When disrespect ends a relationship

[jhonny9546]

Recently, I was approached by a friend who is about to marry her boyfriend after seven years together. This is the same woman who, just a year ago, expressed a strong interest in me and even made advances. She also had a child with her boyfriend, which complicates matters significantly. I chose to reject her advances ofc, leading her boyfriend to block me on social media, likely due to whatever she may have said about me.
Now, consider the implications for her boyfriend, who remains unaware of the full story. It raises questions about how many other men might have been involved with her, while she still in this relationship, now, a future marriage.
This situation exemplifies a CLEAR sing of disrespect. (Enter category2)


In relationships, women often exhibit "emotional responses" to situations that may seem trivial to men. Those are due to women being more emotional than men, but also to the volatility of their hormones.
Let's call this category one. These can include huffing, yelling, or becoming apathetic. Many of us have experienced this; the frequency of such outbursts can indicate the emotional stability of the person involved.

Now let's talk of behavioral issues, this is the second category, and could include: maintaining ambiguous friendships with other men, making excuses or denying obvious truths, subtly insulting or belittling you in public, showing signs of infidelity, disregarding appointments or schedules, things like failing to prepare meals without prior notice.

These behaviors are undoubtedly disrespectful and warrant no debate.
However, if you're dealing with issues from Category 1, do you consider them disrespectful as well?

 

[plumber]

It is for sure a respect issue; Category 1 is. In the distant past a woman was with me and went on a emotional rage. Short time later she found me and apologized. Never did it again. Objectively my SMV was double hers.

Women are capable of logic and will use it when they choose to. If they respect you they will try to figure it out. If not, no need for the effort.

Cat 1 and 2 will usually go together as both are rooted in same things.

 

[jhonny9546]

I would also like to add something like "timeskip".

It could be that she has been disrespectful and they are put up and put back in their place, and from that point they become respectful! A bit like the dog that always poops on the house landing, but then stops doing it after you put him back in his place.

However, it could happen again after a long time, for example 2 or 3 years. At that point, it is as if so much time has passed that he has forgotten the lesson you gave him.

What do you think of this? Is it considered disrespectful?
I see this to be the most common thing that could end relationships. It's like a "relapse" somehow

 

[jhonny9546]

This video too, talks about disrespect.
6:40 My mother, and all the women I've had, "loved" me with that "insecure" attitude she's describing, and I still haven't met a "secure" woman, not in mine relationships, not in those of my friends.
Are they born somewhere?
Our respect value most, but there may not be women out there for us.

 

[plumber]

I would also like to add something like "timeskip".

It could be that she has been disrespectful and they are put up and put back in their place, and from that point they become respectful! A bit like the dog that always poops on the house landing, but then stops doing it after you put him back in his place.

However, it could happen again after a long time, for example 2 or 3 years. At that point, it is as if so much time has passed that he has forgotten the lesson you gave him.

What do you think of this? Is it considered disrespectful?
I see this to be the most common thing that could end relationships. It's like a "relapse" somehow

is it disrespectful to occasionally challenge the leader? yes, it is. don't do that until your ready and willing to replace the leader.

It means respect is based on fear. much better to be based on admiration. when respect is based on admiration no relapse will occur unless you change and are no longer admirable. or someone else comes into view that is more admirable.

love the analogy with the dog, but its not exactly perfect analogy. try leaving the gate open when that dog is in heat. even the one that doesn't poop on the landing.