Michael Chief
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I don't always write FRs/LRs, but when I do, it's to highlight certain concepts or techniques. This happened a few months ago.
Leadership and community building. These are important things that will make you more attractive, and will open a lot of doors for you.
One day, a friend and I decided to try our hand at a potential business venture. She thought that we could combine our partying with money-making. Before COVID, language exchange groups were pretty popular and probably made a good profit here in South Korea, but of course they took a dip after the pandemic. Since things were getting a lot safer, we started a new language exchange group and held parties every other weekend. We invited all our friends, put up ads to draw in more people, and all those people eventually invited other people. After a few months, it grew into a pretty thriving community for a while. We grew to have a big group chat with about 50 people, some of whom attended our parties every time we held one, and people naturally started making friends and more. Some of my friends started dating each other after meeting through our events.
As one of the main organizers, and as an American with American standards of doing business, I did my best to keep business and pleasure separate. Our community members/party attendees paid us an entrance fee each time we held an event. They were customers. I refrained from flirting with any of the customers... unless I knew they were definitely no longer going to be customers.
HBPixieCut was vacationing here and attended a couple of our events, and she was quite popular with most of our male clientele. She was certainly enjoying the attention! At first, I was purely being professional in my interactions with her. But then I learned that she would be leaving the country soon, and will thus no longer be attending our events. I kept my professional face on during the actual party, but I messaged her couple days after. I DMed her some photos from the last event.
Me: *photos*
Her: awww so cute
Me: no u (she hearted my message)
Me: where are you staying?
Her: hotel in (nearby area)
Me: ohhh nice what day do you leave again?
Her: (Date)
Me: hey can i call you right now really quick
Her: *she calls me through instagram*
I forgot the content of our call, but I remember doing some sort of weak SOI. The main thing here is that we touched base and I established a connection and started to transition into flirting. A couple days later:
Me: how's it goin
Her: honestly
Her: a bit complicated
Her: but fine
Her: u?
Me: not complicated lol what's your story
Her: Bob sooo pushy I feel like I need some space idk what to do :'( :'( :'(
Context: Bob is her friend who attended our parties along with her. When I spoke to both of them before during a party, they both made it clear that they are just friends. However, it seems that Bob had unrequited feelings for HBPixieCut.
Me: ah so he's into you
Me: no surprise
Me: wanna meet later and talk about it?
Her: I'm in (faraway city) lolll
Me: lol might as well just tell me here then XD
Her: *she calls me*
During this call, she tells me about how she's traveling with Bob, he's being a pushy AFC, but that she only sees him as a friend. She expresses some sort of guilt for making me listen to her problems, but I say that I'm happy to listen to her anytime especially because I find her very attractive. I also say that, even though I find her attractive just like Bob does, the difference is that I won't ever make her feel any pressure. She feels good about that. She tells me that she decided to tell Bob that she wants to go back to Seoul (where I am) the next day without him. The next day:
Me: did u tell him
Her: yes. he's staying here and I am coming back to seoul
Me: haha good job and congrats (she hearted my message)
Her: thanks :'( :'( :'( I feel so bad tho
Me: don't worry i'll make u feel better lol
Her: omggg
Me: by being a good listener
Me: why r u saying omg >
Her: *blushing emoji*
Then we just have other irrelevant fun and dumb conversation. The next day:
Me: when seoul?
Her: tonighttt
Me: time?
Her: idk
Me: ok keep me updated. where u stayin
Her: *sends me a voice note about having dinner plans with someone from our language exchange group who asked her out*
I know exactly who she's talking about. He's a buddy of mine and I had no idea he asked her out. We're already eskimo brothers lol. I message him to try to hash out logistics and resolve potential conflicts before they happen. I tell him that I'm interested in her, he tells me that he's also interested in her, we talk about a potential threesome, he's down. If she doesn't end up being OK with a threesome, I'm OK if she just goes home with him, and he's OK if she goes home with me.
I immediately make some social calculations. I blast out a last minute message to our language exchange group chat and ask if anyone wants to drink with us tonight. This way I'm not just awkwardly third-wheeling when I meet my buddy and HBPixieCut. A few people respond and decide to join us. I tell my buddy to let me know where they go together after dinner.
I meet them at a hookah bar with one other male friend who also happens to be interested in HBPixieCut, but I didn't know it at the time lol. He didn't do anything, though. My buddy and HBPixieCut are sitting across from each other. I sit myself right next to her, establishing a bit of kino immediately. Eventually my hand is on her thigh while we all talk together and she's receptive. Or maybe I put her hand on my thigh. Or maybe we were holding hands. Or maybe all of the above. I don't quite remember. It was all or mostly under the table.
