Most men struggle to get followers on IG, either with their private or public profiles. It's far easier for women to get IG followers.
Most men don't have an IG profile that is going to generate the kind of following necessary to utilize IG well for finding dates and sexual partners.
I don't think it is as easy to get responses to DM's as you think that it is. A man who has 100 Followers on IG but is Following 400 accounts isn't going to get responses. His Followers-to-Following ratio is crap. Most men don't have enough quantity of Followers and they have a lousy Followers-to-Following ratio. Neither impresses women. Women are looking for men with substantial Follower counts (around 1,000+ is good) and men with more Followers than Following. A man with 100 Followers but Following only 60 accounts might be impressive enough with his ratio to warrant responses despite his low Follower count.
I agree this is a problem on both swipe apps and on IG.
This compounds the Followers-to-Following ratio problem and the quantity of Followers issues raised above.
Income averages get skewed by high income earners. The median (50% percentile) male tells us more. The median male of all ages is earning $63,804 per year. The median 18-24 male and 25-34 male is also likely below that median.
This is how much money Americans make on average and the factors that influence those earnings.
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The idea of a "numbers game" in mating pursuits is something that is partially but not fully true. A similar idea persists in the business realms of sales and marketing as well. Dating/mating has commonalities with sales and marketing in business (often areas where the term "numbers game" is used) but it's not fully analogous.
Men will need to do some amount of activity (numbers/volume of interactions) in order to achieve something. That's inescapable.
It's not solely about the quantity of interactions. Quantity of interactions won't mean much if the man's fundamentals are bad or he's choosing the worst places to meet women. It's possible to achieve this way, but the quantity of interactions is going to have to be much higher. When quantity of interactions is higher, there's a much higher probability of many bad interactions.
Doing good things reduces inefficiencies and the quantity of interactions/bad interactions.
A man with poor fundamentals (like an Eliot Rodger type whose vibe was creepy) would be unable to get anywhere near the quantity he would need in order to be successful. Without looks and/or money, the number of interactions will have to go way up. Personality is an attribute that can help but I think looks/money are more important for attraction.
I agree with this. The numbers that men need to generate in a lot of cases are immense.
Today’s article is written by my favorite daygame guy, Tom Torero. There is also a FREE audio component to this article, available for everyone. Tom will also be replying in the comments. Take it away, Tom!
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Based on this, a daygamer would need to approach 75 women to get 19 phone numbers, 4-5 dates, and 1 new sexual partner. That's using a strong systematic approach like the London Daygame Model. I think a lot of daygamers need to approach more than 75 women to find a new sexual partner. In a better case scenario, it would realistically take most men a while to do the 75 day approaches to find a new sexual partner. Additionally, in going through this, one would probably want that sexual partner to last for some amount of time based on the effort it takes to approach 75 women in non-bar venues.
Few men 'spam' daygame anymore. I've never seen a 'spam' daygamer in action in my city and I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA. I have done daygame approach sessions in some of the most notable daygame spots in my city. When I do daygame sessions, I am a little bit more selective with my approaches. In a 2 hour session outdoors on a popular walking path, I might only do 5 approaches.
I think that most daygamers will need to do over 100 approaches to get a sexual partner and it will take a lot of time to do that. I don't think most men can 'spam' daygame to shorten that time and I don't think there's a desire on the part of most men to 'spam' daygame.
Bars are supposed a bit better than this because bar attendees are supposed to be single people looking to meet new people. It doesn't always work out like this.
Swipe apps were supposed to solve for the bar problem above and provide an outlet for people in the market to meet and form couples. It hasn't worked out like that in reality and it's been less efficient than older school methods like bars, as Torero mentioned in that quote I have from him above. Here's a YouTube video about a middle of the bell curve guy who did 16,561 swipes on Tinder to get 3 dates that resulted in 0 sexual partners and 0 long term relationships.
Only men in bigger cities can do 16,561 swipes as well. Less populated areas don't have enough population to do that level of swiping.
