The Obligatory Pre-First Date Phone Call

[RazorRambo24]

Two words: Older. Women. Dash is in his 40's if I recall correctly.

Another thing in my experience a lot of women who insist on a phone call tend to mumble or lower their voices when they get more personal or intimate bc they expect you to "match their vibe", as if you're supposed to be able to complete their thoughts when you don't know them or can't read body language.

Post-epiphany women who insist on phone calls as a screening measure are pains in the @ss. But if she feels like comfort chatting after you've sexed her up and you sense she's at least somewhat invested, then that's a different story.

Ah I see . Thanks for the insight.

 

[Solomon]

Personally I would recommend trying to get them on a video call before you meet them

A first date will dominate at the very least half of a day , by the time you physically & mentally prepare for it , travel to it and actually do it

a 10 min video call could potentially save you time , money and energy

You can

A) check she looks as she claims

B) check if she has feminine energy

As someone that's been caught cold on OLD dates on a few occasions I can promise you there is NOTHING worse than turning up to a date and the girl being as dry as an unbuttered slice of bread and exhibiting masculine energy

The vast majority of women I come across on these apps are either socially awkward, very masculine or have requirements WAY beyond what they could ever hope to achieve in the real world

Lets be real there's not really any other reason for a woman to be on the apps , if she was that much of a catch she would have been snapped up in the real world there are rare exceptions but this is a general Rule of thumb

I used to be against video calls as I think they ruin the mystique however I think if you're doing OLD this can save you a lot of time/energy from weeding out low-interest chicks. I also talked to women on the phone in the past but I noticed it tends to be the older ones that initiate and prefer this. if a woman is 30 or under they will rarely ask in my experience and prefer text or snapchat, which can be fun cause they will snap you some pics/vids. These days I do not ask for phone/video calls/ before a date but if a woman ask I will gladly oblige. Phone/Video calls are hit or miss, my last phone call the girl didn't seem enthused and was distracted talking to family members talking to her was like pulling teeth (I have no issues talking to strangers as I used to do this for a job back in the day) and it was a major red flag that she wouldn't commit to the date or time even though she said she had nothing to do. Clearly lack of interest, needless to say I didn't contact her again. Yes there are women that are better conversationalists in person however it's easy to weed out women during a phone call if you ask the right questions and if they bring up certain things

 

[Divorced w 3]

I used to be against video calls as I think they ruin the mystique

First call phone sex will reignite the mystique

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Gents:

So I jumped back into OLD after about a year off. Just doing it for fun with low expectations. Actually have been pleasantly surprised at the number of hits from decent looking women. Chatting a few up and will likely meet a couple this week or next.

One thing that a few from my last foray -- and already a couple from this latest OLD go-around -- are asking for is a phone call (basically a phone date) before meeting up.

I can't f*cking stand this.

It kills the mystique and intrigue and enough of dating, and life for that matter, is online and virtual. What the hell is a phone call going to accomplish besides being a substitute for an actual date? I've been politely telling these women if it means that much to you, I'll talk on the phone for a few minutes, but I'm not a fan. We're all here on OLD to meet in-person, so let's ditch the phone BS and just meet up. There are risks in dating and meeting a functional mute who can't hold a conversation or someone who misrepresents themselves with pics, fake profile info, etc., are a few of them. Accept it.

If you're really that paranoid about OLD, you shouldn't be on OLD.

Curious if anyone else gets these phone call requests and at what frequency.

Ciao,
Dash

Never a Phone Call. But Facetime. My guess is those wanting FT were either catfished or the guy’s pictures were far from reality. I was fine with the Facetime.