Not worth it at all. I’ve thought about making a post here about the last 3 years of my life. I knew about BPD from this site 10 years ago and still missed plenty of red flags, I was an idiot. I thought my ex from 10 years ago was BPD, but I’d go back to her in a heartbeat after dealing with a true BPD/narcissist.
I ended having a kid with her. I don’t regret it but I wanted to be sure I was choosing the right woman to be the mother to my child and failed miserably. She has another child, a 10 year old son who she had in tears because we went to an amusement park and he didn’t want to go on big rides. Yes I agree teach him not to be a little btch but normal for a mother to have her son in tears over something like that threatening to take him back to the hotel? Nope. Not the mother I want for my daughter but too late now.
2 years with her and most of that time was miserable. Constantly picking fights with me. Trying to take her out to dinner but I drive the wrong truck. Want to spend some time with my buddy at a car meet? I’m gay, she legit accused me of that a hundred times. It’s all a game to her, doesn’t see at all the part she plays in fcking up her life and any guy that tries to actually be good to her. I could go on and on. Just know I look at the last 2 years as complete hell. Some guys here saying every guy should be with someone like this once in their life, if you want to risk being pushed to the edge constantly? Sure. I’m a very patient person, and she drove me insane no problem.