Facebook "Are we dating the same guy" groups

[Glassguy]

Has anyone heard of these groups? They are private groups that cover certain areas across the country. Only women are allowed to join. I had no idea these groups existed until this weekend. Some of them have 20-65K members in each group, depending on the size of the area the group covers.

The way it works- a woman can post a pic of a guy either with their first name only or ANONYMOUSLY and other women can comment on the guy.

I recently had a female friend let me know that a pic of me was posted on the group that covers my area. There were several comments, all good, but one chick made a comment to my pic "Hard no". I know the chick that commented with this, as she is butt hurt that I cut her off a couple of years ago.

1.) Not sure how these groups can use people's pics without their permission.

2.) If your pic was on there, is bad publicity still good publicity?

3.) I think it would be good to start one for women lol. Women bytch about single guys talking to mulitple women, but they dont like that same pill when they have to swallow it. Maybe put some of these rachet women on blast.

Thoughts?

 

[Glassguy]

Publicly taken photos can be used without permission in private groups.


I don't care what's on the internet. People who frequent those websites are insecure. Let them gossip, do not partake.


Really, you want to lower your moral and ethical standards mimicking a bunch of insecure women? What is wrong with you?

Point #3 was how these insecure women would always destruct if the shoe was on the other foot.

Be careful with the "what's wrong with you" comments. Either play nice on my threads or stay off them.

And most men don't even know these groups exist. Which was the point of my post.

Agree with the not partaking comment in your post.

 

[Glassguy]

I'm genuinely curious why you want to follow the examples of insecure women online, making your own gossip FB pages.

I think you're being a mite sensitive, not just quoting me here but even sending me a PM telling me lay off the 'what's wrong with you'. Maybe you should take your own advice to heart and grow some thicker skin.

And what's with the 'be careful' warning? Since when are you the arbiter to what happens on 'your thread'. You only want posters to agree with you?

I have thick skin. I never said I wanted to follow the examples of insecure women online. Read much?
I welcome posters who have varying opinions. Just not people who just want to hijack posts and run their mouth. That would be you.

 

[Barrister]

I think generally speaking any press is good press when it comes to dating. Only way that isn't true would be if it was something along the lines of bad hygiene or not being able to get it up on a regular basis. But the "hard no" comment? Who cares. Honestly, I think most women are intrigued by the "he's a bad guy/he's a player" stories and want to know for themselves. It adds mystery and mystery is good.

 

[The Duke]

There are facebook groups to post women.

There used to be a site called the dirty.com that was very controversial. Men and women got posted, the majority were women being posted. This was the worst of the worst. Mostly really hot, insecure, crazy girls.

If you think there are defamation concerns, Have your lawyer send a cease and disist letter. There are several law firms that handle issues like this.

I had a friend that got posted on several of these sites by the same chic. Some of what the she said was true but most of it was not. It definitely was harmful to him. To settle the score(she was a cop) he posted her on several community pages on Facebook about them having sehx while she was on duty. Her colleagues saw it and it brought lots of unwanted attention her way. She quickly agreed to take it all down if he would.

 

[RangerMIke]

Women have been doing this for eons. Oh sure, the internet makes it easier. Used to be women washing clothes, around the well, quilting bees, then came the telephone. Before social media, they would send out a group text to friends asking, "Does anyone know John Doe?" then those friends would send a text to their friends, and in less than a day, it's almost certain someone you dated would end up in this text string, and everything you did with her, your new lady will know it.

You can't hide anything from women, especially today. Right after your date, they are all trying to dig sh1t up on you. But don't worry about women running you down, women know that some chicks are just butt hurt and will say bad things about you that might not be true. Where most men fvck up is that they try and lie about things. If she catches you in a lie you are done. Own your mistakes, and don't get defensive.

As far as men doing something like this... well @AmsterdamAssassin is correct, if something like that actually worked then it would already have been done. The truth is most men blunder blindly into dating and they don't even bother looking for red flags, until they are wrapped in the 'red flag' getting beaten over the head with the flag poll... they also know other men are competitive. I don't care how crazy a chick is, there are at least a dozen dumb @ss men that will ignore that and still go for it. The minute some dude posted a picture and name of a woman on one of these sites, she would get flooded with offers... "Here's one that is single, she looks pretty good.... what... this dude says she's nuts... well I'm different."

 

[Divorced w 3]

Has anyone heard of these groups? They are private groups that cover certain areas across the country. Only women are allowed to join. I had no idea these groups existed until this weekend. Some of them have 20-65K members in each group, depending on the size of the area the group covers.

The way it works- a woman can post a pic of a guy either with their first name only or ANONYMOUSLY and other women can comment on the guy.

