didn't need to do a damn thing haha. He could pull any time he wanted too, effectively.

When I was younger i'd go to the seddit/pua sub the morning after a night out with him and read things like 'girls aren't visual' and wanna rip the posters throat out lmao. When I very first started I used to read seddit and they'd always say stupid stuff. It actually reminds me of a field report I wrote on 'seddit' years and years ago when I was very new to 'game' after a night out with him. Basically, he spent all night playing on the fruit machines in a pub (not cold approaching as seddit advised), and girls were walking up to him and trying to bang him. The morons at seddit were trying to tell me it's because he was playing the fruit machine that all teh girls wanted him ahah. (needless to say I played the fruit machine the next week and didn't get the same joy! :))
 
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i give up everything for facial genetics
I can tell you something from my experience: there will be women who will literally chase you if your face is attractive to them.

I say this as someone who is not even 5'6", I have seen taller women stop what they were doing to come talk to me and flirt with me.

There will be those who are interested and those who are obsessed.
That's why in my case, and in your friend's, I think the best thing to do is Volume.
More volume and chances of seeing people, more chances of attracting other women.
 

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my other friend, 6 foot 4 jacked and an aggressive cold approacher PUA guru, spots two girls and goes over to work his game.

my cold approacher friend has one of the highest lay counts I know, so he is not a novice or anything.
Your 6'4", fit guy friend had one night where he didn't attract too well. That's not a big deal for him.

I learned that you can pay to have women around you at a club lol.
How?
 

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Meanwhile, you guys are over here putting in all this work and effort to only receive emotional abuse & bu ll from women
This is why I don’t push self improvement padt a certain base level.
 

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you guys are over here putting in all this work and effort to only receive emotional abuse & bu ll from women.
This is why I don’t push self improvement padt a certain base level.
The rejections and bad dates can be tough. I've dealt with both of those in approaching.

I have been disrespected, humiliated, and emotionally abused via approaching strangers. The treatment is unreal and inhumane. If I were a dog and I was treated as poorly as I have been in approaching, I would be in one of those ASPCA commercials.

I think I have gotten to the certain base level of self improvement. I'm not overweight, I'm not below average height, and I'm not balding.
 

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My super slayer friend/ex wingman who I wrote about many times in field reports and stuff ended up moving away so I don't really see him anymore, but man, going out bar hopping with him was a always a BRUTAL black pill experience
Yeah, no wonder I was an incel in college lol.

I can tell you something from my experience: there will be women who will literally chase you if your face is attractive to them.
A woman will determine your status within 5 minutes of interacting with you.
 

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Your 6'4", fit guy friend had one night where he didn't attract too well. That's not a big deal for him.
He gets rejected a lot, but he is tall, white, and has a baby face so he can pull every weekend if he put in the effort.

You talk to the promoters or manager, and they will bring hot women and put them around your table or vicinity to act like they are dancing and stuff.
 

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I have been disrespected, humiliated, and emotionally abused via approaching strangers.
Approaching women with no IOIs is risky business.
 

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Approaching women with no IOIs is risky business.
Meh I feel like IOIs are just an excuse not to approach. I've approached women without any IOIs and 2 minutes later they are telling me how hot I am and that they want me inside them. Conveniently, this girl with a bf gave me an IOI this morning, so that's how silly they can be.
 

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We had a little college reunion trip and hit up a bar. My buddy is posted at the far end of the table just quietly texting his GF and browsing Reddit not even trying to engage. Meanwhile my other friend, 6 foot 4 jacked and an aggressive cold approacher PUA guru, spots two girls and goes over to work his game.

While he is in the middle of seducing one of them the other girl notices my quiet friend in the corner. Out of nowhere they both just stop talking to my PUA friend and go straight to him instead. By the end of the night, he somehow ends up having a threesome by doing absolutely fvcking nothing. Dude has that awkward nerdy introverted gamer vibe, no game, does not work out, works a minimalist job, buttttt he looks like Ryan Gosling in the face. And to top it off he has never dealt with toxic women always ends his relationships on his terms doesn’t know a single thing about game and still gets max investment from women without even trying.

Meanwhile, you guys are over here putting in all this work and effort to only receive emotional abuse & bu ll from women. BTW, these women had a lot of guys blowing up their phones too. Furthermore, my cold approacher friend has one of the highest lay counts I know, so he is not a novice or anything. This is why you shouldn't be sweating over women because they do not give a flying fvck about the average man and will drop everything for facial genetics.

Last, I learned that you can pay to have women around you at a club lol.
Another of your usual black pill posts.

You don't get it, women just don't see individual features like men see, you are acting like a woman.

That nerdy friend who is sitting at the table texting, already has a woman who fvcks him constantly, he doesn't project scarcity, he doesn't have the need to approach girls like your Chad friend. He has outcome independent because he doesn't need puzzy, he already has it. He doesn't project thirst.

You think he doesn't have game, but the most important thing he has is outcome independent and a puzzy waiting for him already. He gives two $hits if he gets girls or not. Being handsome is good because its easier, but still you can't be a needy moron and expect to get girls. How many girls have rejected a handsome guy because he opened his mouth, like your Chad friend, for example.

When you don't give a fvck about getting women, you project something, the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you look or don't look at them, you are in your world and women are not in your radar. This is the hardest thing men will never get, because we are hardwire to seek sex. But OI is the better thing that will help any guy.

Your 6'4", fit guy friend had one night where he didn't attract too well. That's not a big deal for him.
Yes it is, its a ego wound very deep. Him with all the "attractiveness" and then this "nerdy" guy takes those women from him, that makes him very insecure, which is possible why he got rejected, cause he's projecting thirst.


This is why I don’t push self improvement padt a certain base level.
Self improvement without a vision its meaningless. Also, many men think all self improvement in physique, status and money, but they forget the most important part, the mindset.

Yeah, no wonder I was an incel in college lol.
You still are my friend. A guy with the mindset of an incel who's got a girlfriend. The perfect receipt for onitis and being puzzy whipped.
 

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My buddy is posted at the far end of the table just quietly texting his GF and browsing Reddit not even trying to engage.

While he is in the middle of seducing one of them the other girl notices my quiet friend in the corner. Out of nowhere they both just stop talking to my PUA friend and go straight to him instead. By the end of the night, he somehow ends up having a threesome by doing absolutely fvcking nothing. Dude has that awkward nerdy introverted gamer vibe, no game, does not work out, works a minimalist job, buttttt he looks like Ryan Gosling in the face. And to top it off he has never dealt with toxic women always ends his relationships on his terms doesn’t know a single thing about game and still gets max investment from women without even trying.
He must've been a dishwasher...
 

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When I was younger i'd go to the seddit/pua sub the morning after a night out with him and read things like 'girls aren't visual' and wanna rip the posters throat out lmao.
I don't think we can judge all girls by the actions of some half drunk bimbos in a bar or nightclub.

But man, he'd wipe the floor with the guys with 'game' and get approached like 6 times per night by really hot girls who would throw themselves at him lol. Didn't need to do a damn thing haha.
Proof of what I was saying above ... outside of bars/nightclubs and when no drugs/alcohol are involved, men don't get approached by women.
 

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They may do it indirectly, sending IOIs, not throw themselves at a guy just because he has a good looking face.
I’m not all that and a bag of chips. But I have had girls approach, in non-alcohol settings.

And I don’t mean IOI’s. But straight up: ‘Hi’. ‘How are you doing today’. ‘I like your pants’. ‘What are you reading’…
I’m not saying it’s common. But it does happen.
 

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