How to fix this - dated her for 2 months and she kinda backs away

sosuave213

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Bro I mean....you don't see her on the weekends. Gotta make that time bro.
 

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The forum is most certainly right again. It's also good for me to have some reflection on myself and the whole story.

Some updates. I will indeed tone it down some notches in general.

thnx
Are you gonna see her on the weekends bro?
 

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The forum is most certainly right again. It's also good for me to have some reflection on myself and the whole story.

Some updates. I will indeed tone it down some notches in general.

thnx
You never set yourself up well with women because you get needy and the vibe I get is that you think you're the player that you're really NOT.

This chick is showing you high interest and you seem to like her. 2 months is a decent amount of time to see a chick consistently. Yet you act confused when she starts playing the same game you're trying to play (poorly I might add) with her.

If you like this chick, start actually dating her. For once it seems you've found someone that likes you for a decent stretch of time and you blow it.

Reach out to her. Have her come over and make her dinner. Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her and start seeing her on the weekends bro. That's what adults do. Stop playing little kid games and then wonder why they take their ball and go home.
 

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well could you please explain just a bit, I’m open for critics so I can learn from it man
From the first half of your post, it’s obvious that she wants to be your GF and you don’t (or at least you’re acting like you don’t). All these rules about who’s going to text whom first, the 80/20 thing, not going out with her on weekends, acting aloof, etc. She must be fairly desperate to stick around for two months but it appears that even her patience is running short and she’s starting to copy your game playing behavior.
 
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You aren't properly calibrated to whats going on. Thats why you got in the predicament you are in. Sure some game playing in the early stages keeps them on their toes, but over time you have to reel some of that in.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
 

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i do admit that the killing and prison thing wasn’t a good move. She probably told her parents which told her to leave me alone. She discuss everything with her mom. And I think that changed some of her longterm possible views. Though I don’t acted to weird or paranoid at all. You assume that wrongly.

@billy nah, I never raised my voice, never gotten angry never acted jealous never asked something about her male friends or if she saw other men or anything like that. I think h assume that because I said I could kill someone. I’m a professional boxer so it’s just in my blood to have that warrior mindset and she knows that
I would never date a murdered. WTF?
 

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There are so many mistakes on your part I don’t know where to start. In summary, you play a lot of childish games and do not understand game.
 

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You never set yourself up well with women because you get needy and the vibe I get is that you think you're the player that you're really NOT.

This chick is showing you high interest and you seem to like her. 2 months is a decent amount of time to see a chick consistently. Yet you act confused when she starts playing the same game you're trying to play (poorly I might add) with her.

If you like this chick, start actually dating her. For once it seems you've found someone that likes you for a decent stretch of time and you blow it.

Reach out to her. Have her come over and make her dinner. Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her and start seeing her on the weekends bro. That's what adults do. Stop playing little kid games and then wonder why they take their ball and go home.
Congrats on being moderator @Glassguy
I had enough women I dated fvcked and so on I never wrote about because I simply didn’t care. I only write when i am really are into her
 

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Congrats on being moderator @Glassguy
I had enough women I dated fvcked and so on I never wrote about because I simply didn’t care. I only write when i am really are into her
It seems you make the same basic mistakes with every women you write about. You can say whatever you want, I want to see some progress in these reports that are months and years apart and yet we still read the same mistakes over and over again.

You seem to be trying to "play a role" with women, trying to be something you either are not or over-exaggerating it. The women seem to pick up on this.

When do you plan on actually learning from your mistakes instead of continuously making the same ones?
 
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Congrats on being moderator @Glassguy
I had enough women I dated fvcked and so on I never wrote about because I simply didn’t care. I only write when i am really are into her
Thanks. And I understand that, but if you were really into her, why did you play games about not seeing her on the weekends?
 

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You’re gonna do what you’re gonna do, but act how brad pitt would. Would you care about someone who’s been in your life for two months.
 
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