Autistic girl strategy

[Captain Rizz]

Anyone have good tips for this? Do autistic girls require a different sort of "game" than neurotypical ones?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Anyone have good tips for this? Do autistic girls require a different sort of "game" than neurotypical ones?

Extreme patience, a penchant for masochism, a complete lack of other options, and a lack of sanity to not realize you're better off pointlessly digging holes in the ground and filling them up all day.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

To be heard with spectrum people you need to be very decisive in what you say at all times. They lack social queue awareness so you have to be blatantly clear with them. But tread lightly because when they internalize stuff they really do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is going to end well. Might as well sign up for flogging yourself with a spiked flail.

OP, are you really this desperate?

 

[Captain Rizz]

This is going to end well. Might as well sign up for flogging yourself with a spiked flail.

OP, are you really this desperate?

Nope, I definitely do better than 95% of the guys on this forum. Take a chill pill

Autistic girls (and neurodivergent girls in general) are often very cute and sweet and often **** like demons.

 

[Captain Rizz]

To be heard with spectrum people you need to be very decisive in what you say at all times. They lack social queue awareness so you have to be blatantly clear with them. But tread lightly because when they internalize stuff they really do.

This seems accurate in my experience. They are very sensitive too.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

i assume she has had no issue getting boyfriends

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Captain,
I have an Autistic Son,I went to classes conducted by a Phsychiatrist to help me and other Parents with similar Kids,to better deal with their needs...Every Kid seemed different...My Bloke did very badly at School,he had a complete inability to convey his thoughts onto a Screen or piece of Paper,hence he was a disaster at Exams....He ended up a Diesal Mechanic and is considered quite brilliant,makes Shed Loads of Dollars...Someone mentioned Social Cues,here he has never learned to conform to Social norms and loses many Friends...There are worse things to be burdened with.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

To be heard with spectrum people you need to be very decisive in what you say at all times. They lack social queue awareness so you have to be blatantly clear with them. But tread lightly because when they internalize stuff they really do.

Autistic people in general are also extremely easy to gaslight, so be careful about manipulating them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Autistic people in general are also extremely easy to gaslight, so be careful about manipulating them.

Yeah most guys I know that look for women like that to date do so because they can control them.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I took a girl out that was let’s say, 26 years old a couple winters ago who informed me in the middle of the date that she was Asperger’s. It made sense the moment she said it as to why none of the subtleties, innuendo and usual sh1thead antics that typically work so well were hitting.

I was in mode one at that time so luckily I was making progress on that front. I took her back to my car after we had a burger and a drink and I tried putting the moves on her but the best I got was fingering her. She told me straight up that if I saw her again we would bang. The situation kind of messed with my head so I never followed up, but in the same light I drove her home into a neighborhood that was beyond sketch, and made sure she got in safely. It was a lot.

Anyway, a couple weeks later I get this cryptic text from a number I don’t know. I was traveling with my kids so I wait a couple hours to write back, and I had just met another woman a week after this date so, I had the idea it may have been a jealous friend.

Turns out…it was a burner this woman made just to tell me that I was a major ******* for taking her to my car, doing what I did and never calling her again…. just a socially unaware, cryptic sounding autistic girl who had her heart hurt.

It was sad but I had to give it to her in black and white that it was done and never contact me again. I felt and still feel kind of awful.

Tread carefully. They don’t understand it. I understand the lack of awareness but I’ll never fish in those waters again, just a lot of layers that I can’t personally navigate.

 

[CornbreadFed]

This is going to end well. Might as well sign up for flogging yourself with a spiked flail.

OP, are you really this desperate?

but she a hb9 mane

 

[Clockwerk50]

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nope, I definitely do better than 95% of the guys on this forum. Take a chill pill

Autistic girls (and neurodivergent girls in general) are often very cute and sweet and often **** like demons.

The only people I know who go out of their way to date women like that do so because it's easier to maintain control of their lives and tell them who they can see, who they can be friends with, where they can go, make them check in every 10 minutes if they are out somewhere, tell them what they can wear, etc...

 

[Gamisch]

Most women are on the spectrum somehow someway.

That's why women will have a dream to get married. Not because she wants to wash your dirty underwear by hand..just that "one day".

I've been with plenty of women and I've yet to meet one who ain't " a lil cray cray". Imo a man is best off by finding ways to deal with this. You know, one HUGE mistake I used to make was expecting women to "act normal". It really took away from the opportunity to just have fun.

Assume that every woman you'll meet has something crazy about herself going on . The question is whether this craziness displays itself in a funny loving and goofy way , or in a destructive way.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

i'm in contact with a black guy with autism, i will admit, i kinda feel sorry for him, he claims he is high functioning, but it won't surprise me if its worse than that, i would believe this has also contributed to him doing poorly mentally and socially, he told me that as a baby, he was born premature, quite early, that no doubt can have an affect on ones overall health and body functions.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Do autistic girls require a different sort of "game" than neurotypical ones?

