The most confident way to ask a woman out via text

[Dr_jitsu]

Been very sporadically talking to a chick I met about three months ago through a friend. Super hot, super nice, super great chemistry between us in person. Extremely difficult woman to feel out though overall as far as if she's really into me at all. It's been stressful gaming her the few times I've seen her in person. Finally about a month ago I got her number and texted her about something casually to feel her out. Unfortunately I was met with some flat responses, some of which even included misspellings which I found quite odd, though if nothing else, she did continue to text a few times to finish up the convo even when not asked anything. Still, I was somewhat turned off and decided she wasn't worth asking out. I texted her one more time a week later and again was given a flat/brief response, also with a misspelling. I ended up privately speaking to someone who knows her a bit though who told me she is a "very dry texter". I find that weird considering how normal and chatty she is in person, but I digress.

In conclusion I've decided though that I have nothing to lose and am going to ask her out anyway just to see what she says. I want to craft up a bit of a strong yet casual text offer, but I'm still brainstorming. Usually never think this hard about asking a chick out, and I know if she's really interested in a romantic way she'll go anyway, but I just feel like there's a little weirdness about this chick so I want to make her as comfortable as I can. Right now I have something that goes like this: "So what would you think about grabbing a drink next week? I know a fun spot. No worries if you can't"

Any thoughts or advice on the matter much appreciated..

No, no, and no! You met this woman 3 months ago. You should have gotten her number then since you had "great chemistry". Waiting 3 months only KILLS her interest in you. And you should have been spinning plates the whole time. You should be opening women daily, getting at least 1 or 2 (or 3) phone numbers every week. Instead you are hung up on this one gal and obsessing over what text you can send to "fix" the situation.

You can't fix it. You should have had that great chemistry conversation on day 1, gotten the number, and then 2-3 days later texted her. A few (not many) texts later you should have asked her out.

All of this should have happened in less than a weeks time.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Been very sporadically talking to a chick I met about three months ago through a friend. Super hot, super nice, super great chemistry between us in person. Extremely difficult woman to feel out though overall as far as if she's really into me at all. It's been stressful gaming her the few times I've seen her in person. Finally about a month ago I got her number and texted her about something casually to feel her out. Unfortunately I was met with some flat responses, some of which even included misspellings which I found quite odd, though if nothing else, she did continue to text a few times to finish up the convo even when not asked anything. Still, I was somewhat turned off and decided she wasn't worth asking out. I texted her one more time a week later and again was given a flat/brief response, also with a misspelling. I ended up privately speaking to someone who knows her a bit though who told me she is a "very dry texter". I find that weird considering how normal and chatty she is in person, but I digress.

In conclusion I've decided though that I have nothing to lose and am going to ask her out anyway just to see what she says. I want to craft up a bit of a strong yet casual text offer, but I'm still brainstorming. Usually never think this hard about asking a chick out, and I know if she's really interested in a romantic way she'll go anyway, but I just feel like there's a little weirdness about this chick so I want to make her as comfortable as I can. Right now I have something that goes like this: "So what would you think about grabbing a drink next week? I know a fun spot. No worries if you can't"

Any thoughts or advice on the matter much appreciated..

Stop using text for communication. In person is always preferred. Text is not sexy or attractive.

 

[Bokanovsky]

In conclusion I've decided though that I have nothing to lose and am going to ask her out anyway just to see what she says. I want to craft up a bit of a strong yet casual text offer, but I'm still brainstorming.

Classic example of analysis paralysis. All you need to say is "hey, what are you doing this weekend? Do you want to grab a drink?" If she's interested, she will say yes. If she isn't, she will come up with an excuse. It's not rocket science.

Usually never think this hard about asking a chick out, and I know if she's really interested in a romantic way she'll go anyway, but I just feel like there's a little weirdness about this chick so I want to make her as comfortable as I can. Right now I have something that goes like this: "So what would you think about grabbing a drink next week? I know a fun spot. No worries if you can't"

Why would you say that? Do you really think that she will be worried if she can't? I can assure you that she won't be.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Classic example of analysis paralysis. All you need to say is "hey, what are you doing this weekend? Do you want to grab a drink?" If she's interested, she will say yes. If she isn't, she will come up with an excuse. It's not rocket science.


Why would you say that? Do you really think that she will be worried if she can't? I can assure you that she won't be.

It's analysis paralysis bc the OP doesn't have very good game. In a case like this where the chick has lukewarm interest you want to value-add with the comms. Make the date pitch funny or interesting, throw a dhv in there if you can, while making the text casual and short. Easier said than done but that's the ideal.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Been very sporadically talking to a chick I met about three months ago through a friend. Super hot, super nice, super great chemistry between us in person. Extremely difficult woman to feel out though overall as far as if she's really into me at all. It's been stressful gaming her the few times I've seen her in person. Finally about a month ago I got her number and texted her about something casually to feel her out. Unfortunately I was met with some flat responses, some of which even included misspellings which I found quite odd, though if nothing else, she did continue to text a few times to finish up the convo even when not asked anything. Still, I was somewhat turned off and decided she wasn't worth asking out. I texted her one more time a week later and again was given a flat/brief response, also with a misspelling. I ended up privately speaking to someone who knows her a bit though who told me she is a "very dry texter". I find that weird considering how normal and chatty she is in person, but I digress.

