The Power of Teasing

[holidayad_]

I want to read your perceptions and, if possible, reports where teasing has been effective (or not) for you.

I work with a girl (who has a boyfriend - to be on record) who sits next to me, and I've been teasing (nothing sexual ofc) her for a while. Although she's responding well, laughing, I don't want to appear to be a clown or overstep the line.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Why don't you learn from the master, young grasshopper:

 

[Ricky]

I am glad i learned of Craig Ferguson from here, he really is great.

 

[Agamemnon43]

Craig is the master of rizz and wicked charm, but this isn't a good example. These hot actresses come to his show while knowing what's gonna happen and they love it. I don't think it's scripted, but they know what they're gonna say and they enjoy it. I respect them for coming to his show allowing him to se*ualize them for the sake of humor though. His reputation precedes him and I'm sure these famous women see it as a bit of a challenge to come to the show. It's great.
But his laid back, teasing attitude is key and you can mimic it in very certain situations. I can't see other night show hosts being able to pull this off without pissing some of them off or coming off as a creep.

Imagine the show being active today lol, the outrage it would cause.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Imagine the show being active today lol, the outrage it would cause.

I doubt the outrage. First of all because it's the late late show showing late when the kiddies have gone to bed. And second because Craig is professionally flirtatious and entertaining, but everyone knows he's married and faithful.

Craig shows what is possible from a viewpoint of abundance where you can just play flirtatious.

 

[Agamemnon43]

Kiddies yeah, ugly feminists no. They would get offended because no ugly or overdressed woman ever came to that show lol.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Kiddies yeah, ugly feminists no. They would get offended because no ugly or overdressed woman ever came to that show lol.

Sour grapes wouldn't cancel a show that popular, you can only do that by shaming Craig and that's not possible as his behaviour is obviously harmless. He's flirting for the same reason I do it, to make someone feel good about themselves. You just have to keep your inner tomcat hidden until it's time for ravishing.

This is getting to be a dour thread, let's spice it up a little.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Anything taken to an extreme can negatively impact how you're perceived. The Yerkes-Dodson law suggests there's an optimal level of arousal for performance—being funny can help create a connection, but being too funny might make you seem unserious, while being overly serious can make you seem unapproachable.

You can read more about the subject here, and more people’s posts about being funny or serious.

To attract women: be fun or be serious?

I'm always confused about this. 1) One group of men say "Make her laugh, have fun, bring out the little girl in her and she'll be yours." 2) The other group of men say "Be serious, focused, no nonsense type of guy, and she will be yours." All things considered (dress, height, look, money)...

www.sosuave.net

 

[HaleyBaron]

Teasing is just a bandaid. What you want is just to be yourself and stop treating the woman anything special. Teasing, negging, etc, etc, you don't even have to do it. It's just a fundamental to put yourself first and the woman second or even third in interactions and daily life.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Teasing is just a bandaid. What you want is just to be yourself and stop treating the woman anything special. Teasing, negging, etc, etc, you don't even have to do it. It's just a fundamental to put yourself first and the woman second or even third in interactions and daily life.

Personally, I enjoy teasing so I do it for sh!t & giggles. Of course I don't have to do it. I also don't have to choke her or tie her up, but it's fun.

If you feel that any type of effort beyond dumping your load in or on her is enough and you don't want to play with her nipples, that's fine dude. Just expect her to starfish for you, because if you don't put it any effort, why would she?

Furthermore, if you think teasing is boring / a burden / a waste of time... why are you posting here?
Just to let us know we're wasting our time?
Noted, thanks.

 

[Juanto]

personally i like teasing alot, even if we are not just about to have sex or not even together, by texting. Its fun, and it sets up future scenarios in her head, which makes her even hornier.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

personally i like teasing alot, even if we are not just about to have sex or not even together, by texting. Its fun, and it sets up future scenarios in her head, which makes her even hornier.

Exactly. Teasing can create an intimacy beyond the superficial. Teasing becomes a lover's secret language. Teasing is a joy to do.

Teasing is just a bandaid.

With that attitude, it's obvious that you're not a natural tease and you have to put effort into doing something you don't enjoy. There are a lot of ways to enjoy intimacy. Teasing is only one way. I'm sure you can find another without spreading your negativity.

 

[Juanto]

Exactly. Teasing can create an intimacy beyond the superficial. Teasing becomes a lover's secret language. Teasing is a joy to do.

Completely agree on the "secret language", spot on

 

[HaleyBaron]

With that attitude, it's obvious that you're not a natural tease and you have to put effort into doing something you don't enjoy. There are a lot of ways to enjoy intimacy. Teasing is only one way. I'm sure you can find another without spreading your negativity.

You completely misread my post, which I'm not even surprised about. Your takes are always embarrassing.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

You completely misread my post, which I'm not even surprised about. Your takes are always embarrassing.

So, you don't think 'teasing is a bandaid'. Sorry for misreading. Maybe you meant the other meaning of 'bandaid'.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Teasing is a bandaid. You still are misreading.

 

[holidayad_]

Anything taken to an extreme can negatively impact how you're perceived. The Yerkes-Dodson law suggests there's an optimal level of arousal for performance—being funny can help create a connection, but being too funny might make you seem unserious, while being overly serious can make you seem unapproachable.

You can read more about the subject here, and more people’s posts about being funny or serious.

To attract women: be fun or be serious?

I'm always confused about this. 1) One group of men say "Make her laugh, have fun, bring out the little girl in her and she'll be yours." 2) The other group of men say "Be serious, focused, no nonsense type of guy, and she will be yours." All things considered (dress, height, look, money)...

www.sosuave.net

My perception, especially after reading the thread you recommended, is that when a girl wants you, it doesn't matter whether you're funny, playful, or serious.

But it's interesting to realize that when you start teasing, she gives in and feels more at ease with you. Naturally, an attraction is created.

For example, with this girl at work, I went a day without playing with her, and she asked if I was bothered by anything.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

But it's interesting to realize that when you start teasing, she gives in and feels more at ease with you. Naturally, an attraction is created.

Once you start teasing her, you create a secret world of intimacy between only you and her.