Dating late 30's and early 40's ?

[Borknagar]

Very few 45 year old men would.

Pretty much. Any worth a damn are also taken. Good thing I got a PS5 and Guitars to keep me occupied lol.

 

[New_Journey]

Pretty much. Any worth a damn are also taken. Good thing I got a PS5 and Guitars to keep me occupied lol.

Have you done any self assessment why you're not getting puzzy? I mean, don't tell me it can't be cause women are alla bad and you're the special one here, right? You're the common denominator.

Are you fit? Socially calibrated? Got some game? You could date women from 18-55. Look at that range.

 

[Borknagar]

Have you done any self assessment why you're not getting puzzy? I mean, don't tell me it can't be cause women are alla bad and you're the special one here, right? You're the common denominator.

Are you fit? Socially calibrated? Got some game? You could date women from 18-55. Look at that range.

I'm fine there and meet the false stereotype(6 feet tall, etc). Socially calibrated? Sure I can talk to people, start conversation etc. Online is a complete waste as literally no woman is serious on there. I rarely see a woman in public I would like to approach, etc etc. Just no legit options. It's part that I know it's a waste of time since it won't lead anywhere plus, who? There's hardly any out there.

 

[Solomon]

I'm fine there and meet the false stereotype(6 feet tall, etc). Socially calibrated? Sure I can talk to people, start conversation etc. Online is a complete waste as literally no woman is serious on there. I rarely see a woman in public I would like to approach, etc etc. Just no legit options. It's part that I know it's a waste of time since it won't lead anywhere plus, who? There's hardly any out there.

I think Bork your issue is the town that you live in, you went from the most populated city in the state to basically a rural town. The options are going to be dogshyt. I do think in your situation traveling and venturing out is justified.

But I totally agree with @New_Journey even a dogshyt rural town you're better of dating younger woman, they tend to be a far superior option and not as damaged as women in our age group.

Self-assessment and brutal introspection is also key. If you're not meeting the type of women you want sometimes you gotta look inward to see what type of women you attract or how you putting yourself out there. If you only meet women on swipe apps. It's like trying to hunt deer in a swamp of mice, crocodiles and snakes

 

[SW15]

a rural town. The options are going to be dogshyt.

Rural towns always have dog shiit level options for 25+ men who need to date outside a social circle. Rural towns might work for high school or small college campus game but that's about it.

I've thought that a 25+ man needs an area population of at least 200,000 to date effectively. I think as a man's age goes up and his target market's age goes up, he needs even more of a population.

For instance, Amarillo, Texas has slightly over 200,000 people living there. That's around the bare minimum. I think it would be possible to date in Amarillo if the target market is 20 something women. However, if you're looking at women nearing or above 30 in Amarillo, there's a good chance that they are single moms. In Texas, if you want 30 something women who are childless, that means you're going to need to be in the big Texas cities Dallas, Houston, Austin, San Antonio, or Fort Worth. Guys in their late 30s/early 40s are often challenged in attracting and retaining women under 30.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I'm fine there and meet the false stereotype(6 feet tall, etc). Socially calibrated? Sure I can talk to people, start conversation etc. Online is a complete waste as literally no woman is serious on there. I rarely see a woman in public I would like to approach, etc etc. Just no legit options. It's part that I know it's a waste of time since it won't lead anywhere plus, who? There's hardly any out there.

If you’ve chosen to live in a less populated area, you may want to pursue groups or activities that people who share similar values of you, perhaps religious, hobbies, etc, that have a social bent

 

[New_Journey]

Self-assessment and brutal introspection is also key. If you're not meeting the type of women you want sometimes you gotta look inward to see what type of women you attract or how you putting yourself out there. If you only meet women on swipe apps. It's like trying to hunt deer in a swamp of mice, crocodiles and snakes

Pook wrote something very true. If you're not getting women, you need to increase your SMV or lower your standards.

 

[Solomon]

Pook wrote something very true. If you're not getting women, you need to increase your SMV or lower your standards.

Amen, but this the conundrum so many men are now complaining and whining about women's modern standards. Yes some of it is delusional (women wanting men to pay for everything but they are not feminine or traditional) and entitled no doubt about it, but there are still women out there that will follow your lead as a man, but they are not meeting men the truth is most men aren't the guys that they think they are and that's are hardpill for most men to swallow so it's easier to blame women and feminism instead of stepping your game up while they listen to Andrew Tate sipping on the kool-aide.

I got a 35-year-old acquaintance, he is a dork (plays video games all day and looks like a dork)he smokes weed all day, lives with his parents, works a ****ty part-time job and he's spinning 3-5 plates at any given moment. I'm not saying guys should be like him but what I'm saying is if he can do it why can't you? (you as in general not attacking you journey FYI. I know it's the internet so I gotta give context). Coming on this forum you would think that getting women is a quest to Mordor or some shyt.

 

[The Duke]

At 45 I know I wouldn't have a chance with an attractive woman under 30. Just doesn't seem realistic.

