I don't enjoy going on dates.

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Yesterday I went out with a girl again and had serious sex in the cafe toilet.

And I realized that if there are no feelings, I don't want sex. I met a girl last year. That girl was the reason I entered this site. And yesterday I realized that I'm still looking for that girl in everyone.
While I liked just chatting with her, I didn't even like having sex with the girls after her. In fact, I felt like she was filling a void inside me with ridiculous pleasures.
I don't think I'll ever have sex with someone again without feeling something emotional. Thank you everyone.

Alpha widower. Like a woman still pining for the first lover that made her squirt.

Kind of sad, that you peaked so early.

 

[nelysses]

Alpha widower. Like a woman still pining for the first lover that made her squirt.

Kind of sad, that you peaked so early.

I hope that isn't right man. Im still 21

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I hope that isn't right man. Im still 21

From here, it's all downhill without a snowboard

 

[nelysses]

From here, it's all downhill without a snowboard

Then let's try to enjoy downhill .D

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Then let's try to enjoy downhill .D

That's the spirit

 

[corrector]

yesterday man.
If I don't do it, I feel very needy. When I do, these situations happen.
But I won't. I want to enjoy something again.

What type of porn are you looking at? (Ie softcore or hardcore)

 

[Lean Baby Face]

That is very anticlimatic for what was supposed to be a thrilling experience.
It could also be that porn has rewired your brain. It fits a textbook profile that porn ruins the desire to be with real women. When was the last time you looked at porn and fapped?

I'm probably one of the few where I actually find porn boosting my desire to experiencing sex with a real woman. Especially if I'm viewing something featuring a woman with similar looks or body composition to the real woman I'm going after. I guess it's the feeling of viewing somewhat of a visual "preview" to what I'm desiring.

Just my thoughts though. I don't think porn is for everyone and it shouldn't have any use other than quick eye candy and post-nut clarity when sex isn't available.

 

[corrector]

I'm probably one of the few where I actually find porn boosting my desire to experiencing sex with a real woman. Especially if I'm viewing something featuring a woman with similar looks or body composition to the real woman I'm going after. I guess it's the feeling of viewing somewhat of a visual "preview" to what I'm desiring.

Just my thoughts though. I don't think porn is for everyone and it shouldn't have any use other than quick eye candy and post-nut clarity when sex isn't available.

I agree with what you are saying and feel the same way about it. Apart from religious considerations (ie bumping on a youtube video with a NDE about Christians who are fapping going to hell, etc....), I don't have a practical issue with it (I guess that's because there are enough brakes placed on it before it goes too far where it would hit a practical component). Like you said, it is good for post nut clarity, especially in my case.

It does tend to take the edge off and more relaxed around other women. Lets face it, you feel great after fapping and that filters out into better interactions out there. But then the opposite spiritual aspect might also be true...you are more in the similar wavelenght of godless or lukewarm Christian women and sync better with them rather than being the salt and light as a Christian by remaining pure....and therefore better interactions with those types of women. But a true godly woman might sniff out something is wrong if you fap-out.

 

[SW15]

Dating sucks for the average man. You aren't supposed to enjoy most of them.

I agree with this. Dating sucks for the average man. Also, a lot of above average men aren't enjoying their dating experiences.

Most early stage dates are unpleasant. Early stage dates tend to be unpleasant if they don't result in sex. It's also bad when one person feels something and the other person doesn't. This is usually the man who feels something (often due to scarcity of dating options) and the woman doesn't (mostly because of her abundance -- she has really high standards for her vibes/feels). The man will offer a second date and the woman will either ghost him or send a text saying "I had a good time but do not see this going anywhere". There are also dates where both sides end up not liking the other person.

I think it is easier to screen people through in-person methods rather than tech methods to avoid unpleasant early stage dates. Tech methods do tend to increase the number of dates people have, but also tend to increase the number of bad dates that people have.

Men are also the ones making more of the effort to arrange the first dates (and early stage dates in general), so I believe men feel it more acutely when these dates fail to materialize into something significant or desired.

stop watching porn

I agree with doing this. It's only one part of the solution and not the entire solution. Plenty of people who have stopped watching porn and stopped masturbating to porn still have unpleasant dating experiences.

 

[corrector]

Plenty of people who have stopped watching porn and stopped masturbating to porn still have unpleasant dating experiences.

Agreed.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Plenty of people who have stopped watching porn and stopped masturbating to porn still have unpleasant dating experiences.

Stopping with wanking will not suddenly give you superior social skills.

But if you can muster self-discipline to bring incessant wanking under control, you might have the discipline to work on other issues that prevent you from finding a lover.