Eros’ 6 Rules on How to Be the Best Lover
1. Slow and passionate is better than fast and anxious
Many men get nervous when first seducing or making love to a woman, and that feeling of anxiety and nervousness can scare her off. The easiest way to come off confident in bed and in seduction is to SLOW THINGS DOWN. Slow down your kissing just enough to gain comfortability, slow down your licks when you’re starting to please her, slow down when teasing her or giving her a show. It shows that you aren’t in a rush and that you’re confident where it’s all going to end up. Whatever you need to facilitate that, such as mood music, taking an edible, dimming the lights, or whatever else you need, then do it. Nothing is sexier than confidence.
2. High energy beats low energy any day of the week
Many people, in general, aren’t engaged in what they do, whether it's their job, an activity, or conversations with family and friends at the dinner table. Often, we are not concentrating or putting any enthusiasm or energy into our everyday actions. This lack of engagement can manifest in the bedroom too. Don’t be that guy. Show your lover that you’re present with her and in this sexual experience. Display your lust, intensity, primal instincts, and passion. Show and tell her that you enjoy how she feels, that you love her body, and so on. This is the easiest way to separate yourself from everyone else in any aspect of life, not just in the bedroom. Pro tip: Through your actions in the bedroom, try to show her how much lust and love you have for her without saying it at all.
3.Don’t forget technique and adaptability
Many women over the years have said the biggest problem they had with previous partners was the man’s inability to know what he was doing in the bedroom or, even worse, not being adaptable or coachable to improve. Although energy, instincts, and lust matter, they are not as effective without proper technique. Deep and slow when making love to a woman is 100 times better than jackhammering (women hate that). Fingering a woman palm up and giving her a nice G-spot massage with the come-hither motion slow and sensual is better than jamming the fingers straight in and out (again, women hate that), and listening to her guide you when she says to go faster, slower, harder, softer, or says she really likes something you’re doing – you must be able to take that feedback and implement it virtually immediately. And for the love of God, if she says “Yes, just like that,” don’t stop; just keep doing what you’re doing.
4.Get to know what she likes, give it to her better than anyone else has, and refine your method
Plenty of men don’t attempt to know what a woman likes or wants in bed. They just go straight for the jugular, get their rocks off without pleasing her, and wonder why these women never call them the next day to do it again. You want to know what she likes. Every woman is slightly different, although there are similarities. Some women prefer being fingered, some really love receiving oral sex, others like being penetrated deeply and vigorously, and might see other sex acts as nice additions. Get to know her combination, so to speak; give it to her well, go above and beyond if needed, and perfect that technique through practice and feedback. If she loves being fingered, for instance, and you’re the best at it, trust me, she will depend on you for her fix like a drug addict depends on their dealer.
5. Being dominant and assertive is essential, but every woman needs a different dosage.
I consider myself more of a daddy dom. I like to lead and be dominant in the bedroom, but I am not rough doing it; it's more in a loving, nurturing, guiding, and gentle kind of way. I can switch things up, but that is my default style. Some women need a man to be highly dominant in bed; others like a moderate amount of dominance. Every woman is a little different. Of course, you can adapt and adjust based on her needs, but you will eventually want to find someone who matches your speed and style of dominance, both in and out of bed.
6.Sex is the most surefire way to get a woman to fall and stay in love with you.
So many men, even in their later years, still think the way to a woman’s heart is through flowers, cards, candy, expensive dinners, paying her bills, etc., while she is getting her back blown out and reaching climax like a waterfall at night from a guy she actually wants, who can’t rub two nickels together. If you really want her to fall for you, you need to focus on being the best you can be in the bedroom and looking sexually attractive. That will override everything else to get to her heart, and to maintain her love for you, you must continue to be the best you can be in bed. In theory, you could have so many other things working against you as a man, so many flaws and red flags that any sensible person would tell the woman that you aren’t right for her. Still, if you know how to perform properly, you can pretty much get away with all the other flaws. Gifts and everything else are nice after that bond is made, and she is sexually attracted to you because women don’t give a **** about those material things if she isn’t sexually attracted to you anyways, and they won’t get her to love you, but mind-blowing sex will.
