New Here - Need Advice - Girl I Dated Broke Up and Wants a Shoulder to Cry On

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Dudes. I landed here recently after reading the Rational Male. I'm only seeing the light for the first time. I'm a recovering 'nice guy'. Not proud of it, but who gives a crap because now I'm here. I'm learning.

A girl I was dating for a bit got into a LTR. She recently was dumped and came crawling back.

She's talking non-stop about her ex and how he hurt her. Old me would have been a shoulder to cry on. Would have grabbed coffee and let her talk about all her bs problems with this guy. How he made her feel 'unloveable'

She's hot. I'd love to keep her in my circle, no ltr of course.

How do you dudes handle this situation? Do I even bother talking to her? Another strategy?
 

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She's talking non-stop about her ex and how he hurt her. Old me would have been a shoulder to cry on. Would have grabbed coffee and let her talk about all her bs problems with this guy. How he made her feel 'unloveable'
You're still the old you. You're still the friend for a shoulder to cry on. You responded to her. You haven't changed yet. You were dating and she went to someone else. Toss her ass. Be too busy to meet.


Cause he still thinks he can be the one. He's still the nice guy.
 

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You're still the old you. You're still the friend for a shoulder to cry on. You responded to her. You haven't changed yet. You were dating and she went to someone else. Toss her ass. Be too busy to meet.




Cause he still thinks he can be the one. He's still the nice guy.
I didn't respond. I was on another date and got the messages. My first thought was to not respond at all. Sounds like that might be the right approach.
 

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Don't respond. Women learn through silence and non attention.
 

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A girl I was dating for a bit got into a LTR. She recently was dumped and came crawling back.
She's talking non-stop about her ex and how he hurt her.
Women are retards. She picks the wrong guy based on some irrational feeling, it blows up and then comes back to the “nice“ guy to get sympathy. Let her cry to her female friends, don’t turn into her emotional tampon. You’ll end up giving her the validation she is looking for. Then she’ll say something like, “you’re the best, I wish I could find a great guy like you.” :lol:
 

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“you’re the best, I wish I could find a great guy like you."

The death call of any guy into the friendzone.
 

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Did you have sex with this girl when you were dating her? If so, I would invite her to your place, assuming you have one. If not something super low investment from your part. If she talks about her ex at your house I would tell her straight up that you appreciate not talking about him or other men while you are with her.

If you didn’t sleep with her forget it, you are being used as an emotional tampon.
 
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Did you have sex with this girl when you were dating her? If so, I would invite her to your place, assuming you have one. If not something super low investment from your part. If she talks about her ex at your house I would tell her straight up that you appreciate not talking about him or other men while you are with her.

If you didn’t sleep with her forget it, you are being used as an emotional tampon.
We had a lot of sex. Otherwise I would not entertain it at all. Great idea.
 

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Don’t be a Kotex Kenny aka emotional tampon. She had her shot and blew it. Let another simp lay his jacket down over a puddle for her.

Burn your cape and move on.
 
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