Which is your "real" personal value? (Social Comparison)

jhonny9546

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It is easy to fall into mental traps that distort our perception of value. For example, if an apple costs 1 euro in Italy and 100 in Switzerland, owning 10 apples in Italy makes us wealthy, while in Switzerland it makes us rich. This illustrates that comparing ourselves to people of higher value in our social circle can lead to errors in judgment, as we are not using a universal yardstick.

It is essential to consider value objectively rather than subjectively. This also explains phenomena such as the halo effect, where a person may appear to have high value in one social context but seem ordinary in others.
Reflecting on this, we realize that the people around us can seem insignificant if we do not consider the broader context. It is important to understand our true potential and the type of "product" we represent, as well as the kind of "customers" we want to attract.
Expectations vary depending on the context: in the countryside, it might be more advantageous to be a jack of all trades, while in the city, it might be preferable to be a high-level professional.

So true happiness lies in finding our place in the world and understanding how to increase our value in that context. This involves:

1. Finding our true place.
2. Understanding how to maximize our value in that place.
3. Maintaining and increasing our value.

Life is a process of continuous improvement and learning. It is crucial to avoid basing our development on unstable foundations, as this could hinder our progress. It is essential to reflect on how we have adapted to family and social expectations and whether these adaptations lead us toward happiness.
How did you find point 1 in your life?
 

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Don't compare yourself to anyone. That's how you end up unhappy no matter how much you have because it will never be enough since someone always has more.

Just focus on improving and becoming the best version of you that you can be. That should be enough and if it isn't then that person has mindset issues, IMO.
 

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It is essential to consider value objectively rather than subjectively.
Value is always subjective, never objective.

Value is always measured by what others are willing to do (or pay) to receive your value.

There is no such thing as one's "true place."

There is only your interactions with those around you and the value you receive from them in exchange for the value you provide to them.

One should always strive to increase the value you provide to others (increased social skills and confidence, etc.) to receive higher value in exchange from others.
 

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