Do you think chicks go for "fukboys" because the chicks like being mistreated, or because the fukboys are Chads, and they put up with it b/c of this?

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I was watching this video, and it got me interested. There is a part early on where the chick-psychologist talks about fukboys.


my opinion: The fukboys are Chads, and the chicks put up with being plated because they want Chad, but wish that they'd wife them up. The supposed reasons of actually liking this behavior is just gaslighting. :rolleyes:
 

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I was watching this video, and it got me interested. There is a part early on where the chick-psychologist talks about fukboys.


my opinion: The fukboys are Chads, and the chicks put up with being plated because they want Chad, but wish that they'd wife them up. The supposed reasons of actually liking this behavior is just gaslighting. :rolleyes:
I would think females like them because they are fun and exciting. Sometimes they get attached to them, and that's when they turn on them and attack them.
 

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I was a fuhk boy to a few. I filled the fun and exciting role. I saw them as hot and a good time and that's all I wanted as well. We both got what we wanted at the time.

2 of them knew better than to be in a relationship with me, although they would have been on board had I wanted to commit.

Women are only going to go so long with out some form of commitment.
 

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Women use the word "fvckboy" as a condescending term, but all it really means is a man who has options (and isn't afraid to exercise them). They hold the masculine traits that women desire. Women will continue to go for them, and continue to be "hurt" by them.

Don't fall for the trap. If a woman ever calls you a "fvckboy", it's actually a good thing. It's just another term feminists made up to try and emasculate men. Women who use this term are generally trashy women. They get pumped and dumped, and no man will ever take them seriously, so everyone is a "fvckboy". But they're the ones who allow it to happen.
 

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What was way more interesting was her take on 'distraction-free dating' and 'good phone hygiene' (about an hour into the video), which confirms my perspective on not allowing someone keep their phone on the table, because according to her even a phone that is facedown on the table gives the sense that maybe the deep conversation that you want to have will be interrupted by the phone.
 

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The imagery that comes up is always the guy with a lean silhouette and nice fashion. Basically, the top echelon of men below having status. Aka, the guy most low attractive women cannot get. Not meant to be taken seriously. Heard it a lot in high school. As the fool I was, I thought being the opposite meant I would be better. Boy was I wrong back then.
 

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Women use the word "fvckboy" as a condescending term, but all it really means is a man who has options (and isn't afraid to exercise them). They hold the masculine traits that women desire. Women will continue to go for them, and continue to be "hurt" by them.

Don't fall for the trap. If a woman ever calls you a "fvckboy", it's actually a good thing. It's just another term feminists made up to try and emasculate men. Women who use this term are generally trashy women.
I agree with all of this. It is good for a man to be considered a fukboy, but it is typically a term used for younger men. I've rarely heard of that term being applied to men 35-50.

Women are only going to go so long with out some form of commitment.
How long do you think that is? I think it would depend on many factors, but rarely more than 1-2 years.

Older woman - younger man relationships without commitment are typically 6-12 month things of fun. Generally, I do not think it is a good use of time to go after older women, but I can sort of excuse it before age 25. Once a man turns 25, he's older than enough women to only date women younger than he is. Even if she's something like 2-3 months younger, that's still younger in one's mid-20s.

It's more difficult to go 5+ years younger. There's a reason the typical age gap in most couples is something like 1-4 years.
 

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I agree with all of this. It is good for a man to be considered a fukboy, but it is typically a term used for younger men. I've rarely heard of that term being applied to men 35-50.
I got called it once. I think cause the women who used it grew up, it's just a natural part of their vocabulary.
 

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I agree with all of this. It is good for a man to be considered a fukboy, but it is typically a term used for younger men. I've rarely heard of that term being applied to men 35-50.



How long do you think that is? I think it would depend on many factors, but rarely more than 1-2 years.

