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Don Juan
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- Jun 22, 2023
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As someone who's never been a fan of online dating and prefers the idea of cold approach, I've heard about guys pulling chicks they didn't know from insta by sliding in her dms or other social media sites. Its a given nowadays on the dating apps to have texting rizz after the looks filter.
Even chicks nowadays you cold approach want to connect on insta before giving you their phone number ( i know about the whole " if she doesn't give her number, she's not interested" but that's another discussion and not always true in my experience) and if you've had only a short interaction during the approach this leads to a some flirting at the very least on texts before they agree to meet up.
The cons-
- Too much competition, most girls on social media, especially if they are good looking have tons of DMs anytime
- Girls can ghost whenever they want
- Body language etc. game has no use here, you are limited to only verbal rizz and only if you have passed the filter of looks when she checks your profile
- Low return ratio
The pros-
- More focused approach. You can find the good looking girls and dm them directly
- A friend focuses on the rough diamonds and has good texting game. So women who are pretty and cute but not that focused on always looking the best all the time or post too much of their own pics - he has good success with them
- Low investment, possibly high reward compared to high investment, high risk, very high reward of cold approaches
As someone who likes the idea of casting a wide net and covering as many bases as possible while having specific forte it seems the OG Don Juan classics advice is partly out of date now.
Their advice seems to say, get the number and then straight up ask for a date. Don't text at all other than that.
Their idea about the objective of texting being to set up a meeting --100% applies even today. That should be the goal of all texting.
Their advice of not texting AT ALL other than straight up asking for a date? Feels badly out of date . Not to mention modern texting apps has taken over calls as the shortest and quickest go to for communication. So it seems a good idea to having texting game down for not just getting the date but afterwards during serious dating as well.
What do you guys think?
Even chicks nowadays you cold approach want to connect on insta before giving you their phone number ( i know about the whole " if she doesn't give her number, she's not interested" but that's another discussion and not always true in my experience) and if you've had only a short interaction during the approach this leads to a some flirting at the very least on texts before they agree to meet up.
The cons-
- Too much competition, most girls on social media, especially if they are good looking have tons of DMs anytime
- Girls can ghost whenever they want
- Body language etc. game has no use here, you are limited to only verbal rizz and only if you have passed the filter of looks when she checks your profile
- Low return ratio
The pros-
- More focused approach. You can find the good looking girls and dm them directly
- A friend focuses on the rough diamonds and has good texting game. So women who are pretty and cute but not that focused on always looking the best all the time or post too much of their own pics - he has good success with them
- Low investment, possibly high reward compared to high investment, high risk, very high reward of cold approaches
As someone who likes the idea of casting a wide net and covering as many bases as possible while having specific forte it seems the OG Don Juan classics advice is partly out of date now.
Their advice seems to say, get the number and then straight up ask for a date. Don't text at all other than that.
Their idea about the objective of texting being to set up a meeting --100% applies even today. That should be the goal of all texting.
Their advice of not texting AT ALL other than straight up asking for a date? Feels badly out of date . Not to mention modern texting apps has taken over calls as the shortest and quickest go to for communication. So it seems a good idea to having texting game down for not just getting the date but afterwards during serious dating as well.
What do you guys think?
