anonymous12345
Senior Don Juan
This is periodically brought up, so I thought I’ll share my extensive experience from communities in latin dance, primarily from Norway and Sweden. I’d say that this is specific to Scandinavia, other cities can differ significantly, maybe even Stockholm.
Taking dance classes is a good way to build social competence, due to that these communities are socially intense. A lot of basics, becoming more comfortable with oneself, style, etc. Beginner classes have many young girls and is hence one possible venue.
However, what characterises these environments is that most people are in processes. The girls are there for the ultimate validation: being a dance princess. Hence it’s a hard environment to game, they’re there for their dreams, validation and later on they run the carousel of social status, reputation, gossip, etc.
Most men are rather harmless. Some are feminine (don’t survive at all, if you get my drift), since dancing is the “true gentleman’s activity” in archaic western values you find white knights, and nerds. But also good guys.
I have friends in these environments, but it’s a hard place for the average rake. One possibility is to be really good looking and a great dancer, meaning you pass for what the dance princessess are looking for, hence possible to have a girlfriend in this social circle. It’s hard to become that dance prince, I am definitely not, and also lack height.
There’s a lot of mothers or girls with boyfriends, that the “men” gladly supply with their evening entertainment or are friends with. I dance with some of these too though to a limited extent, after all dancing is a social nice thing.
In conclusion, despite that these dances reek sensuality and romance, my experience is that both sexes are too stuck up to engage, or use it as a place for leisure.
Taking dance classes is a good way to build social competence, due to that these communities are socially intense. A lot of basics, becoming more comfortable with oneself, style, etc. Beginner classes have many young girls and is hence one possible venue.
However, what characterises these environments is that most people are in processes. The girls are there for the ultimate validation: being a dance princess. Hence it’s a hard environment to game, they’re there for their dreams, validation and later on they run the carousel of social status, reputation, gossip, etc.
Most men are rather harmless. Some are feminine (don’t survive at all, if you get my drift), since dancing is the “true gentleman’s activity” in archaic western values you find white knights, and nerds. But also good guys.
I have friends in these environments, but it’s a hard place for the average rake. One possibility is to be really good looking and a great dancer, meaning you pass for what the dance princessess are looking for, hence possible to have a girlfriend in this social circle. It’s hard to become that dance prince, I am definitely not, and also lack height.
There’s a lot of mothers or girls with boyfriends, that the “men” gladly supply with their evening entertainment or are friends with. I dance with some of these too though to a limited extent, after all dancing is a social nice thing.
In conclusion, despite that these dances reek sensuality and romance, my experience is that both sexes are too stuck up to engage, or use it as a place for leisure.