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Master Don Juan
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I agree with this. There are likely more beta male nice guys than nice and sweet women.One thing I've noticed about "nice" and "sweet" women is that they often date men that they are not attracted too. I think it happens because they have a hard time saying no to clingy/persistent beta males who do "nice" things for them. This phenomenon is less common today (as there are fewer "nice and sweet" women around) but it still exists.
Some betas are very persistent because they believe that persistence pays off.
This makes sense for younger women but not women 35+ in my experience. The first post referred to a woman who is 49 years old. A 49 year old woman doesn't care that much about her family's opinions. At age 49, a woman likely has parents that are either mentally/physically diminished or dead.I have also concluded that women who are particularly close to family will date men who they are proud to take home and introduce to the family but may not be their #1 top pick (Chad, Tyrone, etc). This works for a while but it catches up with them eventually. Then they have to lie to the family about why they dumped the GOOD guy, make up a bunch of crap that he did and paint him into an evil monster.. Just so they don't have to look the family in the eye and say "yeah he was a nice guy but he didn't make my v@g tingle and I wanted someone who did".
Younger women will care about this, especially when considering a first spouse. After that, it's not that much of a thing.
I agree with this.Pipe them down really well and consistently and the chances of them leaving decreases massively
In my 12,000+ posts on this forum, I believe the idea that I am most known for is my idea about the shelf life of relationships.In this day and age, relationships are disposable. They all have a shelf life.
Enjoy them while it lasts, then find you another.
I believe the majority of relationships have a shelf life of goodness of 5 years. It doesn't matter how long a relationship lasts, its only the first 5 years that are the good times. 5 years of goodness assumes at least an average frame. Betas with weaker than average frames won't have a shelf life of goodness that lasts even 5 years, even if a beta gets his relationship to last more than 5 years. There are plenty of beta males in relationships that have lasted more than 5 years.
Frame decay is also a real phenomenon. There are men who start off with decent frames but eventually morph into wimpy beta males.
In an LTR, Year 10 is rarely even close to as good as Year 2. There are relationships that are strong enough and the decay isn't drastic enough to warrant leaving.
The problem with marriages is that marriages tend to extend the zombie phase of a relationship longer. Even with no fault divorce, there's still hesitation to end the relationship. Some non-marital LTRs have a longer zombie phase too, especially when the two people live together. The zombie phase tends to be shortest when breaking up is easiest. Breaking up is easiest in a non-marital relationship where two people don't live together.
Some of my relationships have ended rather easily because there was no cohabitation and there were no children in the equation. I did feel emotional pain when some ended. It was much easier than it likely would have been had there been a marriage, a cohabitation, or children involved.