I know I have posted about this before, but I want to hammer it home again.
For the purpose of this; I am talking about women who you haven't really had any conversation or rapport with yet. The initial stages of attraction.
These are women you might see at the gym, on campus, at the bar or local coffee shop.
I will give you three recent examples from my own life. I just turned 47 and I consider myself a reasonably attractive man (7 to 7.5)
#1.) Scenario: Barista at Starbucks--Probably mid 30's (about a 6.5) --
Outcome: Always seems to lock eyes with me for a long second when she hands me my drink.
Verdict: Regardless of what her relationship status is, she finds me physically attractive.
#2.) Scenario: Female I see at the gym about 4x every morning---Late 30's to early 40's. A solid 7.5---nice face, average body.
Outcome: Avoids all eye contact when I walk by her or working out near her. Her body language even seems to face away from me as well.
Verdict: It is safe to say this woman does not find me physically attractive and/or is married and is consciously avoiding eye contact so I don't get the wrong idea.
#3.) Scenario: Female bartender I see about 1x a month (including tonight) --Mid 20's to late 20's. A solid 8 (sexy petite black-haired Italian/Greek looking)
Outcome: She is always professional but when she hands me my beer and/or change she doesn't even look at me.
Verdict: She either doesn't find me attractive, thinks I am too old and/or is happily involved with somebody.
It's really that simple folks.
That hot woman you see at the gym 4X a week who doesn't seem to know you exist even when you are in her vicinity is NOT interested in you (either due to lack of physical attraction and/or relationship status)
She is NOT playing hard to get, stop fooling yourself!
The cute Starbucks barista who always seems to lock eyes with you when she hands you your coffee at the very least finds you physically attractive. Try to make small talk with her and escalate.
Don't waste your time/focus on women who don't seem interested in you.
I noticed it's also at this stage the dreaded oneitis can also take hold. A woman you have barely or never spoken to and you think you might have a shot with her. All of this despite her never looking at you.
For the purpose of this; I am talking about women who you haven't really had any conversation or rapport with yet. The initial stages of attraction.
These are women you might see at the gym, on campus, at the bar or local coffee shop.
I will give you three recent examples from my own life. I just turned 47 and I consider myself a reasonably attractive man (7 to 7.5)
#1.) Scenario: Barista at Starbucks--Probably mid 30's (about a 6.5) --
Outcome: Always seems to lock eyes with me for a long second when she hands me my drink.
Verdict: Regardless of what her relationship status is, she finds me physically attractive.
#2.) Scenario: Female I see at the gym about 4x every morning---Late 30's to early 40's. A solid 7.5---nice face, average body.
Outcome: Avoids all eye contact when I walk by her or working out near her. Her body language even seems to face away from me as well.
Verdict: It is safe to say this woman does not find me physically attractive and/or is married and is consciously avoiding eye contact so I don't get the wrong idea.
#3.) Scenario: Female bartender I see about 1x a month (including tonight) --Mid 20's to late 20's. A solid 8 (sexy petite black-haired Italian/Greek looking)
Outcome: She is always professional but when she hands me my beer and/or change she doesn't even look at me.
Verdict: She either doesn't find me attractive, thinks I am too old and/or is happily involved with somebody.
It's really that simple folks.
That hot woman you see at the gym 4X a week who doesn't seem to know you exist even when you are in her vicinity is NOT interested in you (either due to lack of physical attraction and/or relationship status)
She is NOT playing hard to get, stop fooling yourself!
The cute Starbucks barista who always seems to lock eyes with you when she hands you your coffee at the very least finds you physically attractive. Try to make small talk with her and escalate.
Don't waste your time/focus on women who don't seem interested in you.
I noticed it's also at this stage the dreaded oneitis can also take hold. A woman you have barely or never spoken to and you think you might have a shot with her. All of this despite her never looking at you.
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