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The Art of Attraction Stories (Making Conversation Interesting Through Storytelling)
Most guys focus on looks ("I need to be 6'5 and look like a Chad!") or one-liners ("I need to know the perfect thing to say!") to impress women , but here’s the truth—those things only take you so far.
If you really want to build attraction and bridge that gap from initial physical attraction to the deep kind of soul connection, you need to master the art of conversation (and yes, this will also work for our ESL brothers).
Why? Because when women talk to you, they’re subconsciously asking:
1. Does this guy understand me?
2. Do I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with him?
3. Is he interesting enough for me to want to know more?
NOTE #1: This assumes you can approach with some regularity and are actually past the social hook point where there's enough initial attraction that she's willing to hear you out because you're above her "****able line."
NOTE #2: This assumes that you're more concentrated on running "solid" game and forming a solid connection in order to date her versus going for a one night stand where opening up too much to a girl can actually backfire
Good conversation builds attraction because it makes women feel seen, understood, and emotionally connected. And when women open up to you, it’s like a domino effect—they start investing more in the interaction.
But beyond sticking your approach (much like an Olympic gymnast sticks their landing), you're a blank slate to her. She doesn't know what kind of value that you have and what you have to offer.
As you move beyond the witty banter, quips and conversation, but before you both begin to open up your souls to each other, you have to get know one another beyond the superficial.
That's where the art of storytelling comes in. It bridges that gap between physical attraction and the deeper emotional connection.
So here’s how to start building better conversations today:
1. Practice Storytelling: Storytelling isn’t just about being entertaining; it’s about showing who you are beyond surface-level traits. Share stories that highlight your values, humor, or unique experiences.
Example: Instead of saying, “I like hiking,” share a story about a specific moment on a hike that left an impression on you, like getting lost and finding your way back. It makes you memorable and relatable.
2. Balance the Conversation: Think of conversations as a dance—there’s give and take. Start by asking open-ended questions (e.g., “If you could get on a private jet plane, where would you go to and why??”). Then, you answer your own question showcasing where you would fly to and why.
Tip: Avoid interrogating. If she says she says Cancun, don't follow up immediately with “Why Mexico?” instead share something about yourself or your opinion and then move to the next question.
It's about GIVE and TAKE. Not take-take-take-take-take by asking her question after question which is just energy and value leeching.
3. Lean Into Emotional Topics: While light-hearted banter is great for breaking the ice, deeper emotional topics build trust. This doesn’t mean oversharing—it’s about showing vulnerability in a way that invites her to do the same.
Example: “One of my proudest moments was when I [insert meaningful experience]. What about you?”
4. Use Your Body Language: A great conversation isn’t just about the words—it’s how you deliver them. Make eye contact, smile, and use gestures to emphasize key points. This shows confidence and makes you more engaging.
5. Be Curious (Genuinely): Women can sense when you’re truly interested versus when you’re just waiting for your turn to talk. Listen actively and ask follow-up questions (not back to back questions though, see my previous point) that show you care.
How Conversations Encourage Her to Open Up
When you’re a great conversationalist, women feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings. This is important because:
1. Trust builds emotional attraction: The more comfortable she feels with you, the more she’ll want to invest in the interaction.
2. Openness creates connection: By encouraging her to share, you’re showing that you value her perspective and experiences.
3. It sets you apart from others: Most guys talk about themselves too much or fail to ask meaningful questions. You’ll stand out just by being present and attentive.
TL;DR: Better conversations aren’t just about impressing women—they’re about making her feel heard and understood. This is what creates attraction that lasts.
Here’s the link to a video I made breaking down how to use storytelling to elevate your conversations and build deeper connections: [
What’s one area of conversation you’re working to improve?
Most guys focus on looks ("I need to be 6'5 and look like a Chad!") or one-liners ("I need to know the perfect thing to say!") to impress women , but here’s the truth—those things only take you so far.
If you really want to build attraction and bridge that gap from initial physical attraction to the deep kind of soul connection, you need to master the art of conversation (and yes, this will also work for our ESL brothers).
Why? Because when women talk to you, they’re subconsciously asking:
1. Does this guy understand me?
2. Do I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with him?
3. Is he interesting enough for me to want to know more?
NOTE #1: This assumes you can approach with some regularity and are actually past the social hook point where there's enough initial attraction that she's willing to hear you out because you're above her "****able line."
NOTE #2: This assumes that you're more concentrated on running "solid" game and forming a solid connection in order to date her versus going for a one night stand where opening up too much to a girl can actually backfire
Good conversation builds attraction because it makes women feel seen, understood, and emotionally connected. And when women open up to you, it’s like a domino effect—they start investing more in the interaction.
But beyond sticking your approach (much like an Olympic gymnast sticks their landing), you're a blank slate to her. She doesn't know what kind of value that you have and what you have to offer.
As you move beyond the witty banter, quips and conversation, but before you both begin to open up your souls to each other, you have to get know one another beyond the superficial.
That's where the art of storytelling comes in. It bridges that gap between physical attraction and the deeper emotional connection.
So here’s how to start building better conversations today:
1. Practice Storytelling: Storytelling isn’t just about being entertaining; it’s about showing who you are beyond surface-level traits. Share stories that highlight your values, humor, or unique experiences.
Example: Instead of saying, “I like hiking,” share a story about a specific moment on a hike that left an impression on you, like getting lost and finding your way back. It makes you memorable and relatable.
2. Balance the Conversation: Think of conversations as a dance—there’s give and take. Start by asking open-ended questions (e.g., “If you could get on a private jet plane, where would you go to and why??”). Then, you answer your own question showcasing where you would fly to and why.
Tip: Avoid interrogating. If she says she says Cancun, don't follow up immediately with “Why Mexico?” instead share something about yourself or your opinion and then move to the next question.
It's about GIVE and TAKE. Not take-take-take-take-take by asking her question after question which is just energy and value leeching.
3. Lean Into Emotional Topics: While light-hearted banter is great for breaking the ice, deeper emotional topics build trust. This doesn’t mean oversharing—it’s about showing vulnerability in a way that invites her to do the same.
Example: “One of my proudest moments was when I [insert meaningful experience]. What about you?”
4. Use Your Body Language: A great conversation isn’t just about the words—it’s how you deliver them. Make eye contact, smile, and use gestures to emphasize key points. This shows confidence and makes you more engaging.
5. Be Curious (Genuinely): Women can sense when you’re truly interested versus when you’re just waiting for your turn to talk. Listen actively and ask follow-up questions (not back to back questions though, see my previous point) that show you care.
How Conversations Encourage Her to Open Up
When you’re a great conversationalist, women feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings. This is important because:
1. Trust builds emotional attraction: The more comfortable she feels with you, the more she’ll want to invest in the interaction.
2. Openness creates connection: By encouraging her to share, you’re showing that you value her perspective and experiences.
3. It sets you apart from others: Most guys talk about themselves too much or fail to ask meaningful questions. You’ll stand out just by being present and attentive.
TL;DR: Better conversations aren’t just about impressing women—they’re about making her feel heard and understood. This is what creates attraction that lasts.
Here’s the link to a video I made breaking down how to use storytelling to elevate your conversations and build deeper connections: [
What’s one area of conversation you’re working to improve?
