Approaching women on the street at night. What do you think?

[Oatmeal31]

Here's a question I have for you guys. How do you feel about approaching women at the street at night?
I live in Chicago, and at this time of year during the winter, it gets dark early. Most of the time I make it out to the city to do anything, it's usually 4pm or later. The sun usually sets and it gets dark at around 5pm, so if I choose to approach, it'll mostly be done at night.

Now, I've personally done it just a few times, but it's been a mixed bag. I'll either get a good reaction, or it's not so good (walking past ignoring, side eye then ignoring lmao).

Is it something you guys have done? I feel like I would get better reactions more often with the sun out. I just moved from Florida and I would rarely get bad reactions, but the sun was usually out, even later on. What's your experience/input?

 

[SW15]

How do you feel about approaching women at the street at night?
I live in Chicago, and at this time of year during the winter, it gets dark early. Most of the time I make it out to the city to do anything, it's usually 4pm or later. The sun usually sets and it gets dark at around 5pm, so if I choose to approach, it'll mostly be done at night.

Now, I've personally done it just a few times, but it's been a mixed bag. I'll either get a good reaction, or it's not so good (walking past ignoring, side eye then ignoring lmao).

This is a great question. I generally don't recommend it. It's more difficult to do. Your "mixed bag" experience is pretty consistent with what it is likely to be for most men.

If a man is to try this, then he should focus on doing it in a well lit area and somewhat earlier in the evening. People understand the idea of earlier sunsets in the winter months. The context of approaching at 6 PM in darkness (when for a portion of the year, it is light at 6 PM) as compared to approaching at 11 PM (a time typically after sunset in almost all places) is different.

In northern climates like Chicago, the bigger factor is the cold than the early evening darkness in the winter months. If you're doing street game in the early evening in a well lit area, it's still going to be struggle to stop someone for a 5 minute chat to assess compatibility for an indoor drinks first date. You are fighting both the cold and the darkness.

In the colder months, you have non-bar approach options indoors where you would fight neither cold nor darkness. You could go to a gym, grocery store, mall, bookstore, or coffee shop in an evening and try approaches in any of those venues.

I feel like I would get better reactions more often with the sun out. I just moved from Florida and I would rarely get bad reactions, but the sun was usually out, even later on. What's your experience/input?

In general, you're going to want to try this during daylight hours. In Chicago, during the day in the winter, you are still fighting the cold.

Chicago is one of the few USA cities where pure street game is realistic. Most of the US cities that had most of their development after 1900 are less oriented towards pure street game because of a lack of foot traffic. The older US cities up north that are based around walking and public transportation are the ones where street game is an option. Miami is one of the few US cities in the Sun Belt where street game is an option in a few select neighborhoods like Brickell and South Beach.

I'm in Dallas, a weak city for pure street game. The streets in Dallas that get the most foot traffic are in sketchy areas near Downtown.

The best outdoor approach option in Dallas is a designated walking path slightly north of Downtown Dallas.

Dallas has a more favorable climate for outdoor game than Chicago. I won't daygame outdoors on colder days in Dallas (usually under 55 degrees or so). Dallas has enough temperate days/times that I don't need to do that. I try to daygame outdoors in comfortable temperatures under daylight when I need to do that.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Here's a question I have for you guys. How do you feel about approaching women at the street at night?
I live in Chicago, and at this time of year during the winter, it gets dark early. Most of the time I make it out to the city to do anything, it's usually 4pm or later. The sun usually sets and it gets dark at around 5pm, so if I choose to approach, it'll mostly be done at night.

Now, I've personally done it just a few times, but it's been a mixed bag. I'll either get a good reaction, or it's not so good (walking past ignoring, side eye then ignoring lmao).

Is it something you guys have done? I feel like I would get better reactions more often with the sun out. I just moved from Florida and I would rarely get bad reactions, but the sun was usually out, even later on. What's your experience/input?

Time of day is of lesser importance than location... Gals in Washington Park are going to be understandably wary of men walking up to them after dark, while chicks hanging out in front of Cuvée will likely be pretty receptive

 

[crowolf]

Just do it at more crowdy and open spaces, and it should be fine. You have to come off as non-threatening and safe. So for the first impression, have the right energy, smile, maintain eye contact and be relaxed. "Day game" at night is the best in my opinion. Both my "successes" from cold approach have came from this type of approaching.

 

[Gamisch]

Just do it at more crowdy and open spaces, and it should be fine. You have to come off as non-threatening and safe. So for the first impression, have the right energy, smile, maintain eye contact and be relaxed. "Day game" at night is the best in my opinion. Both my "successes" from cold approach have came from this type of approaching.

I agree. I'd add that it definitely works in your favor to have some good company with you.

At night women are most open to spontaneous conversations. When they are outside they either go to a place, change places, or leave to go home. All three scenarios provide a good opportunity to catch her in a state more open to approach.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Here's a question I have for you guys. How do you feel about approaching women at the street at night?

Night, day...matters a damn.

I live in Chicago, and at this time of year during the winter, it gets dark early. Most of the time I make it out to the city to do anything, it's usually 4pm or later. The sun usually sets and it gets dark at around 5pm, so if I choose to approach, it'll mostly be done at night.

It's either she is interested in you, or she ain't.

Don't matter what time of the day it is.

Now, I've personally done it just a few times, but it's been a mixed bag. I'll either get a good reaction, or it's not so good (walking past ignoring, side eye then ignoring lmao).

You can (and more than likely, will) get those same kind of reactions during the day.

Is it something you guys have done? I feel like I would get better reactions more often with the sun out. I just moved from Florida and I would rarely get bad reactions, but the sun was usually out, even later on. What's your experience/input?

If you got better reactions during the day, it wasn't because the sun was out.

Trust me.

 

[BPH]

Here's a question I have for you guys. How do you feel about approaching women at the street at night?
I live in Chicago, and at this time of year during the winter, it gets dark early. Most of the time I make it out to the city to do anything, it's usually 4pm or later. The sun usually sets and it gets dark at around 5pm, so if I choose to approach, it'll mostly be done at night.

Now, I've personally done it just a few times, but it's been a mixed bag. I'll either get a good reaction, or it's not so good (walking past ignoring, side eye then ignoring lmao).

Is it something you guys have done? I feel like I would get better reactions more often with the sun out. I just moved from Florida and I would rarely get bad reactions, but the sun was usually out, even later on. What's your experience/input?

As somebody who loves cold approaching, I wouldn't go about it this way.

You are approaching women, by yourself, at night, in 20-30 degree weather, in the 5th highest crime city in America...

It's cold and dark out and you're a strange man approaching these women. Not only would I not do it this way for the sake of results, I wouldn't do it this way for the sake of safety. Go to a bar, a club, somewhere that people collectively go to hang out. That's where I'd do my approaching.

As to your question about the sun and weather, people are generally in better moods when it's warm and light out. Some people are so affected by this change that there's a term for it - seasonal depression.