FR: A Pull & a Few Ls

[nicksaiz65]

Took quite a few Ls, but wanted to post this up to hold myself accountable.

Had a pretty late start to the night due to some errands that I needed to run. We headed out around midnight. We decided to go to a local bar to start things off. The bar was packed, but there were a lot of instant rejections.

We eventually met two Latinas on the street who agreed to come back. My girl was giving me a lot of sh*t but she still went along with it. They were from Memphis, but Latina. They came back to the spot for an afterparty. They said they didn’t want to drink anymore(due to already being pretty lit.) The second girl was constantly asking if we had weed, even in the back seat. As soon as we said we didn’t, she said “are you ready to go?” and blew out the set.
(I don’t smoke very much weed because it can make me very anxious.)

We then went to get wings. A girl opened me, but I fumbled it because I was too in my head about hitting on her in a small shop. I had to re-open her and invite her to the afterparty, but it didn’t come off as confident enough. She didn’t end up coming through. This is something I will work on and get over. If I see a cute girl, or if she opens me, assume attraction and go for it! (Even if it is in a small/smaller location.)

THINGS TO CONSIDER/LEARNINGS:
- It could be a good idea to have weed on hand for pulls.
- Must take advantage of all opportunities, including in smaller shops. Don’t get in my head.

 

[BaronOfHair]

- It could be a good idea to have weed on hand for pulls

That can also easily get a fella into handcuffs, if the chick decides to accuse him of getting her intoxicated, for the sake of getting her out of her pants, after the fact. This isn't a new/ phenomena either, contrary to what MRAs are find of claiming. A story arc in the now bizarrely under-remembered series Picket Fences from The 90s centered around such a incident

 

[The Duke]

Why not just learn to have conversations that are fun and create attraction? Learn how to flirt, make people laugh, and converse.

This field report sounds a lot like that last couple field reports from you. I'd change things up. Seem a little light on the conversation/interaction. Maybe learn to dance? You have to bring something to the table. For example the one girl wanted weed. I don't recommend being a weed supplier to get girls if you aren't into smoking weed. Just consdirering that tells me you have some holes in your frame work.

 

[CornbreadFed]

- It could be a good idea to have weed on hand for pulls.

Jail for pvssy

 

[holidayad_]

- It could be a good idea to have weed on hand for pulls.

I heard somewhere that it works...

But keep in mind that it depends on the type of woman you're dealing with.

Jail for pvssy

Pretty romantic.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Jail for pvssy

In ways that many fellas refuse to recognize. A broad successfully accusing a dude of rape, after he supplies her with heavy doses of booze or dope of any kind before they hop in the sack, was a very serious peril even pre-MeToo

And this is even more pronounced in the social climate we currently inhabit, where simply uttering "rapey speech" can now lead to you being targeted for a criminal investigation. Giving a woman you're not overly familiar with anything other than a glass of wine is ill-advised

 

[nicksaiz65]

Why not just learn to have conversations that are fun and create attraction? Learn how to flirt, make people laugh, and converse.

This field report sounds a lot like that last couple field reports from you. I'd change things up. Seem a little light on the conversation/interaction. Maybe learn to dance? You have to bring something to the table. For example the one girl wanted weed. I don't recommend being a weed supplier to get girls if you aren't into smoking weed. Just consdirering that tells me you have some holes in your frame work.

Same old story, huh?

I agree that the biggest hole in my game is not really being able to dance. Once I get my apartment situation sorted, this is the next biggest hole that needs to be plugged. It would seriously help if I were a better dancer.

I’ve probably asked this question a million times in my time on SS, but how does one go from not being able to dance at all to competent dancer? I’m willing to put in the work/time.

I’ve heard that general weight loss and stretching are great first steps, followed by the mirror.

 

[nicksaiz65]

In ways that many fellas refuse to recognize. A broad successfully accusing a dude of rape, after he supplies her with heavy doses of booze or dope of any kind before they hop in the sack, was a very serious peril even pre-MeToo

And this is even more pronounced in the social climate we currently inhabit, where simply uttering "rapey speech" can now lead to you being targeted for a criminal investigation. Giving a woman you're not overly familiar with anything other than a glass of wine is ill-advised

Hmm. You make a good point.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Jail for pvssy

Most of my friends actually do smoke a lot of weed.. I’ve just never really done it unless socially. I find that after I smoke I can’t do anything productive the rest of the day haha

 

[The Diver]

how does one go from not being able to dance at all to competent dancer? I’m willing to put in the work/time.

You find a dance studio that teaches the dance style you're interested in learning, and then you take a beginner dance class. From there, you can progress to a more advanced level.
You can select a private class or group class. ( I'm doing it for a long time).

