The Instagram posting was a cry for attention. “Look at my struggle, give me sympathy…me me me”. The days before all this social media blush!t required you to create real relationships with people. Now she can get 100s of dopamine hits from social media.
When she made that Instagram post, it seemed to me like it was an attention seeking post. Your comments are correct about that.
She got her dopamine hits from that post. It was likely her most liked post of all time.
She was looking for a particular sucker and actually did you a favor by prescreening herself.
When she first got into an LTR with one of my acquaintances in the mid-2010s, I was disappointed that it wasn't me. As time went on, I eventually reached the same conclusion that you stated in the quote above.
4 men from my immediate social circle made plays to attract/seduce her, including me. Additionally, I'm sure she was getting plenty of outside attention in the mid-2010s. I know she was in a co-ed sports league for a few seasons where many men likely hit on her. She probably also had some guys in her DMs (Facebook and early Instagram). If she used a dating app/website around that time, she also would have had more attention. At a minimum, she had men from her social circles, men at bars, men from her co-ed sports leagues, and men from her DMs. She had abundance.
At her peak, she was in most men's cute range. I think most men would have rated her in between 5.8 - 6.7 on the 10 point scale.
She made my acquaintance wait multiple months for first time sex. Their initial coupling was blue pill. I think she would have been frustrated by my early attempts to escalate and she would have ended things with me via a text message after 1-2 dates had she liked my initial approach.
It would have ended up as a waste of time for both of us. It might also have caused some friction in our social spheres.
Her later fertility problems were not anticipated. She didn't wait too long to get pregnant. She was doing this in her early 30s.