Romance Novels or *orn?

[jhonny9546]

https://www.reddit.com/r/RomanceBooks/comments/zh6cf4
"In our love-starved culture, both men and women are desperately looking for a connection with someone. At our innermost core of self, we are relational creatures. We crave a deep and lasting bond with another human beings. Someone we can trust, with our deepest secrets, and our scariest moments and our darkest, most wicked fantasies. Someone we can rely on to never betray us and to love us as we have always secretly desired to be loved. And if we can't have that in real life, we at least want our beloved fictional characters to have it. "


This is so true and interesting. However, when considering what a "Romance" novel really is, it's kind of awkward.

For men, it's true that porn is equivalent to romance novels for women. But as men, we all know the dangers of watching porn, relying on it, how it shapes your behavior negatively, or always seeking out content to satisfy your dopamine cravings.

I am not referring to "clean" Romance novels here, which do not contain explicit content. But isn't a romance novel with spicy, dangerous, abusive, etc., content similar to porn for men? Could it be risky for women?

Many women claim that spicy romance novels enhance their desire in their relationships, or help them express their secret fantasies with their partners. But are these fantasies solely influenced by the books they read? For instance, if a man doesn't watch a specific type of porn, he may not desire to engage in such acts. Is this accurate?

Therefore, I am curious to learn more about spicy/obscure "Romance" novels that captivate women. As a man, once I stopped seeking out porn and focused on understanding psychology, I began to feel significantly better. Relying on media, such as the "porn way," for emotional enhancement is not the ideal way to live for both men and women.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RomanceBooks/comments/154hko8/_/ke3tfbn This comment says the genuine part of life, depends on you

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Start writing erotica for women and you'll soon find out how to interact with them.

 

[Fruitbat]

Start writing erotica for women and you'll soon find out how to interact with them.

Tell us. I can’t be bothered to read it.

kind of a bit scared, I think it’s mainly going to be about deeply f-d up stuff like affairs and inappropriate stuff they seem to thrive on.

It’s funny how there’s some huge campaign about p*rn being the end of the world (which I disagree with on some levels) but the world of female TV etc is all about love triangles and stuff which breaks up families. Literally all soap operas are about infidelity and lies. I can’t see how that’s less damaging than a dude wanting to fap over tities.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Tell us. I can’t be bothered to read it.

There are no shortcuts. If you're not going to put in the work, why should I even advise you?

Just keep complaining how difficult women are and fit in with the rest of the members here.

 

[Fruitbat]

There are no shortcuts. If you're not going to put in the work, why should I even advise you?

Just keep complaining how difficult women are and fit in with the rest of the members here.

my guy, you used to be cool. You’ve been a bit tetchy recently, everything OK?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

my guy, you used to be cool. You’ve been a bit tetchy recently, everything OK?

No, I'm just telling you straight that you're looking for other people to tell you what to do and how to act, when you should be taking action with the advice you've been given by everyone.

And because that annoys you, you think I'm being 'tetchy' (whatever that may be).

The point is that you'd like to have the success I have, but you 'can't be bothered' to put in the work.

I don't work for you, 'my guy'. You have the info, now you take action.

 

[Fruitbat]

No, I'm just telling you straight that you're looking for other people to tell you what to do and how to act, when you should be taking action with the advice you've been given by everyone.

And because that annoys you, you think I'm being 'tetchy' (whatever that may be).

The point is that you'd like to have the success I have, but you 'can't be bothered' to put in the work.

I don't work for you, 'my guy'. You have the info, now you take action.

This is a forum where we share experience and knowledge. Pretty douchey to hint at something interesting you know, and then tell someone to F off and do the work themselves when they ask you!

coming off a bit arrogant too, get some humility.

 

[jhonny9546]

I've read many of those novels, and the SMUT ones are like reading satanic things for me.
Is that what women reads?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

This is a forum where we share experience and knowledge.

So far, you didn't share anything useful. When are you going to start?

Pretty douchey to hint at something interesting you know, and then tell someone to F off and do the work themselves when they ask you!

It's pretty douchey to demand someone else to do the work because you 'cannot be bothered'.

coming off a bit arrogant too, get some humility.

You seem to be entitled, spoiled and judgmental.
IDGAF about your opinion on how I 'come off' to you.

 

[Fruitbat]

So far, you didn't share anything useful. When are you going to start?


It's pretty douchey to demand someone else to do the work because you 'cannot be bothered'.


You seem to be entitled, spoiled and judgmental.
IDGAF about your opinion on how I 'come off' to you.

OK Mr Happy, let’s agree to disagree here.