Older woman - younger man relationships without commitment are typically 6-12 month things of fun. Generally, I do not think it is a good use of time to go after older women, but I can sort of excuse it before age 25. Once a man turns 25, he's older than enough women to only date women younger than he is. Even if she's something like 2-3 months younger, that's still younger in one's mid-20s.

It's more difficult to go 5+ years younger. There's a reason the typical age gap in most couples is something like 1-4 years.
I think there are so many factors that go into that. SMV of each person, baby rabies, desire for a Disney fairy tale wedding, her friends/family influence, money, age. The only thing for sure is the more impressive you are in her eyes, the more she will tolerate and longer she will wait.
 

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Only broken women go for toxic men. Before the Triggered attack me, apply the 80/20 or 90/10 rule to women and it makes sense.
Perhaps this is also applicable for OLD. 80% of women are broken, 20%are not.

So 80% of men keep encountering these broken women. Before you know it you ran through 10 broken women and assumes most women are like this.

But still, the toxic man whose heavily sought after is a cultural phenomenon that we can't deny bro..from 50 shades pf grey to most popsongs, they're all about the toxic man who she can't let go. The time of "Cherish the love " types of songs is LONG gone.
 

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Perhaps this is also applicable for OLD. 80% of women are broken, 20%are not.

So 80% of men keep encountering these broken women. Before you know it you ran through 10 broken women and assumes most women are like this.

But still, the toxic man whose heavily sought after is a cultural phenomenon that we can't deny bro..from 50 shades pf grey to most popsongs, they're all about the toxic man who she can't let go. The time of "Cherish the love " types of songs is LONG gone.
There is no such thing as "toxic" men. Cornbread uses feminine vocabulary constantly. And I am pretty sure they are a woman so dont take everything they say as worthy of truth.

The man in 50 shades of gray is just a masculine man. Women just want a dominant man. "Toxic" is just women going "he's beyond my reach to get."
 

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The man in 50 shades of gray is just a masculine man. Women just want a dominant man. "Toxic" is just women going "he's beyond my reach to get."
Actually, Christian Grey is a fictional character written by a woman with 'issues' who thinks that narcissism and abuse is dominant.
 

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Actually, Christian Grey is a fictional character written by a woman with 'issues' who thinks that narcissism and abuse is dominant.
I don't take what women say what they want directly. However, I understand that the character is an overcorrection of their feminist mindsets. The abuse is just an extreme ideal of making her submissive and the narcissism is the destruction of the fairy tale in society that women are always right. Which they do not believe themselves cause all women are insecure.
 

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I don't take what women say what they want directly. However, I understand that the character is an overcorrection of their feminist mindsets. The abuse is just an extreme ideal of making her submissive and the narcissism is the destruction of the fairy tale in society that women are always right. Which they do not believe themselves cause all women are insecure.
Indeed. E.L. James seems to think that the narcissistic abuse is 'kink' or 'B.D.S.M.', but his ash-holery is masked by the 'but he's so handsome and rich' trope. Strip away the 'billionaire boyfriend' and his actions are plain domestic abuse.
 

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Women use the word "fvckboy" as a condescending term, but all it really means is a man who has options (and isn't afraid to exercise them). They hold the masculine traits that women desire. Women will continue to go for them, and continue to be "hurt" by them.

Don't fall for the trap. If a woman ever calls you a "fvckboy", it's actually a good thing. It's just another term feminists made up to try and emasculate men. Women who use this term are generally trashy women. They get pumped and dumped, and no man will ever take them seriously, so everyone is a "fvckboy". But they're the ones who allow it to happen.
It can be a guy with a lot of options but it usually refers to a guy who is extremely good looking but cannot get his life together. Like a male model-looking bartender who's 30 years old with no degree, no money, no assets, living with 3 roommates, but gets laid a lot. High value women will f*ck the guy but the women are usually the ones that will leave it at that. That's probably a better definition.

Remember, women don't care about the struggle, and certainly don't want to go through it with a guy, but will wait at the finish line of the Success Race and LTR/marry/f*ck the winners.
 
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