I recently had a female friend let me know that a pic of me was posted on the group that covers my area. There were several comments, all good, but one chick made a comment to my pic "Hard no". I know the chick that commented with this, as she is butt hurt that I cut her off a couple of years ago.

1.) Not sure how these groups can use people's pics without their permission.

2.) If your pic was on there, is bad publicity still good publicity?

3.) I think it would be good to start one for women lol. Women bytch about single guys talking to mulitple women, but they dont like that same pill when they have to swallow it. Maybe put some of these rachet women on blast.

Thoughts?

These are 100% real, I saw a guy get absolutely blown up a few weeks ago. He’s probably going to have professional repercussions from it. It’s not that he broke the law he just looks like a total scumbag and works in education. The positive is that it’s all based on your social media or app presence. Keep that to a minimum and you will be okay.

 

[Gamisch]

Lets be real ; most men wont ever be mentioned in such a group. Congratulations OP, you are definitely within the top 25 percentile of men.

We all know, with how backwards women are that being in such a group MIGHT be beneficial to a man. But u do think you gotta be im the upper echelon of top tier dudes. If lets say two hb4,s publicly shame you, it might work against you.

Bur yeah, we should know by now that this is one of the many backwards ways how women make sure "the rich get richer" aka a player's reputation gets our there. Ideal to became infamous amongst women how want "nothing steady ". Free social proof.

Sounds similar to that new Tinder feature where they can share profiles of matches. None of them will EVER talk about Good guy Greg and publicly worship him..

 

[Divorced w 3]

That's the vulnerable part. Of course they know that linking 'scumbag' to someone working in education will have professional repercussions. Better to either not let anyone know what/where you work or make sure they cannot throw anything that sticks.

To be sure, these groups are almost entirely made of butt hurt women who spread their legs open before taking the time to read the fine print so to speak on whomever they were going out with, which is a complaint that is literally as old as time. But as anything these days, digital records are forever and now it’s the man’s job to be on his game about the potential repercussions of OLD as well. Also, and this needs to be fairly understood, some people are just bad actors who due to technology can exponentially increase the rate in which they harm people, and you can see why these women want to know what’s going on. But more likely than anything else it’s a bitching session on steroids. I am loosely connected to the original founder of this concept so I am pretty up on how this works. Just be smart out there guys.

 

[Glassguy]

I sent her threat to her boss and she was fired instantly.
She's probably still furious at me, but after getting her fired she wouldn't be dumb enough to try that again.

So its ok to get a chick fired for threatening legal problems for you (which was probably a bluff that she thought would work on you and backfired), but people are "thin skinned" for talking about something that does exist in the women community? Come on man.

He’s probably going to have professional repercussions from it. It’s not that he broke the law he just looks like a total scumbag and works in education.

Better to either not let anyone know what/where you work or make sure they cannot throw anything that sticks.

To these 2 posts ^^^^^ I essentially work for the goverment and have pretty deep security clearances. If I have to level up to the highest government clearance, you bet they can find anything if it exists. These clearances can range from 5-15k to be performed (each) and they require the diggers to dig. Its often at that level they find things that the employee didnt even know existed.

@AmsterdamAssassin we both know how CRAZY some butthurt chick that we ghosted after smashing can be. Imagine they get on a fb group like this where they can choose to post or comment anonymously.....and go on there and say that a guy is abusive.....or has a drug problem. Or has psychological issues. For a business owner, someone working in the public eye, someone like me who requires certain security clearance for my position.......it could be a real disaster.

All because some rachet hoes want to talk about dudes that get dates easily. Because lets face it, Billy Bob living in his moms basement that works at the car wash isnt showing up on those groups.

That was my point. @AmsterdamAssassin , apologies if I took your comment earlier the wrong way. But we all know these chicks would become a puddle of emotional disaster if the shoe was on the other foot. Especially stating the truth about how they dont take care of their kids, etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

Everybody thinks he can tame the crazies, but you have to be crazier than them to get them to fall in line...

Truth. If she is crazy... than she is comfortable with crazy... and anything other than crazy, just doesn't seem right.

I've lost count of how many crazy chicks I've known in my life... at some point they all have an "Ah Ha" moment and try to turn their lives around... they'll go out and get a real job, start pulling their sh1t together... but that never lasts, they just can not help what they are.

If a crazy chick ends up with a normal dude... well they can keep things going for a little while, but eventually that ends, and crazy chick is off again, leaving the guy because he is 'boring', or 'he just can't handle me.' The normal guy is just weird to her.. the normal guy puts too much pressure on her to be a decent human being you can be in a relationship with.

