Guy on internet gets shocked for being ghosted for the most obvious reasons

[Tilex]

I was shocked knowing this guy was completely shocked.
This is proof that some guys are totally clueless about the online dating market.
Guys have been getting ghosted or flaked on for much less than this. The market has been like this for decades.

This is what he wrote:

I have a similar story I was talking to a girl online one night and when I mentioned I was in a wheelchair she ghosted me.
No questions or anything like that just automatically ghosted

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/1ceqcyw/_/l1outk4

 

[Solomon]

A lot of men especially younger men are socially stunted. If they have bad social skills how do you think their social awareness fares with women? If you're a guy in your 30s/40s still fit, got your stuff together you shouldn't have an issue meeting women in their mid-20s. These women are so frustrated meeting men who can't hold a decent conversation that they are actually happy to deal with an older man who can hold a conversation

The bar is really low for Gen-Z dating, the amount of men that lack social awareness is at an all-time high. A guy who has charisma is fit, and has his stuff together will easily be cleaning up or should.

 

[SW15]

Men have gotten ghosted for a lot less than being in a wheelchair.

 

[BPH]

A lot of men especially younger men are socially stunted. If they have bad social skills how do you think their social awareness fares with women? If you're a guy in your 30s/40s still fit, got your stuff together you shouldn't have an issue meeting women in their mid-20s. These women are so frustrated meeting men who can't hold a decent conversation that they are actually happy to deal with an older man who can hold a conversation

The bar is really low for Gen-Z dating, the amount of men that lack social awareness is at an all-time high. A guy who has charisma is fit, and has his stuff together will easily be cleaning up or should.

Did you read the post?

He didn't get ghosted because he had no social skills, he got ghosted because his text messages went through green.

It is in fact a really stupid reason, but that's where we are now. On my dating profiles I don't list my politics, my religion, my astrology sign, barely anything other than my age, and the fact that I'm 6 feet tall.

EDIT: If you're referring to that specific comment about the wheelchair, I mean yeah...cmon man, you should expect that to be a dealbreaker for a lot of people.

 

[Solomon]

Did you read the post?

He didn't get ghosted because he had no social skills, he got ghosted because his text messages went through green.

It is in fact a really stupid reason, but that's where we are now. On my dating profiles I don't list my politics, my religion, my astrology sign, barely anything other than my age, and the fact that I'm 6 feet tall.

EDIT: If you're referring to that specific comment about the wheelchair, I mean yeah...cmon man, you should expect that to be a dealbreaker for a lot of people.

I read the post I was speaking in about the wheelchair guy and in general I don't disagree with you, spot on as always

 

[BadBoy89]

and the fact that I'm 6 feet tall.

That’s all women care about on dating profiles.

 

[BPH]

That’s all women care about on dating profiles.

Yep, which is why I make sure to list it. If you got it, let em know.

 

[SW15]

he got ghosted because his text messages went through green.

That's a problem for men with Android phones when trying to date.

If you're a man with an Android phone, there are a lot of iPhone owning women who won't go on a date with you. I don't know why this is a conversation in 2025 because this has been a trend for at least 10 years.

The opposite is rarely true. Women who own Android phones don't tend to refuse dates with men who own iPhones.

Bougie, good looking White women tend to own iPhones and are the ones who tend to refuse first dates with Android owning men.

The phone model a man owns matters in early stage seduction. Circa 2010, women who owned smartphones tended to look down on men who didn't own smartphones.

There have even been instances where an iPhone owning woman rejected an iPhone owning man because his iPhone was a couple of generations behind.

the fact that I'm 6 feet tall.

That’s all women care about on dating profiles.

Yep, which is why I make sure to list it. If you got it, let em know.

6'0"+ is one of the most important assets on the swipe apps. 6'0"+ matters more on the swipe apps than real life.

From 2010-present, White women seemed to be convinced that 6'0"+ is what matters most in life and men under 6'0" are trash.

I reached my 5'10" height in 2000. While 5'10" was never considered a great height, I noticed less bias about it from 2000-2009 then I have since 2010.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

This is proof that some guys are totally clueless about the online dating market.

By some guys, you mean the men on Reddit. Please remember Reddit contains the most clueless, spineless, pathetic concentration of men in the entire world.

 

[DJ Novice]

Ghosting is just part of online dating.

I’ve done it to women and they’ve done it to me.