Yep. They require you to not "play games" at all, and seek out healthier women to mate with

 

[BaronOfHair]

All kidding aside: Bedding women with not simply a psych diagnosis(Which damned near EVERYONE has these days), but serious cognitive impairments, is a very serious peril. In the cultural climate we currently inhabit, a fella knowingly doing so is likely to not simply get him charged with rape, but convicted and sent to room with Danny Masterson for the next 20 years-life

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Other than pump ‘n dump. I think dealing with someone with MH issues would be a no go. And even a PnD might get you a Fatal Attraction event.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Most women are on the spectrum somehow someway.

That's why women will have a dream to get married. Not because she wants to wash your dirty underwear by hand..just that "one day".

I've been with plenty of women and I've yet to meet one who ain't " a lil cray cray". Imo a man is best off by finding ways to deal with this. You know, one HUGE mistake I used to make was expecting women to "act normal". It really took away from the opportunity to just have fun.

Assume that every woman you'll meet has something crazy about herself going on . The question is whether this craziness displays itself in a funny loving and goofy way , or in a destructive way.

More self-reflective chicks have recognized and readily elaborated on this

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/women-arent-built-9-5-heres-why-josie-blake-elhbc

"I said I what I said. Now, I know many women in my life who are happy at their 9-5. It brings them stability, routine, a consistent pay check, deadlines. All things that can create a sense of safety and security.After all, that’s what us women desire right? If we haven’t found our divine masculine to provide that for us , we need to tap into our own masculine to create that for ourselves

Which is awesome that we can, and do! I did this for years, worked Monday to Friday, 9-5 (more like 8-6), and I created a really stable life for myself… good career and income, house, pets, social life...But every couple weeks, I’d go through periods of questioning what I was doing

I didn’t know why every month, I’d cycle between feeling motivated and go-getter, and then feeling like I wanted to quit, feeling “forced” to work a "job" because I had bills to pay and my own safety to take care of.I think this repeated cycle was a big reason why I suddenly couldn’t stand the 9-5 life anymore… this constant up and down… I didn't know how to feel a more steady satisfaction.

See, the 40-hour work week was created by a man (Henry Ford), during a time where the majority of the work force was men. Testosterone peaks in the morning, and decreases in the evening, in line with the 9-5 model. Consistently. Everyday

Men’s hormones work on a 24-hour cycle. So it makes sense and it works. For men. However, women go through a 28-DAY cycle. Our "productivity" hormones peak around ovulation, then for the next couple weeks our "feel good" hormones rise, and they all dip right before our cycle restarts, which results in fatigue, lack of focus, and a feeling of wanting to reset and cocoon (traditionally, before the days of light pollution, women’s cycles would actually sync up with the moon!)Not to mention the added responsibilities women typically take on during all of this... childcare, housework, etc. (That’s a whole other topic!) It’s actually really freakin’ amazing how some women do it all

Anyways, now that I’ve learned this and taken some time to become aware of my natural rhythm and hormones, I’ve been able to give myself grace and compassion during these dips. For example, our digital entrepreneur community just finished a 12-week “sprint” where we were all supporting each other in gaining momentum and completing tasks that move our businesses forward.At some points, I was not so active in the sprint, and in the past, I would have been so hard on myself, questioning my worth and asking myself “why are you being so lazy, don’t you want this badly enough?” However, thanks to my new found knowledge and awareness around my own cycle, I still showed up during those times, but to a capacity that I knew was sustainable for me, knowing that in a week or two, I’d be able to show up as my energetic self and take advantage of those beautiful productivity and happy hormones. During those dips, I leaned into a time of rest, going inward, and reflecting, which ultimately gives me more insight and clarity on my business.I’m so grateful that I've moved into a career path that allows me to ebb and flow more in union with my feminine cycles

I’m still calling on my inner masculine to help me build that stability I need, but he’s there now in more of a supportive roll, instead of taking over in my innately feminine body.It just feels so much more fluid, natural and RIGHT. No more forced early mornings, no more making presentations on days when I'm tired and grumpy, no more meeting a new clients when I'm not at my best. I know the energy I have during those dips is not serving anyone, so why should I force it if I don't have to?

I’m still learning to trust that what I’m doing is right. I’ve still got some de-conditioning to do, but I’m getting quicker at becoming aware of when I’m being harsh on myself for “not being productive enough”. It’s a constant journey and I’m so excited to keep learning and leaning into this way of life, and eventually teach it to my future children.
Who is with me on wanting to break this cycle?!"