Facing aggressions/disrespect from ppl when you're with your gf

[pyros]

Hello,

I've been dating this girl for a couple of months, she's 32, I'm 39.
Some days ago, we were walking during the day, and then I saw these three gypsy girls: 50, 27, and 20 years old respectively. In my life I've been robbed several times when I was a kid by gypsies, so I try to avoid them like the plague.
The thing is that the 27 years old gypsy just hit my girl with her shoulder when we crossed ways, and when we turned to say something to them, this ***** spat on her. My first instinct was to get away from them, because they can become crazy if you do something to them, or they may even have a knife, so I just yelled something at them while we kept walking away. And that was it.

But after some days, I am wondering if I did the right thing? I mean, I wanted to avoid any trouble, but the thing is that my girl got hit on her shoulder and spat by that *****, and I did nothing besides yelling something back at them. How would you have dealt with this situation? should I have at least pushed this *****? kicked her? slapped her? I mean, the moment this scum get physical with you, I should defend myself and the ones I care about, but at what point? when they push me? when they kick me? you know what I mean? when they disrespect me eventhough they may not harm me physically?

Thank you.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

You could call the cops but that would be just a waste of time. Next time just don't come close to them. Any interaction with them would be waste of time.

 

[New_Journey]

Hello,

I've been dating this girl for a couple of months, she's 32, I'm 39.
Some days ago, we were walking during the day, and then I saw these three gypsy girls: 50, 27, and 20 years old respectively. In my life I've been robbed several times when I was a kid by gypsies, so I try to avoid them like the plague.
The thing is that the 27 years old gypsy just hit my girl with her shoulder when we crossed ways, and when we turned to say something to them, this ***** spat on her. My first instinct was to get away from them, because they can become crazy if you do something to them, or they may even have a knife, so I just yelled something at them while we kept walking away. And that was it.

But after some days, I am wondering if I did the right thing? I mean, I wanted to avoid any trouble, but the thing is that my girl got hit on her shoulder and spat by that *****, and I did nothing besides yelling something back at them. How would you have dealt with this situation? should I have at least pushed this *****? kicked her? slapped her? I mean, the moment this scum get physical with you, I should defend myself and the ones I care about, but at what point? when they push me? when they kick me? you know what I mean? when they disrespect me eventhough they may not harm me physically?

Thank you.

You gotta be very careful with that. Hospitals and Cemeteries are full of ego and there are people who have nothing to lose.

In that situation I would've called the cops for assault. The best thing is to avoid bad spots where your gut tells you they might be problems.

Fighting should be the last resort, I'll try to deescalate $hit whenever possible, even if you know you can beat up the guy, he might have a gun and fvcked you over.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think you did great. There’s nothing else that can be done. Any normal person would understand that. Protecting her and getting out as soon as possible was the right and only move. You can’t just attack people, especially women for spitting on you. It may have also been a ploy, and you may have avoided getting into the middle of the three of them where you’re lucky you or she weren’t robbed when not looking. Your bias towards these women overcame you after it, but be proud of yourself for not succumbing to it in the moment and keeping your cool. If she’s of any substance, she probably appreciated the maturity and protection you displayed for her.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

You stood your ground without looking submissive and risking unnecessary sh!t. what I would have done a little differently tho is grab my chick by the waist with a tight grip and pull her close to me or even put her in front of me and tell her to keep moving to avoid any body scraping by any of those nutty b!tches. An old dog notices bad intentions from a distance.
Pyros you an old wolf around here, I’m glad you still around.

 

[The Duke]

There are some women that appreciate it when you put yourself between them and a perceived threat. For instance, walk down a busy street with her and have her walk along the traffic, see if she doesn't move to your other side putting you next to the traffic.

Only thing I would do differently is move her away from the perceived threat as Gio mentioned.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Some days ago, we were walking during the day, and then I saw these three gypsy girls: 50, 27, and 20 years old respectively.

I think you're adding a lot of unnecessary and strange details to your story. I can see how you can estimate someone's age as 20-30-40-50, but how did you know the middle one was twenty-seven? That is rather specific for 'some gypsy girl'. Did you check her ID or did she tell you how old she was? Or is this whole story a fabrication of a hypothetical situation?

As to the situation, 'jostling' someone in a crowd is an aggressive provocation. If you allow yourself to be provoked by that, you play the jostler's game, so it's best to ignore the jostle and next time keep yourself between your gf and someone who might barrel into her.

How would you have dealt with this situation? should I have at least pushed this *****? kicked her? slapped her? I mean, the moment this scum get physical with you, I should defend myself and the ones I care about, but at what point? when they push me? when they kick me? you know what I mean? when they disrespect me eventhough they may not harm me physically?

I used to work in nightclubs as a bouncer and cooler. The moment you feel threatened by a physical touch you can start defending yourself, but you have to think about whether you're defending yourself or counter-attacking.

In the scenario you described, I would've walked on straight after being jostled. Non-responsive ignoring these type of provocations work best. Jostlers look for a response and any response can be used by them to escalate the situation, so no response is best.

Another thing is that in this case a woman jostled another woman in the presence of her man. You might want to be chivalrous, but in legal terms you will be seen as the aggressor if you (as a physically stronger man) physically (counter-)attack a gypsy girl.