1. Slow and passionate is better than fast and anxious
Many men get nervous when first seducing or making love to a woman, and that feeling of anxiety and nervousness can scare her off. The easiest way to come off confident in bed and in seduction is to SLOW THINGS DOWN. Slow down your kissing just enough to gain comfortability, slow down your licks when you’re starting to please her, slow down when teasing her or giving her a show. It shows that you aren’t in a rush and that you’re confident where it’s all going to end up. Whatever you need to facilitate that, such as mood music, taking an edible, dimming the lights, or whatever else you need, then do it. Nothing is sexier than confidence.
2. High energy beats low energy any day of the week
Many people, in general, aren’t engaged in what they do, whether it's their job, an activity, or conversations with family and friends at the dinner table. Often, we are not concentrating or putting any enthusiasm or energy into our everyday actions. This lack of engagement can manifest in the bedroom too. Don’t be that guy. Show your lover that you’re present with her and in this sexual experience. Display your lust, intensity, primal instincts, and passion. Show and tell her that you enjoy how she feels, that you love her body, and so on. This is the easiest way to separate yourself from everyone else in any aspect of life, not just in the bedroom. Pro tip: Through your actions in the bedroom, try to show her how much lust and love you have for her without saying it at all.
3.Don’t forget technique and adaptability
Many women over the years have said the biggest problem they had with previous partners was the man’s inability to know what he was doing in the bedroom or, even worse, not being adaptable or coachable to improve. Although energy, instincts, and lust matter, they are not as effective without proper technique. Deep and slow when making love to a woman is 100 times better than jackhammering (women hate that). Fingering a woman palm up and giving her a nice G-spot massage with the come-hither motion slow and sensual is better than jamming the fingers straight in and out (again, women hate that), and listening to her guide you when she says to go faster, slower, harder, softer, or says she really likes something you’re doing – you must be able to take that feedback and implement it virtually immediately. And for the love of God, if she says “Yes, just like that,” don’t stop; just keep doing what you’re doing.
4.Get to know what she likes, give it to her better than anyone else has, and refine your method
Plenty of men don’t attempt to know what a woman likes or wants in bed. They just go straight for the jugular, get their rocks off without pleasing her, and wonder why these women never call them the next day to do it again. You want to know what she likes. Every woman is slightly different, although there are similarities. Some women prefer being fingered, some really love receiving oral sex, others like being penetrated deeply and vigorously, and might see other sex acts as nice additions. Get to know her combination, so to speak; give it to her well, go above and beyond if needed, and perfect that technique through practice and feedback. If she loves being fingered, for instance, and you’re the best at it, trust me, she will depend on you for her fix like a drug addict depends on their dealer.
5. Being dominant and assertive is essential, but every woman needs a different dosage.
I consider myself more of a daddy dom. I like to lead and be dominant in the bedroom, but I am not rough doing it; it's more in a loving, nurturing, guiding, and gentle kind of way. I can switch things up, but that is my default style. Some women need a man to be highly dominant in bed; others like a moderate amount of dominance. Every woman is a little different. Of course, you can adapt and adjust based on her needs, but you will eventually want to find someone who matches your speed and style of dominance, both in and out of bed.
6.Sex is the most surefire way to get a woman to fall and stay in love with you.
So many men, even in their later years, still think the way to a woman’s heart is through flowers, cards, candy, expensive dinners, paying her bills, etc., while she is getting her back blown out and reaching climax like a waterfall at night from a guy she actually wants, who can’t rub two nickels together. If you really want her to fall for you, you need to focus on being the best you can be in the bedroom and looking sexually attractive. That will override everything else to get to her heart, and to maintain her love for you, you must continue to be the best you can be in bed. In theory, you could have so many other things working against you as a man, so many flaws and red flags that any sensible person would tell the woman that you aren’t right for her. Still, if you know how to perform properly, you can pretty much get away with all the other flaws. Gifts and everything else are nice after that bond is made, and she is sexually attracted to you because women don’t give a **** about those material things if she isn’t sexually attracted to you anyways, and they won’t get her to love you, but mind-blowing sex will.