Don't be too alarmed about the dry texting.

Believe it or not, even in today's age, some folks are better verbal communicators than texters.

Case point, a few weeks ago, a chick I met at the airport (she works there) showed interest in me and I gave her my number.

I went Mode One on her and she passed the test.

Long story short, she ain't a texter..hardly at all.

She is wayyy more social and outgoing in person and even over the phone, but she told me that texting just ain't her thang.

In fact, I have another homegirl that don't like texting because "people who like to text usually have something to hide" (her bullshiit logic, not mines).

I said all that to say, don't trip on the dry texting too much...it just simply ain't a preference for some folks.
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In conclusion I've decided though that I have nothing to lose and am going to ask her out anyway just to see what she says. I want to craft up a bit of a strong yet casual text offer, but I'm still brainstorming. Usually never think this hard about asking a chick out, and I know if she's really interested in a romantic way she'll go anyway, but I just feel like there's a little weirdness about this chick so I want to make her as comfortable as I can. Right now I have something that goes like this: "So what would you think about grabbing a drink next week? I know a fun spot. No worries if you can't"

Any thoughts or advice on the matter much appreciated..

I am direct guy, so I can only give direct advice.

First, determine what kind of relationship you want to have with her...and then ask (request) for her to join you in such a relationship.

This can be accomplished before any paid meet & greet dates.

Never take a woman out on a paid date until a woman accepts your "relationship" requests...or unless she is at the very least open to it.

 

[New_Journey]

First, determine what kind of relationship you want to have with her...and then ask (request) for her to join you in such a relationship.

This can be accomplished before any paid meet & greet dates.

Never take a woman out on a paid date until a woman accepts your "relationship" requests...or unless she is at the very least open to it.

"Hey I barely know you, I'm looking for a fvck buddy, do you accept?" Nice way to step on your d!ck. Not all women are as dirty as the ones you date dude. He can be direct but not desperate like you.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

"Hey I barely know you, I'm looking for a fvck buddy, do you accept?" Nice way to step on your d!ck.

Nice way to misrepresent what I'm saying, junior.

You're assuming that direct means "explicit", but it doesn't.

You can be direct without being explicit..so, instead of saying that bullshiit you said above (however, there is a time and place for that approach, just not in this case), the OP could say, if he is looking for a fuk buddy relationship with her..

"I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment, but I'd like to share your sexual (and/or) intimate companionship next weekend" (or whenever).

See the difference, junior?

No X-rated language is required to get the point across to her, that you wanna SMASH.

Not all women are as dirty as the ones you date dude.

Yeah, because the women you date are so holistically wholesome, and so innocent in their minds, bodies, and spirits.

Foh.

He can be direct but not desperate like you.

When go to a restaurant and order your food, you are direct about what you want to order right?

Are you vague and ambiguous about what you order? No.

Does that mean you are desperate (starving)? No.

So, have that same courage and confidence in your dating life.

Grow some balls, and be a man...for a change.

But this is all high level shiit that most men ain't ready for.

It takes a certain caliber of man to reach those levels of enlightenment.

Doesn't seem like the best fit for you.

 

[New_Journey]

"I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment, but I'd like to share your sexual (and/or) intimate companionship next weekend"

"Excuse me miss, I will be home next weekend, but would you care to share your vaggine with me and have companionship"

Hahaha this forum never fails to humor me. Are you from India?, cause that line is pathetic, in my humble opinion.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's probably got a guy already, but you would have known that a long time ago if you hadn't been so averse to being direct. You should have just sent her that text (link to spam bullsh1t) asking her out as soon as you got her number.

Great, now we get spam links embedded in our posts, as if I was the one who put it there. This web site sinks a little lower every day.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

"Excuse me miss, I will be home next weekend, but would you care to share your vaggine with me and have companionship"
Hahaha this forum never fails to humor me. Are you Indian?

So basically, what you're saying is..

"I'm not attractive enough for a woman to want to jump my bones shortly after she encounters me."

If you want to laugh at something, laugh at that.

 

[New_Journey]

So basically, what you're saying is..

"I'm not attractive enough for a woman to want to jump my bones shortly after she encounters me."

If you want to laugh at something, laugh at that.

Whatever helps you sleep at night, champ.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"Are you up for grabbing drinks sometime?" Or "Let's grab drinks Friday night".

Realistically it doesn't matter. She already knows if she is going to say yes or not. You trying to figure out the best way to ask her is meaningless.

It won't change the answer.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

She's 100% single. Thanks.

That is a steep leap of faith thing to say with such conviction until you really dig deep in her drawer. Keep one foot grounded in the basics.

Women who want to spend time with you will make themselves available to you. It's really that simple. Maybe this one needs some fine-tuning or maybe she doesn’t. Remember most chicks want to have escapades from the rat race matrix once in while too. Be that spontaneous son of a gun that will leave a mark.

Shoot her a picture of you enjoying a glass of wine somewhere with a cinematic view or even in your own home with a nice background. Just write “Come join me”. Pull a 360 from all the other men that ask her. Women tend to get off on you leading. Most likely she will put up the b!tch shield but you never know until you shoot your shot.

Nothing you do will ever game a girl for you as well or as much as her own imagination.

If you keep getting lazy forced txts with resistance just burn the lead to the ground and move on.