As a bouncer I'm trained to subdue aggressive/drunk people with minimal harm, but since you're talking about kicking and slapping an aggressor (which often leads to jail time for assault with grievous bodily harm), I don't think you'll be able to subdue someone without harming them. And while many Americans like to think that an armed society is a polite society, physically attacking someone because they disrespect you is often something the courts frown upon.

 

[Murk]

Gypsies love to spit, they are disgusting thieves. My only advice is to hit the gym. You obviously aren’t imposing enough. I say this as a 6’2 220lb man this has and would never happen to me. If it did I would turn up the aggression and be prepared to escalate to violence.

This isn’t a tough guy post, I just have a very short fuse for public disrespect and I have been in many fights because of it before. I rather deal it it on the spot than mull it over for days weeks months or years after the fact. That’s imo more damaging for your well-being.

Since I was arrested and nearly jailed in 2010/2011 (my friend went to prison for 6 months) I stay away from fights but I have never backed down. It’s an aura you carry, you obviously come across as a victim if 3 women want to intimidate you. I don’t know your height, but you clearly need gym and boxing classes to give off a better presence when out in public.

I spent my teens in bed at night thinking of people that wronged me. I changed my mindset to never again and really my 20s and 30s have been the most peaceful. Imo escalating to violence is never off the cards and needs to always be an aura you carry, especially with your woman.

 

[GuitarSlayer]

I guess you are from Romania, the land of the gypsies in Europe. You are not intimidating enough.

I live there too but I am not a friendly looking person. Go to the gym, pack some weight and learn to fight. I've been going to the gym and boxing for 6 years now.

I've been into fights with gypsies and other people too when I was way younger, because that is how you used to settle things back in the day especially in Eastern Europe. Police is corrupt, weak and will laugh and bang your girlfriend if you call them. This ain't ****ing Western Europe or North America.

You live in a ****ing ****hole of a country so adjust to it or leave. It all boils down to how intimidating you look. No one would dare to do that to me and they even flinch their ****ing eyes on the ground if we make eye contact.

 

[Clockwerk50]

What are gypsies? Are they homeless people or are they the nomads who travel with circuses?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

What are gypsies? Are they homeless people or are they the nomads who travel with circuses?

Romani people - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Gamisch]

What are gypsies? Are they homeless people or are they the nomads who travel with circuses?

Google is a search machine where you can type ANY word and next it will give you tons of answers, for example Wikipedia, that's a site where phrases and such are explained in detail.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Google is a search machine where you can type ANY word and next it will give you tons of answers, for example Wikipedia, that's a site where phrases and such are explained in detail.

Why do people dislike them though? Is it because there are a large number of them in Europe, or is there another reason? The comment 'gypsies love to spit, they are disgusting thieves' gives the impression that they live under a bridge or something.

I have never interacted with them, but has heard that they are not widely accepted so I am genuinely curious.

 

[Gamisch]

Okay it were women..thaught it wass about men bothering you at first, so that's does makes it a tad more difficult while simultaneously makes it more easy...if this was a man..pfff. you mightve been either dead or in jail now as you would HAVE to stand your ground.But, BECAUSE it was a woman your hands were tied because yadiya you can't hit a woman ( if a woman, dog or man spits at me I WILL retaliate with violence, period!!).

As other people say: a man but ESPECIALLY a woman or child should literally fear for her life when she pulls this shyte to you. Gotta hit the gym and become a monster. Gotta learn how to box, submit and kick the living shyte out of another human being .

Lastly, you gotta learn to read the room as they say. Because most of the time when a weaker person acts like this back up is close by. Most men are super simps and they'll protect women like this without asking questions.

 

[Gamisch]

Why do people dislike them though? Is it because there are a large number of them in Europe, or is there another reason? The comment 'gypsies love to spit, they are disgusting thieves' gives the impression that they live under a bridge or something.

I have never interacted with them, but has heard that they are not widely accepted so I am genuinely curious.

Gypsies are originally travelers ( for the lack of a better word) although they oftentimes settle at a steady place while keeping their gypsy roots alive.

Spitting is extreme, but so is fighting, robbing, stealing ect. Mostly degenerates who have zero manners. Women like this will spark drama knowing they have a HUGE family to back them up and they will attack ,again, without asking questions or doing anything like investigating whose wrong or right.

These are people I'd avoid like the plague. No bizz with the men, no dates with the women.

For reference I just recently dated a woman who claimed to be some sort of a gypsy...needed to nut and she was coming on to me...big mistake.

These women are nuts.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Why do people dislike them though? Is it because there are a large number of them in Europe, or is there another reason? The comment 'gypsies love to spit, they are disgusting thieves' gives the impression that they live under a bridge or something.

I have never interacted with them, but has heard that they are not widely accepted so I am genuinely curious.

 

[Clockwerk50]

So they are like trailer park trash or hillbillies.

Thanks!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

So they are like trailer park trash or hillbillies.

Except less rooted in the community.

 

[Murk]

That’s Irish travellers they are similar to gypsies but not the same

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Pyros,
On my first visit to Paris,many years ago,I came up out of the Metro,a short plump little French Lady carrying a shopping bag,was walking in front of me,three little Children came up to her,dancing around her,waving their colouring in books for her to read,how charming I thought,then Wham!Kazaam this gentle little Lady was waving her heavy Shopping around her head,skittling them to the ground....I was amazed! then an Old French Gentleman somewhat amused,came up to me and explained...The colouring in books were a subterfuge,these were Gypsy urchins bound on robbery!