 

[nicksaiz65]

You find a dance studio that teaches the dance style you're interested in learning, and then you take a beginner dance class. From there, you can progress to a more advanced level.
You can select a private class or group class. ( I'm doing it for a long time).

So basically, you just take a class and get better over time? That sounds like it would solve most of my problems.

 

[The Diver]

So basically, you just take a class and get better over time? That sounds like it would solve most of my problems.

Yes, pretty much like that.
In my dance studio , the classes consist of 6 classes ( group classes) for any level. You can reapiting the same level until you feel confident, and then advance to the next level. And so on.
But you can take any number of private classes ( one-on-one with the dance teacher) , but that is much more expensive than the group classes, and less fun in my opinion.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Yes, pretty much like that.
In my dance studio , the classes consist of 6 classes ( group classes) for any level. You can reapiting the same level until you feel confident, and then advance to the next level. And so on.
But you can take any number of private classes ( one one-on-one with the dance teacher) , but that is much more expensive than the group classes, and less fun in my opinion.

That’s good news. I thought I was screwed on my dancing abilities tbh lol.

 

[The Diver]

That’s good news. I thought I was screwed on my dancing abilities tbh lol.

Lose weight if you need, get in the best shape you can, and learn to dance !!! ( assuming you like dancing).
Make it your goal for this year!
Be committed, consistent and persistent. You'll reap the benefits of your hard work.
That's what it really means when people say to "work on yourself, Be the best version of yourself. "( And this is only one area from many where you can improve tremendously) .

When I go dancing, there are always three women for every man who knows dancing, and if you're in good shape, dressed in style, have a CHARMING vibe, and are a good dancer,,,, you'll be noticed.
It'll be easy then to interact and make a connection with women. From that point, it is on you to escalate if the vibe is right.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Lose weight if you need, get in the best shape you can, and learn to dance !!! ( assuming you like dancing).
Make it your goal for this year!
Be committed, consistent and persistent. You'll reap the benefits of your hard work.
That's what it really means when people say to "work on yourself, Be the best version of yourself. "( And this is only one area from many where you can improve tremendously) .

When I go dancing, there are always three women for every man who knows dancing, and if you're in good shape, dressed in style, have a CHARMING vibe, and are a good dancer,,,, you'll be noticed.
It'll be easy then to interact and make a connection with women. From that point, it is on you to escalate if the vibe is right.

I’m definitely willing to put in the work. That’s a fantastic goal.

So we know for a fact that losing weight helps with dancing. It’s a lot easier to move around and move athletically when you’re not carrying around all that extra weight. Keto and intermittent fasting make this effortless.

Taking classes, getting in front of the mirror/camera, consistently, these are the leading indicators for someone who knows how to dance.

One of the main issues is that I feel very stiff and locked up. This makes dancing and being “loose” tough. I’m wondering if daily stretching would be a good use of my time for the dancing goal?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Hmm. You make a good point.

If the woman is over 18 she's no longer a minor. Any dude who gets a chick back to her place and she drinks some of his beer or booze falls into this category, which is just about every dude in the world.

Get a good hybrid, don't get indica or sativa. You don't want anyone freaking out or falling asleep. Or you can get a (hybrid) cartridge, which doesn't have a smell.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If the woman is over 18 she's no longer a minor

Man accused of raping his friend after 'getting drunk together'

A rape trial has started at Oxford Crown Court where a man is accused of assaulting his friend after drinking alone together in Chipping Norton.

uk.news.yahoo.com

We're engaging in wishful thinking, if we really believe that cases like this aren't going to crop more frequently, especially throughout The Anglosphere. At least as long as we confine ourselves to relentlessly caterwauling over how unfair "The System" is to men, and mistaking this for genuine activism

 

[Chow Mein]

Man accused of raping his friend after 'getting drunk together'

A rape trial has started at Oxford Crown Court where a man is accused of assaulting his friend after drinking alone together in Chipping Norton.

uk.news.yahoo.com

We're engaging in wishful thinking, if we really believe that cases like this aren't going to crop more frequently, especially throughout The Anglosphere. At least as long as we confine ourselves to relentlessly caterwauling over how unfair "The System" is to men, and mistaking this for genuine activism

How’s seducing women with your history lessons working out?

My dude Nick is providing his experience, he don’t need no Trojan horse up his azz

 

[BaronOfHair]

How’s seducing women with your history lessons working out?

Brilliantly. Having a knack for both clear communication, and enlightening your fellow humans to the complexities of the universe is tantamount to replacing one's vintage Colt 2000 with an SA-35, the next time he ices a federal witness while in the service of The Russian Mafia

Operating with sophisticated equipment makes for a mission that's far less of a hassle, AND an operator who's exceptionally lethal