I'm proof it's possible. I'm almost 50. Last two girls I met in bars. One was 25, the other 29. I have a good attitude and I'm good one on one with women but that's about it. I'm prolly a 7, fit, under 6ft, bald head.

 

[Solomon]

I'm proof it's possible. I'm almost 50. Last two girls I met in bars. One was 25, the other 29. I have a good attitude and I'm good one on one with women but that's about it. I'm prolly a 7, fit, under 6ft, bald head.

Attitude is so underrated. How many guys have you met in their mid-40s or 50s that are just grumpy insufferable guys you don't wanna hang out with? I don't know any cause I don't hang out with them. Just like If I deal with a woman in her 40s if she is insufferable she doesn't get more than one date from me even if we bang. Hence I prefer younger women better attitude far less jaded.

 

[New_Journey]

I think Bork your issue is the town that you live in, you went from the most populated city in the state to basically a rural town. The options are going to be dogshyt. I do think in your situation traveling and venturing out is justified.

@Borknagar I lived in a very rural area myself in Puerto Rico, in those many years I made sure I was the best version of myself for the future me, because moving out was my mission.

The universe has given you years only for yourself, to turn yourself into a guy, when looking at yourself back, you are proud for your achievements. Women are not the goal, take them out of your mind, the goal must be focusing time on you first and then on women. Not spending all time on women and then on you.

I see you are 45, have you get your test levels checked in a man's clinic, if you're low, they'll put you in TRT for life. While been on there, they usually put your hormone levels optimal, like a 18-20 years old. If you spend 2 years hitting the gym hard, good diet and good workout program and working your a$$ off to get money, by 47 you'll be very proud you working on yourself before moving.

 

[New_Journey]

I'm proof it's possible. I'm almost 50. Last two girls I met in bars. One was 25, the other 29. I have a good attitude and I'm good one on one with women but that's about it. I'm prolly a 7, fit, under 6ft, bald head.

I follow an author Rian Stone who writes books and in one of his books he said "....women always overrate themselves while men try to underrate themselves"

Now a question for you, do you wake up every day thinking about women and going out every time you can to get women, or you spend time on you, on your work, business, hobbies and some days of the week go for women?

 

[Borknagar]

I think Bork your issue is the town that you live in, you went from the most populated city in the state to basically a rural town. The options are going to be dogshyt. I do think in your situation traveling and venturing out is justified.

But I totally agree with @New_Journey even a dogshyt rural town you're better of dating younger woman, they tend to be a far superior option and not as damaged as women in our age group.

Self-assessment and brutal introspection is also key. If you're not meeting the type of women you want sometimes you gotta look inward to see what type of women you attract or how you putting yourself out there. If you only meet women on swipe apps. It's like trying to hunt deer in a swamp of mice, crocodiles and snakes

Actually I moved to Blaine so I'm back close to Mpls. I couldn't do small towns for a few reasons. This being one, and I like not running into people from work all the time. The swipe apps and all the women on them are useless. In fact I would probably ditch a women I met in person if she told me she had a Tinter or any other online dating. Pretty much a sure thing she's seeing a bunch of dudes.

As far as women I attract, most of the ones that do occasionally appear attracted are pretty attractive, but it's not all that real so I don't take it seriously. As far as putting myself out there, aside from just going by my day to day there really isn't any other way today. Online is even ****tier than it used to be, much ****tier. I didn't realize how great POF was back in the day compared to this ****. Now POF is the worst one as all the women have messaging disabled. Lame lol But really, the best thing for relationships between men and women is to shut all these dating sites down. It's made women much worse.

 

[Borknagar]

@Borknagar I lived in a very rural area myself in Puerto Rico, in those many years I made sure I was the best version of myself for the future me, because moving out was my mission.

The universe has given you years only for yourself, to turn yourself into a guy, when looking at yourself back, you are proud for your achievements. Women are not the goal, take them out of your mind, the goal must be focusing time on you first and then on women. Not spending all time on women and then on you.

I see you are 45, have you get your test levels checked in a man's clinic, if you're low, they'll put you in TRT for life. While been on there, they usually put your hormone levels optimal, like a 18-20 years old. If you spend 2 years hitting the gym hard, good diet and good workout program and working your a$$ off to get money, by 47 you'll be very proud you working on yourself before moving.

Oh yeah I don't think about them as much as I used to. Getting married than divorced kind of does that. As far as all that I don't need two years. I would like to drop maybe 20-30lb which I could do by maybe April, as for money, I'm currently at about 6 figures so I'm fine there but would like more to make up for the lack of a partner and be able to afford a bigger house for myself and pets.

As far as going to a clinic I'm not really interested. If my levels are low than so be it as I would be better off in the long run. Low levels would make me less interested in women so I can focus more on other things, and spend more time focusing on moving up, playing more guitar and video games lol. Less bs with all that. Hopefully it lowers more so I never think about it as long as there's no other effects.

As far as approaching, I stopped approaching women. I find it wasteful. I think it's best to let them do it.