why dont women like guys who accept who they are?

[PlatoPacks23]

Ie: If I *truly like a woman who has similar values, interests, ... a cool job, etc and I express that (TOO EARLY) it just doesn't work.


WHY is that? I just want to know the psychology behind it, bc otherwise I am having to lie and basically act like I'm not impressed by them at all on a daily basis

Example with guys or woman not into, it's cool and fine to act like this and become friends with them easy.

 

[BPH]

The phenomenon of wanting what you can't have.

 

[Chow Mein]

Your username reminds me of @Packers2010

 

[Clockwerk50]

Often, a person's eagerness to express their feelings stems from a false desire to please, believing it will flatter the other. However, this desire to please can irritate and offend, leading to annoyance and mistrust. A woman is more convinced of her being loved by what she guesses than by what she is told.

In many aspects of life, you should never create the impression that you are seeking something, as this will provoke a resistance that will never be lowered.

 

[RangerMIke]

A woman will accept what you are if what you are is what she wants. The problem happens when what she wants changes like the weather.

If a woman is trying to change you , then in reality she is settling for you. You might have most of what she wants but the longer you date the more the little things she doesn't like about you seems bigger.

At that point, every relationship is at some level a compromise bettween two people. It's okay to accommodate her wants and needs as long as she is doing the same for you.

The only time this is a problem is when one person is doing all the 'compromising', while the other sits back and believes their contribution is just their presence.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Ie: If I *truly like a woman who has similar values, interests, ... a cool job, etc and I express that (TOO EARLY) it just doesn't work.

It's not going to "work" or "not work" - if she's into you, she's into you, whether or not you express it, and how you express it doesn't matter and it won't change anything.

In general, it's not a good idea to do this though. You need to leave them guessing. You need them to prove they like you, and by doing this yourself you reveal your cards, kill the mystery, and then don't even give them the chance to show it themselves because now you're the one chasing her. Ultimately though, if she did, like you, she would reciprocate, but it's still better to avoid this. Women are the ones who should say "I like you" and "I love you" first.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You shouldn't be impressed with that, that's the issue.

Essentially she is wondering why you are impressed with things you shouldn't be and basically thinks you have no options because otherwise you would be more unwilling to go "all in" so quickly.

 

[Ricky]

Its hard to maintain frame
I have fallen hard for women (kept it quiet) and got signals back that they were way into me too

however eventually you may let it slip that your interest is too high in them

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

however eventually you may let it slip that your interest is too high in them

The fool doesn't learn from his mistakes.
The intelligent learns from his mistakes.
The wise learn from other people's mistakes.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Its hard to maintain frame
I have fallen hard for women (kept it quiet) and got signals back that they were way into me too

however eventually you may let it slip that your interest is too high in them

 

[BaronOfHair]

Your username reminds me of @Packers2010

I presume he was packing fudge by the megaton back in '10, and swiftly realized he was on the wrong website

 

[corrector]

Because you are not Chad.

Women rate 80% of lower than average with looks. Studies have shown that:

Single mother women even go for Chad tier guys even if they say they have been a convicted child molester felon right in their profile and is ready to meet them right away. I'm sure you've heard of that too. Can you take anything seriously in a world like that?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It takes away their power to be social enforcers.