As we finish our drinks and the hookah, I direct everyone to head to the next bar where we meet a few other friends from the language exchange chat. One of them was a lesbian who was ALSO interested in HBPixieCut. This girl is popular as hell.
As soon as I enter the second bar, I build up more social momentum by chatting with the first person I see, who happens to be US military and very, very muscular. I have zero attraction to men but I could tell this guy was extremely attractive, objectively speaking. I make some very quick social calculations and figure that I could use this guy to pump HBPixieCut's Buying Temperature, which I can steal later on. I know I can because he said he has to leave soon to meet some different friends. I introduce the two of them, talk up how cool this guy is, and she goes into full puppy-dog-eyes mode. He takes off his shirt to show off his tattoos and he is JACKED.
I wander off to greet all the other community members who arrived, chat a bit, etc. After a little while, I turn around to see HBPixieCut and that hot guy making out. Fortunately for me, I already know from chatting with him earlier that his logistics won't make it possible for him to take her away that night. I walk up to them when they are not actively eating each other's faces to give him props. I pretend to be super impressed and ask him how he's so good with girls. He gives me some generic advice I already know, but I tell him that he's a genius anyway. Eventually, he has to leave with some other friends, and I take HBPixieCut by the hand to bring her to the rest of our group.
I get close to her face, smile slyly, turn on sexual state, and say something like "Is it my turn now?" and start making out with her. The lesbian pulls me off of her saying, "She doesn't want it!" but HBPixieCut immediately tries to pull me back while saying, "Yes I do!"
lol
I ask her what she thinks of my buddy who she had dinner with. He's halfway across the bar talking to some other people. I tell her casually that he's also into her and we talked about a potential threesome. She plainly says she doesn't really feel it with him. My brain realigns the logistics plans. I eventually go and tell my buddy the bad news. He's OK with it. He goes home a little afterward.
I could have pulled then, and in hindsight I should have so that we could have more sexy times, but I was in the mood for more partying. I direct everyone who was still with us, which was about 5 or 6 people, to head out to karaoke. At the karaoke, I think the lesbian was trying to steal HBPixieCut, but I pulled her back. She and I left together after half an hour or so, leaving everyone else at the karaoke, and went back to my place. You know the rest.
Leadership and community building. These are important things that will make you more attractive, and will open a lot of doors for you.
One day, a friend and I decided to try our hand at a potential business venture. She thought that we could combine our partying with money-making. Before COVID, language exchange groups were pretty popular and probably made a good profit here in South Korea, but of course they took a dip after the pandemic. Since things were getting a lot safer, we started a new language exchange group and held parties every other weekend. We invited all our friends, put up ads to draw in more people, and all those people eventually invited other people. After a few months, it grew into a pretty thriving community for a while. We grew to have a big group chat with about 50 people, some of whom attended our parties every time we held one, and people naturally started making friends and more. Some of my friends started dating each other after meeting through our events.
As one of the main organizers, and as an American with American standards of doing business, I did my best to keep business and pleasure separate. Our community members/party attendees paid us an entrance fee each time we held an event. They were customers. I refrained from flirting with any of the customers... unless I knew they were definitely no longer going to be customers.
HBPixieCut was vacationing here and attended a couple of our events, and she was quite popular with most of our male clientele. She was certainly enjoying the attention! At first, I was purely being professional in my interactions with her. But then I learned that she would be leaving the country soon, and will thus no longer be attending our events. I kept my professional face on during the actual party, but I messaged her couple days after. I DMed her some photos from the last event.
Me: *photos*
Her: awww so cute
Me: no u (she hearted my message)
Me: where are you staying?
Her: hotel in (nearby area)
Me: ohhh nice what day do you leave again?
Her: (Date)
Me: hey can i call you right now really quick
Her: *she calls me through instagram*
I forgot the content of our call, but I remember doing some sort of weak SOI. The main thing here is that we touched base and I established a connection and started to transition into flirting. A couple days later:
Me: how's it goin
Her: honestly
Her: a bit complicated
Her: but fine
Her: u?
Me: not complicated lol what's your story
Her: Bob sooo pushy I feel like I need some space idk what to do :'( :'( :'(
Context: Bob is her friend who attended our parties along with her. When I spoke to both of them before during a party, they both made it clear that they are just friends. However, it seems that Bob had unrequited feelings for HBPixieCut.
Me: ah so he's into you
Me: no surprise
Me: wanna meet later and talk about it?
