So whats going on here...

[TheGambino]

Never saw my neighbor girl for 1.5 years living here then a night she parks her car in front of my house while im parking.
We start talking and it actually clicks, we have a fun convo about life, fun and we part ways after 30 mins.

A week later, same time, same place same event. Then she asks me to hang out sometimes and I ask for her snapchat.
And she says she lives with her boyfriend... I was like okay idc in my mind because my girls also get taken away by other men.

She reaches out imediatley that night and we start texting. I ask her to come over a week later and she does. At my place we have fun, she drinks wine and we end up hooking up. I make her cvm several times so the cex was amazing.

Anyhow I text her next day to ask her how she is and she sends heart emojis. Another week later I ask her to come over again and she says okay thursday 7 but i only have 2 hours max because i got to go to work.

I say well thats a bit short and try to give her different time, and another day to chose from which she replies. ''both days don't really fit to be honest'' I reply with the take away. Well if your busy lets do it some other time which she replies okay.

I leave it at that and she sends me a snap with some sh*t we talked about when she was at my place and I use it as a new oppurtunity to ask her to come over tommorow.

She says ''hmmm maybe, Im going to see''.

I replie with. ''maybe? Im too busy for maybe appointments, if it doesnt fit your schedule its no problem, no worries!''

She says. ''No I dont mean it like that! I mean like I really checked if it can fit my schedule to move something else to another time to come and see you but I really can't tommorow...''

I replie ''ok i understand no worries, lets do it some other time!''

She opens the text and doesnt replie.

Well obv, I want to keep f8cking her but she has the bf. I don't need moral answers about whats right or wrong, I already decided that I do it and other guys take my rotation girls away all the time and I just swallow it and move on''.

Any ideas whats the best course of action here and also whats going on in her mind?

Also I showed loads of interest in her hobbies and art she makes and gave her some tips on branding it so I showed genuine interest in her desires so it wasn’t just cex. Just saying

 

[TheGambino]

She received enough attention and validation from you.

Next!

I guess…

 

[TheGambino]

No contact, focus on other women.

Yep


Wrong question.

Nobody here can read minds and women change their minds because of 'feelings', so unless you can manipulate her feelings, you'll always be wondering.

True. Obv she is living with her “boyfriend” isn’t working in my favor. And the rest i can only guess. I’ll go nc and see what happens. Her answer isn’t that bad. She’s keeping me on the Backburner.

 

[Canadian_Man]

Anyhow I text her next day to ask her how she is and she sends heart emojis. Another week later I ask her to come over again and she says okay thursday 7 but i only have 2 hours max because i got to go to work.

I say well thats a bit short and try to give her different time, and another day to chose from which she replies. ''both days don't really fit to be honest'' I reply with the take away. Well if your busy lets do it some other time which she replies okay.

Coach Corey Wayne's "takeaway"?

He would probably say something to the effect of: "you didn't understand how and when to use it, and applied it incorrectly".

In this case, you over-complicated the logistics with a woman, which can backfire.

She had already said 'yes', just not to how long you wanted it for.

 

[TheGambino]

Coach Corey Wayne's "takeaway"?

He would probably say something to the effect of: "you didn't understand how and when to use it, and applied it incorrectly".

In this case, you over-complicated the logistics with a woman, which can backfire. She had already said 'yes', just not to how long you wanted it for.

I already understand that… so yeah. It happened and I am where I am right now

 

[Canadian_Man]

Fair enough, wasn't clear from your OP whether you did or not.

 

[Solomon]

You're just the "SideDude" sounds like you like her catching feelings or like the ***** or all of the above
If she has a man you will always be the 2nd option meaning you're not a priority

 

[TheGambino]

You're just the "SideDude" sounds like you like her catching feelings or like the ***** or all of the above
If she has a man you will always be the 2nd option meaning you're not a priority

Oh no feelings my man def not. Just the ass was great

 

[The Duke]

@TheGambino I think you got too greedy. She has her schedule, your schedule, and her boyfriends schedule to work around. Take advantage of opportunity when it presents itself. Don't worry so much about playing these tit for tat, I am the prize, all about me power play games. This is a different ball game than getting a chic that is actually single.

 

[TheGambino]

@TheGambino I think you got too greedy. She has her schedule, your schedule, and her boyfriends schedule to work around. Take advantage of opportunity when it presents itself. Don't worry so much about playing these tit for tat, I am the prize, all about me power play games. This is a different ball game than getting a chic that is actually single.

Yeah I agree 100%. Can’t be pursuing her. I will back off and see what happens if I see her again. Which will def happen ofc

 

[RickPound]

If she’s living with the boyfriend her flakes and scheduling issues aren’t as much about low interest as it would be with a single woman. It’s because the logistics and timing have to work out perfectly for her to work around the bf. Besides the other potential issues, that’s why chicks with bfs are a pain.

all you can do is wait for the opportunity to present itself and not pay any attention when it isn’t.

 

[Glassguy]

She said she could come over but only had 2 hours. You DISMISSED her and acted like it wasn't long enough?????
You threw bf vibes. She already has a bf.....you acted weird and it all went downhill from there.
You threw away good pvssy. That's breaking my first rule. No wonder she ran and ran fast!

 

[Glassguy]

And your replies to her don't sound smooth. They sound butthurt. JMHO

 

[TheGambino]

And your replies to her don't sound smooth. They sound butthurt. JMHO

Hmmm any advice how to resolve/proceed here?

 

[TheGambino]

And your replies to her don't sound smooth. They sound butthurt. JMHO

Not buthurt at all I just don’t make maybe appointments with no one. I don’t got time for maybe. I made a statement and said it was cool

 

[Chow Mein]

Bull$hit story. Your persona doesn’t match the OP, sorry dude.

 

[TheGambino]

Bull$hit story. Your persona doesn’t match the OP, sorry dude.

Idiot

 

[Learning Curve]

@TheGambino I think you got too greedy. She has her schedule, your schedule, and her boyfriends schedule to work around. Take advantage of opportunity when it presents itself. Don't worry so much about playing these tit for tat, I am the prize, all about me power play games. This is a different ball game than getting a chic that is actually single.

Yeap This.

Women with boyfriends that want to cheat are more careful and they are usually undeceive if they want to do it, especially for a second time.

All you need is a gentle push and no need to have take-aways like that. A gentle message stating your schedule, and for her to get back to you that's all.

Guys take this take-aways to the extreme, and think that they apply to every situation. They don't. You have to adapt to every situation.

 

[TheGambino]

Yeap This.

Women with boyfriends that want to cheat are more careful and they are usually undeceive if they want to do it, especially for a second time.

All you need is a gentle push and no need to have take-aways like that. A gentle message stating your schedule, and for her to get back to you that's all.

Guys take this take-aways to the extreme, and think that they apply to every situation. They don't. You have to adapt to every situation.

That’s solid advice thank you sir

 

[TheGambino]

Hmm @Glassguy i agree. That text when I said I don’t do maybe confirmations for a meet up let’s leave it for another day made her probably a bit scared or some sh*t. She deleted me from her private Snapchat posts, but not from Snapchat. She doesn’t send snaps anymore of herself anymore and posts a picture of dinner with her guy with a heart. She lost some interest I guess. Fcked that I handled it this way and shouldn’t send the text about 2 hours is a bit short which made her doubt to visit.

Now my only play is to run into her and talk again. I know the answer here.

Ofc running more plates.