How can I create excitement?

[nelysses]

Once I go a date. It was so good but tooo long.
A few days later the girl came and told me honestly that she felt good around me, but she didn't feel that way.
Probably because the date lasted for hours and we talked about everything openly, the magic of the event was lost.
So What shoul I do about it?
I just try to feel people relax. Also I wanna be relax in relationship.

Shouldn't I talk openly or long on first few dates?

 

[Dr.Suave]

So What shoul I do about it?

Learn from this. Keep first dates short. End the date on a high.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Learn from this. Keep first dates short. End the date on a high.

My first date with my previous GF-to-be was 13 hours (no sex). The first date with the GF-to-be before that was 30 hours. Sex & sleepover.
I think it’s best to play it by ear. Hard rules aren’t always best.

 

[Glassguy]

My first date with my previous GF-to-be was 13 hours (no sex). The first date with the GF-to-be before that was 30 hours. Sex & sleepover.
I think it’s best to play it by ear. Hard rules aren’t always best.

I agree. Play it by ear.

I can spend 4 hrs on a first date with a chick and still walk away mysterious. Let the woman talk, you listen and give up details about yourself only when you have to.......if they know your life history after 4 hours, there is no mystery and your life is....well......boring.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I agree. Play it by ear.

I can spend 4 hrs on a first date with a chick and still walk away mysterious. Let the woman talk, you listen and give up details about yourself only when you have to.......if they know your life history after 4 hours, there is no mystery and your life is....well......boring.

Girls like to talk. Let them.

 

[nelysses]

Girls like to talk. Let them.

I agree. Play it by ear.

I can spend 4 hrs on a first date with a chick and still walk away mysterious. Let the woman talk, you listen and give up details about yourself only when you have to.......if they know your life history after 4 hours, there is no mystery and your life is....well......boring.

So this is the main problem. Actually I know this but I didn't wante to make her bored. So sometimes ı spoke a lot. Thank you guys.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You shouldn't try and create it, you should embody it.

 

[Gamisch]

1. There's nothing you could've done. Women are more social than us men. Thus a woman will fo on a date just to check you out.

Yes, the fact she shows up tells you she is attracted to you. YET, she might've had her doubts,had dudes lined up, has a bad day , an ex in the background ect.

2. The way you play the game. The game is like a menu. An appitizer the main menu and some dessert . The communication before ,during and after the date are equally important, ESPECIALLY when she is lukewarm about you.

Long story short: you might've missed out/messed up somewhere. Tbh you can ALWAYS look back at the communication and see where the shift in her behavior happened . The latter is important to be able to do better the next time, but it requires introspection and honesty

My first date with my previous GF-to-be was 13 hours (no sex). The first date with the GF-to-be before that was 30 hours. Sex & sleepover.
I think it’s best to play it by ear. Hard rules aren’t always best.

Absolutely no knock on you to be clear

BUT , I kinda get what OP is looking for. Like most men, the eternal question is:" what is that something she said was missing? "

Hence how he already stated they hung out for hours ,good vibes ect. Yet, he got "cliche soft nexted."

I think it's best to go by hard rules and principles UNLESS the situation asks another approach. But generally speaking he'd better cut the date short on a high:

-two alcoholic beverages max.
-max two hours

 

[Gamisch]

To adress the question directly: you creste FEMALE excitment by BEING exiting.

Most men only wanna become exiting when there are women to be exiting for. But that is the wrong order of importance and most of the time it's too late and too fabricated.. You should ALWAYS be exiting and ooze excitment.

The easiest way is to become the best version of yourself ; spirituality, mentally, physically and financially. This will make you carry yourself with more grace and confidence.

You see, excitment isn't necessarily taking her on a bungee jump date. Its rather the THOUGHT that you take MANY prretty girls on such a date.

You must have a idgaf mentality, unapologetic and never afraid to lose her. Be cautious about how you spend your time. Always think about your "personal empire " and how you can grow this.

Finally you wanna pick the right type of woman from the get go. Always deal with women who adore you. That's why you must first and foremost adore yourself bruh.

 

[Mertz09]

My first date with my previous GF-to-be was 13 hours (no sex). The first date with the GF-to-be before that was 30 hours. Sex & sleepover.
I think it’s best to play it by ear. Hard rules aren’t always best.

30 hours?!?! Dude!!!!!

 

[Mertz09]

I agree. Play it by ear.

I can spend 4 hrs on a first date with a chick and still walk away mysterious. Let the woman talk, you listen and give up details about yourself only when you have to.......if they know your life history after 4 hours, there is no mystery and your life is....well......boring.

This....

 

[Hamurabimbi]

30 hours?!?! Dude!!!!!

She was supposed to be an FWB, as we agreed when we met on Tinder. But she wound up as a GF. She was great.

 

[Mertz09]

You should go to a date with the mindset of getting to know if the girl is a good fit for you, or as a plate, or to spend time with her in the first place.

If you guys are having the good vibe, at some point you'll have to escalate and make your intentions known by at least kissing her and risk rejection man.

Any First Date should be for: Do I actually like this women. If you do, then go on from there. It aunt that hard guys.
It is what it is>>>>>