As a Colombian residing in North America with significant experience interacting with the country, I'd like to explain somewhat the social dynamics at play and explain why expatriates seem to attract romantic partners easily:
Environment: Colombia's socioeconomic classes are widely disparate. Some families belong to the wealthy or financially stable categories, with parents holding prestigious positions in their communities such as doctors, lawyers, or politicians, typically following a patriarchal hierarchy. These families can afford household help like a maid, and their children have access to the best education. Women from these backgrounds often have financial independence through family support, own cars, and tend to marry within or above their socioeconomic tier.
Conversely, a significant portion of families live below the poverty line, struggling to make ends meet due to a lack of governmental support. Many resort to street vending selling consumables like hot dogs to survive, and father absence is common due to vices like alcoholism or womanizing. Financial instability often leads men into illicit activities like drug dealing, while women may turn to avenues like online adult entertainment like cam sites, prostitution, or scams involving substances like scopolamine. The influx of foreigners exacerbates these issues by driving up living costs such as rent, contributing to locals' hardships.
Gender Dynamics: Media hypersexualization, particularly through reggaeton music, soap operas, and glorification of the narco lifestyle, combined with limited financial opportunities, prompt men and women to leverage their gender-specific allure in courtship. Traits such as a thrilling lifestyle, physical enhancements like cosmetic surgeries and veneers, motorcycles, big social circles, jealousy, fashion and dressing sexy can become key elements of attraction. The dating scene is akin to a strategic game, with individuals cultivating multiple suitors (we call them “livestock") and understanding the dynamics of desire and protection. In some aspects barrios can be come “high-school” esque where many people have multiple partners at the time.
Ex-Pats: Ex-Pats offer Colombian women opportunities unavailable locally, including the chance to leave the country or short-term financial security. Despite their physical shortcomings and lack of style (check the article below), Ex-Pats compensate through their ability to fund cosmetic procedures such as fillers, breast implants or butt enhancements, facilitating women's social mobility or make them more desirable in real life. Some women may entertain relationships with Ex-Pats while still involved with local partners.
I think what I'm trying to emphasize here is that Colombian women receive attention on Instagram from accounts worldwide just like other women in the world. However, their shortcomings is how poor they are and the limited opportunities in the country. With this in mind, they allure these foreigners with the aim of extracting financial support to keep moving up in the world and be better than the competition. The reality is that the number of women seeking assistance from Ex-Pats exceeds the Ex-Pats themselves. Yet, if capitalism prevails and money is not a constraint like in Western countries, Colombian women would resemble a modern Miami for Latinas and the Ex-Pats would be undesirable like in their country.
How Colombian women aspire to be and look like:
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Article of American killing his girlfriend out of jealousy since she had a Colombian boyfriend:
Valentina Trespalacios was an up-and-coming DJ in Bogota, but her rise to fame seems to have taken a tragic turn after meeting John Poulos, an older American man and father of three.
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