seeing same people every week?

PlatoPacks23

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I take classes where I see the same people (including a woman maybe two Im interested in) 2-4x a week. mainly just talk at beginning and end of class.

now I know a lot of rules where they say DO NOT meet w someone that often or for long periods of time, but obviously this is different context.

also the idea of asking someone out in this doesnt' seem to be as direct or happen as fast.. everything seems to move at a fairly slow pace. It does feel in many ways being too direct scares them off and they need to come to conclusion themselves

tips? advice in these situations?
 

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I take classes where I see the same people (including a woman maybe two Im interested in) 2-4x a week. mainly just talk at beginning and end of class.
Initiate a study group at your house.
 

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You probably have several options here:

1. Play the triangle game: try to game the other girls that you are not interested in. It sound counter productive but it will give you social status. I read on some book that in order to stir their competitive nature you should pay attention to the girl’s sister you are interested in.

2. Play the cat and mouse game. Be interested in them and then take a step back.

3. Play the “let me walk you to your car” line or something more direct to isolate them.

You know you caught something when they start initiating contact and they start texting you first. Then you ask them out.
 

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Invite them over to play Chutes and Ladders.

Seriously tho, just be a man and ask them out. Women appreciate men that have the balls to do what others guys are too timid to do.

If she says no, she would have said no anyway. Trust me, trying to "pet sh!t with the chickens" for another 6 months wasn't getting you a yes if straight up asking her for you a no.

Stop looking for excuses to not take action and prevent a potential rejection.
 
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PlatoPacks23

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Invite them over to play Chutes and Ladders.

Seriously tho, just be a man and ask them out. Women appreciate men that have the balls to do what others guys are too timid to do.

If she says no, she would have said no anyway. Trust me, trying to "pet sh!t with the chickens" for another 6 months wasn't getting you a yes if straight up asking her for you a no.

Stop looking for excuses to not take action and prevent a potential rejection.
bumping this!
next week is 4th of July so not going for it then, but yeah im asking her out (even floating the idea this week) the week after and getting either a date or moving on.

will it be awkward if things don't work out? yeah I guess but gotta figure this out. I like my odds
 
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