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Try being a natural blonde, lol.
It’s a strange landscape to navigate. I was at a work conference in Las Vegas last week. Had a very hot bartender from LA slip me his number totally unsolicited on the day I arrived (dressed down and wearing almost no makeup) while I was having a drink with a female colleague who is black…..
The next day after a function one of the highest esteemed physicians at the meeting wanted to meet with me and proceeded to shamelessly hit on me, despite being a married Middle Eastern man with a wife & two kids. He’s infatuated with my looks in combination with my intellect and grounded personality.
And I can’t just tell that doctor to F off because he’s a big deal. So I had to politely decline his advances without getting all “Me Too” about it.
This is the sort of thing I have dealt with All. My. Adult. Life. So in those moments I’ve got to respect myself and my marriage and yet not offend the man who is being forward. That’s a skillset developed out of necessity. I’ve had to navigate situations like that literally countless times.
I’ve had people say, well you were too nice. Yeah but telling a powerful man to F off is a bad idea for several reasons. It can negatively impact my business and client relations, it offends the man in question, and it just isn’t very smart from a personal politics standpoint in an organization.
So at times you navigate those things deftly. The bartender was simple. Smile, accept the gesture, toss it in the trash after leaving, and never contact the dude.
I do think brunettes who dye their hair blonde, or blondes who go super bleach blonde are without exception attention seeking or have an inferiority complex. I have two brunette sisters who have never felt the need to go blonde. It’s not who they are.
So I think some of those sentiments in the thread have merit.
I’m circumspect about it; it’s cool, it is what it is.
It’s a strange landscape to navigate. I was at a work conference in Las Vegas last week. Had a very hot bartender from LA slip me his number totally unsolicited on the day I arrived (dressed down and wearing almost no makeup) while I was having a drink with a female colleague who is black…..
The next day after a function one of the highest esteemed physicians at the meeting wanted to meet with me and proceeded to shamelessly hit on me, despite being a married Middle Eastern man with a wife & two kids. He’s infatuated with my looks in combination with my intellect and grounded personality.
And I can’t just tell that doctor to F off because he’s a big deal. So I had to politely decline his advances without getting all “Me Too” about it.
This is the sort of thing I have dealt with All. My. Adult. Life. So in those moments I’ve got to respect myself and my marriage and yet not offend the man who is being forward. That’s a skillset developed out of necessity. I’ve had to navigate situations like that literally countless times.
I’ve had people say, well you were too nice. Yeah but telling a powerful man to F off is a bad idea for several reasons. It can negatively impact my business and client relations, it offends the man in question, and it just isn’t very smart from a personal politics standpoint in an organization.
So at times you navigate those things deftly. The bartender was simple. Smile, accept the gesture, toss it in the trash after leaving, and never contact the dude.
I do think brunettes who dye their hair blonde, or blondes who go super bleach blonde are without exception attention seeking or have an inferiority complex. I have two brunette sisters who have never felt the need to go blonde. It’s not who they are.
So I think some of those sentiments in the thread have merit.
I’m circumspect about it; it’s cool, it is what it is.