I really don't think women really care what sports a man participates in, just that he is fit and makes him more interesting. But women who are into music, will be more interested in someone that plays an instrument. It's whatever the woman finds interesting. In school, being on a popular sports team does give you social status... but after school, no one cares.
As far as being in the military... well, again some women find this very interesting. Most, in my experience really don't care... Oh and there are some women that are actually turned off and a little scared of anyone that had been in the military. It really all depends. There is a reason that divorce rates are so high in the military. It is not a lifestyle conductive to relationships and dating. The Army marriages I saw as successful were soldiers marrying women that grew up with a parent in the service. It's a sub-culture, and many people who grew up in the culture see that as completely normal... and regular civilian life, alien.