Oh he can handle you okay... but he doesn't like you coming home late drunk every other night.... And if he is a quality man, with self-respect, he won't put up with it and toss you out.

 

[Divorced w 3]

There must be a few lawyers on this forum, perhaps they can weigh in on some ideas around this?

 

[The Duke]

Law firm that handles these cases:

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This is the same as a woman reporting false r@pe accusations. It only takes one person to screenshot that stuff and post it online some where else an it will spread like wild fire. Look at what happens to these teachers who have OnlyFans accounts and then some parent spreads it and next thing the teacher gets fired.

If you own a business, or work with the general public you have a lot at risk.

Women are a d@mn mess these days, they are living the law of the jungle because men have allowed it. Stop ignoring this crap because you think its trivial and doesnt matter. It might not be now, but give it time and see what nonsense it turns into then you will wish we would have stood up and nipped it in the bud.

 

[Solomon]

I got a buddy who was recently posted in our area, the women said nothing but good things about him which isn't shocking cause he's a good dude

 

[RangerMIke]

I was pretty wild myself, so I could more than match their craziness.
But you get older and outgrow your 'wild oats'.

Ditto.... before I turned 20 I'd already been arrested 3 times. Then I got to college... toned it down but was still a bit on the wild side. Girls loved me, except for my grandfather and handful of close male friends.... everyone else fvcking hated me... it was nuts. I didn't straighten up completely until I went in the Army when ramifications became serious, and disciple was really needed. Everybody has to grow up or end up in a grave. I was so fvcking lucky that I didn't kill myself.

 

[Tilex]

Women have been gossiping like this on Craigslist since the beginning of the internet. This is not even remotely new.

People that play chess are already aware that you have to pay attention to tactics on both sides of the board.
There are guys that infiltrate these groups as women, just so they can boost their sexual reputation & status.

This social cheat method is at least 20 years old by now. I feel old as hell even talking about it.
It's for people that have a lot of time on their hands for playing both sides of the board if they want to boost their LMS online.

There's also a way to do this with Instagram, Facebook, or any new app as well, but it's a total waste of time.

 

[Solomon]

I got a buddy who was recently posted in our area, the women said nothing but good things about him which isn't shocking cause he's a good dude

Update have another buddy whose Ex-wife put him in one of the groups and is badmouthing him. My buddy's ex is batshyt crazy, he's not on facebook. But he found out when he matched with a random woman on Hinge who told him than unmatched him. These groups are usually filled with petty gossipers looking to slander men like my buddies ex-wife with false narratives. A lot of these women are low quality and also subpar in looks. Typically these women are serial "OLD" users

Women have been gossiping like this on Craigslist since the beginning of the internet. This is not even remotely new.

People that play chess are already aware that you have to pay attention to tactics on both sides of the board.
There are guys that infiltrate these groups as women, just so they can boost their sexual reputation & status.

Ha ha I could see that working "Date Dan he's a great guy with a big johnson to bad it didnt work out"
The thing with these groups though is mostly negative petty slander and doxxing, bitter unhinged women who have nothing better to do. Here there some guys who deserve to be on it? abusers, women beaters sure but if you went on a bad date do you deserve to be on it? no

 

[MatureDJ]

I found out my boyfriend had 3 other girlfriends. Then I became friends with the other women.

Samantha Tsang found out her boyfriend had three other girlfriends. Heartbroken, she reached out to them because no one else would understand how she felt.

www.yahoo.com

 

[MatureDJ]

"Here's one that is single, she looks pretty good.... what... this dude says she's nuts... well I'm different."

Many men have concluded that the only way to empty their nuts is to date a chick that is nuts.

 

[TheGambino]

Has anyone heard of these groups? They are private groups that cover certain areas across the country. Only women are allowed to join. I had no idea these groups existed until this weekend. Some of them have 20-65K members in each group, depending on the size of the area the group covers.

The way it works- a woman can post a pic of a guy either with their first name only or ANONYMOUSLY and other women can comment on the guy.

I recently had a female friend let me know that a pic of me was posted on the group that covers my area. There were several comments, all good, but one chick made a comment to my pic "Hard no". I know the chick that commented with this, as she is butt hurt that I cut her off a couple of years ago.

1.) Not sure how these groups can use people's pics without their permission.

2.) If your pic was on there, is bad publicity still good publicity?

3.) I think it would be good to start one for women lol. Women bytch about single guys talking to mulitple women, but they dont like that same pill when they have to swallow it. Maybe put some of these rachet women on blast.

Thoughts?

jup My buddy was on it with his car so hes better recotnizeable. girl he probably fvcked asked if a girl knows something about him or dating him currently.

I think its good, makes women wonder about You if your d1ck is so good