Glances joke

[jhonny9546]

We were at a table eating.

There were three couples of friends. At a certain point, another person who had recently joined our social circle arrived. He is married and has two children, but he came alone because his wife had a fever.

After dinner, when two couples and he left, my girlfriend and I found ourselves cleaning up, helped by one couple who stayed to finish the evening with us (I had hosted at my house). Something happened:

The couple started to babble, and both my girlfriend and I understood what they were saying.

In a few words, the guy was saying to his girlfriend, "Come on, why didn't you go for it?" and she replied, "Well, it doesn't take much, my good guy."

This was all to make it clear that they were talking about how his girlfriend was looking at this married guy who had come to the party alone. He pointed out that she could "try him", and she replied that yes, "it really doesn’t take much to get over you", meaning that this guy was better looking than his actual boyfriend. Then, he, started to list all the flaws he had noticed in this guy: "Well, you know, maybe he has a forehead that's a little too big, a nose that's too small," etc.

Is this considered a good joke to do with your LTR or how would you handle this?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Is this considered a good joke to do with your LTR or how would you handle this?

So, he behaves like a woman and you want to mimic him?

 

[sevbucmash]

If I go to Italy, all this stuff gonna happen to me. Nice! I want to go where they throw tomatos at me. I'll throw some back.

As far as handling all this, I'd get lost, else I'd be feeding the fishes. Italians.

 

[jhonny9546]

So, he behaves like a woman and you want to mimic him?

This is also what I've tought, but my fiance replied that this behaviour is attractive

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

This is also what I've tought, but my fiance replied that this behaviour is attractive

Sounds like you're about to wife up the wrong woman.

 

[jhonny9546]

Sounds like you're about to wife up the wrong woman.

This may be a cultural thing at this point (or just something easier, since a woman will say that something is attractive if another group of woman said that)

This is just an excerpt of a woman explaining how attractions works for her

"I can try. This may be subjective but it is based on 25 years dating and 3 marriages.

Physical attraction is when you find someone to be good looking. It can be mental as well, great conversations, lots in common, enjoy eachothers company in a platonic way.

Chemistry is when the person smells good. They taste good. Their touch drives you insane. Sex feels natural and comfortable. You can’t get enough of them. We could call it sexual compatibility I suppose.

Then you have emotional chemistry. You are comfortable expressing your feelings and the person understands you and vice versa. They may even be able to read you, and you don’t have to try hard to communicate your feelings. They just get you. This is common among friends.

In my experience you can have 0, 1 or all of these things.

Most Dead bedrooms (not all) from what I’ve seen and experienced personally, come from people who have everything but the chemistry, or the chemistry is one sided. One person may feel chemistry but the other does not. They are not willing to admit this because it’s hurtful. How do you tell someone you loathe their touch? Plus, everything else is great, there is friendship, the relationship runs smoothly, maybe even have the same parenting style for young children. Often times people suffer in confusion or maybe they try to open the marriage.

If you want to avoid that, make sure you look past the attraction and test the chemistry. You will know when you find it. It’s crazy, like love at first sight. Both people can’t live without eachother and will fight through whatever comes up to keep the relationship alive. Don’t settle for a friendship with someone who is attractive, it’s not worth it. In my experience you either have chemistry or you don’t. It’s hard to manufacture without compromising your truth."

So as She says, it's not only on what woman think it's attractive to them, but many other things.

For me, we have at least "Chemistry" and "emotional chemistry" because I'm pretty sure the 1st one "Physical attraction" will go away with time. (in any relationship)