Her: I'm in (faraway city) lolll
Me: lol might as well just tell me here then XD
Her: *she calls me*
During this call, she tells me about how she's traveling with Bob, he's being a pushy AFC, but that she only sees him as a friend. She expresses some sort of guilt for making me listen to her problems, but I say that I'm happy to listen to her anytime especially because I find her very attractive. I also say that, even though I find her attractive just like Bob does, the difference is that I won't ever make her feel any pressure. She feels good about that. She tells me that she decided to tell Bob that she wants to go back to Seoul (where I am) the next day without him. The next day:
Me: did u tell him
Her: yes. he's staying here and I am coming back to seoul
Me: haha good job and congrats (she hearted my message)
Her: thanks :'( :'( :'( I feel so bad tho
Me: don't worry i'll make u feel better lol
Her: omggg
Me: by being a good listener
Me: why r u saying omg >
Her: *blushing emoji*
Then we just have other irrelevant fun and dumb conversation. The next day:
Me: when seoul?
Her: tonighttt
Me: time?
Her: idk
Me: ok keep me updated. where u stayin
Her: *sends me a voice note about having dinner plans with someone from our language exchange group who asked her out*
I know exactly who she's talking about. He's a buddy of mine and I had no idea he asked her out. We're already eskimo brothers lol. I message him to try to hash out logistics and resolve potential conflicts before they happen. I tell him that I'm interested in her, he tells me that he's also interested in her, we talk about a potential threesome, he's down. If she doesn't end up being OK with a threesome, I'm OK if she just goes home with him, and he's OK if she goes home with me.
I immediately make some social calculations. I blast out a last minute message to our language exchange group chat and ask if anyone wants to drink with us tonight. This way I'm not just awkwardly third-wheeling when I meet my buddy and HBPixieCut. A few people respond and decide to join us. I tell my buddy to let me know where they go together after dinner.
I meet them at a hookah bar with one other male friend who also happens to be interested in HBPixieCut, but I didn't know it at the time lol. He didn't do anything, though. My buddy and HBPixieCut are sitting across from each other. I sit myself right next to her, establishing a bit of kino immediately. Eventually my hand is on her thigh while we all talk together and she's receptive. Or maybe I put her hand on my thigh. Or maybe we were holding hands. Or maybe all of the above. I don't quite remember. It was all or mostly under the table.
As we finish our drinks and the hookah, I direct everyone to head to the next bar where we meet a few other friends from the language exchange chat. One of them was a lesbian who was ALSO interested in HBPixieCut. This girl is popular as hell.
As soon as I enter the second bar, I build up more social momentum by chatting with the first person I see, who happens to be US military and very, very muscular. I have zero attraction to men but I could tell this guy was extremely attractive, objectively speaking. I make some very quick social calculations and figure that I could use this guy to pump HBPixieCut's Buying Temperature, which I can steal later on. I know I can because he said he has to leave soon to meet some different friends. I introduce the two of them, talk up how cool this guy is, and she goes into full puppy-dog-eyes mode. He takes off his shirt to show off his tattoos and he is JACKED.
I wander off to greet all the other community members who arrived, chat a bit, etc. After a little while, I turn around to see HBPixieCut and that hot guy making out. Fortunately for me, I already know from chatting with him earlier that his logistics won't make it possible for him to take her away that night. I walk up to them when they are not actively eating each other's faces to give him props. I pretend to be super impressed and ask him how he's so good with girls. He gives me some generic advice I already know, but I tell him that he's a genius anyway. Eventually, he has to leave with some other friends, and I take HBPixieCut by the hand to bring her to the rest of our group.
I get close to her face, smile slyly, turn on sexual state, and say something like "Is it my turn now?" and start making out with her. The lesbian pulls me off of her saying, "She doesn't want it!" but HBPixieCut immediately tries to pull me back while saying, "Yes I do!"
lol
I ask her what she thinks of my buddy who she had dinner with. He's halfway across the bar talking to some other people. I tell her casually that he's also into her and we talked about a potential threesome. She plainly says she doesn't really feel it with him. My brain realigns the logistics plans. I eventually go and tell my buddy the bad news. He's OK with it. He goes home a little afterward.
I could have pulled then, and in hindsight I should have so that we could have more sexy times, but I was in the mood for more partying. I direct everyone who was still with us, which was about 5 or 6 people, to head out to karaoke. At the karaoke, I think the lesbian was trying to steal HBPixieCut, but I pulled her back. She and I left together after half an hour or so, leaving everyone else at the karaoke, and went back to my place. You know the rest.