It can happen at any stage in the OLD process, even if you think you’ve built some kind of connection or had some form of physical intimacy.

Don’t take it personally.

Just remember that most women are chatting to multiple guys at once and it’s often much easier to ghost than to come up with a lame excuse why they no longer wish to continue talking to you.

Don’t waste much time wondering what you said or did wrong to get ghosted. The key message is that she is no longer interested.

If you have been ghosted are still keen I recommend initiating only one more follow up text in a few weeks or so but if there’s no response or a series of excuses then cut it off and move on. You need to keep your dignity and self respect and not pursue women who are clearly not interested in you.

 

[GoodMan32]

Ghosting is just part of online dating.

I’ve done it to women and they’ve done it to me.

It can happen at any stage in the OLD process, even if you think you’ve built some kind of connection or had some form of physical intimacy.

Don’t take it personally.

Just remember that most women are chatting to multiple guys at once and it’s often much easier to ghost than to come up with a lame excuse why they no longer wish to continue talking to you.

Don’t waste much time wondering what you said or did wrong to get ghosted. The key message is that she is no longer interested.

If you have been ghosted are still keen I recommend initiating only one more follow up text in a few weeks or so but if there’s no response or a series of excuses then cut it off and move on. You need to keep your dignity and self respect and not pursue women who are clearly not interested in you.

When hardly any woman is into you, it's frustrating to lose an opportunity with a woman you thought you were building a connection with.

 

[SW15]

Ghosting is just part of online dating.

Women even ghost and flake on dates set through real life approaching too.

Just remember that most women are chatting to multiple guys at once and it’s often much easier to ghost than to come up with a lame excuse why they no longer wish to continue talking to you.

Don’t waste much time wondering what you said or did wrong to get ghosted. The key message is that she is no longer interested.

That's female abundance.

Women can now even ghost their real life approaching men. The woman that a man approaches in real life is often getting hit up for dates on social media and swipe apps at the same time if she's actually single and receptive to a real life approach.

 

[GoodMan32]

Women even ghost and flake on dates set through real life approaching too.



That's female abundance.

Women can now even ghost their real life approaching men. The woman that a man approaches in real life is often getting hit up for dates on social media and swipe apps at the same time if she's actually single and receptive to a real life approach.

That's where going on the date immediately comes in handy. The woman doesn't have as much of a chance to ghost.

Like the last date I had. I approached her (albeit as a wingman for another guy...so I don't really count it as an approach); next thing I knew, we were going out to eat.

 

[SW15]

That's where going on the date immediately comes in handy.

There is a technique in daygaming called instantaneous dating. It's rarely feasible to do, but it can happen.

Most daygame approaches that result in a date will be setting up a date for 1-4 nights in the future. This is unfortunate because setting dates in the future does give the woman the opportunity to flake on a date that has been set up.

In night game (bars/nightclubs), it is less common to set a first date off of those approaches, especially later in the night. The goal in a later in the night bar approaches becomes same night sex. Same night sex reduces momentary flaking. However, after the same night sex happens, many women are not down to have sex a second time for a variety of reasons.

 

[GoodMan32]

There is a technique in daygaming called instantaneous dating. It's rarely feasible to do, but it can happen.

Most daygame approaches that result in a date will be setting up a date for 1-4 nights in the future. This is unfortunate because setting dates in the future does give the woman the opportunity to flake on a date that has been set up.

In night game (bars/nightclubs), it is less common to set a first date off of those approaches, especially later in the night. The goal in a later in the night bar approaches becomes same night sex. Same night sex reduces momentary flaking. However, after the same night sex happens, many women are not down to have sex a second time for a variety of reasons.

I'm not super into the idea of same night sex. Maybe it's because I'm getting older...but at this point, I want to get to know a woman at least a bit before having sex (when it comes to non-escort sex at least)

If I were, say, traveling, I might bend the rules (as I'd only be in the location for a limited amount of time)

The fact I, a socially inept autist, managed to get an instantaneous date I wasn't even looking for makes me think getting instantaneous dates might be easier to attain than you make it sound.

 

[SW15]

The fact I, a socially inept autist, managed to get an instantaneous date I wasn't even looking for makes me think getting instantaneous dates might be easier to attain than you make it sound.

I've gotten instantaneous dates too. It can happen. It's not something that happens in the majority of standard daygame approaches. Any regular daygamer will tell you that. It was even said in Roosh's "Day Bang".