6 Red Flags I’ve Seen in Real Life Worth Considering

[self_is_an_illusion]

From my experiences and observations, here are some red flags that really stand out:

Continued Close Contact with Exes: When someone can’t seem to cut the cord with their exes, it often screams boundary issues or an inability to let go of the past. Sure, it’s fine to be friendly with an ex, but if your new partner is overly involved with theirs, you’re likely heading for a world of unnecessary drama and trust headaches.

Sleeps with a Lot of People: A track record of jumping from bed to bed can be a glaring warning sign of mismatched relationship goals. If they’re known for their extensive romantic escapades, brace yourself for potential conflicts over monogamy, commitment, and even sexual health.

Sexual Abuse Victim: Dealing with a partner who’s a sexual abuse survivor is no walk in the park. They come with a suitcase full of intense emotional issues. It takes a ton of support and understanding to handle this, and not everyone’s cut out for it.

Anxiety Disorder: Entering a relationship with someone who has an anxiety disorder can be like walking on eggshells. Their constant worry and stress can be draining, not just for them but for you as well. It’s a condition that requires patience and understanding, and let’s be honest, it can be a real test of your own mental and emotional stability.

Grew Up Without a Dad: Lacking a father figure often leaves behind some deep emotional scars. These individuals might grapple with trust issues or a fear of being left alone, adding extra layers of complexity to a relationship.

Past Pregnancies: Having been pregnant before, especially if they’re still tied up in co-parenting, opens up a whole can of worms in terms of extra responsibilities and emotional baggage. It’s a situation that demands a lot more than the usual relationship readiness.

Have you guys seen any of these and how did it play out?

 

[soulforge]

From my experiences and observations, here are some red flags that really stand out:

Continued Close Contact with Exes: When someone can’t seem to cut the cord with their exes, it often screams boundary issues or an inability to let go of the past. Sure, it’s fine to be friendly with an ex, but if your new partner is overly involved with theirs, you’re likely heading for a world of unnecessary drama and trust headaches.

Sleeps with a Lot of People: A track record of jumping from bed to bed can be a glaring warning sign of mismatched relationship goals. If they’re known for their extensive romantic escapades, brace yourself for potential conflicts over monogamy, commitment, and even sexual health.

Sexual Abuse Victim: Dealing with a partner who’s a sexual abuse survivor is no walk in the park. They come with a suitcase full of intense emotional issues. It takes a ton of support and understanding to handle this, and not everyone’s cut out for it.

Anxiety Disorder: Entering a relationship with someone who has an anxiety disorder can be like walking on eggshells. Their constant worry and stress can be draining, not just for them but for you as well. It’s a condition that requires patience and understanding, and let’s be honest, it can be a real test of your own mental and emotional stability.

Grew Up Without a Dad: Lacking a father figure often leaves behind some deep emotional scars. These individuals might grapple with trust issues or a fear of being left alone, adding extra layers of complexity to a relationship.

Past Pregnancies: Having been pregnant before, especially if they’re still tied up in co-parenting, opens up a whole can of worms in terms of extra responsibilities and emotional baggage. It’s a situation that demands a lot more than the usual relationship readiness.

Have you guys seen any of these and how did it play out?

Excellent list my friend.

The biggest red flag here is a girl growing up without a father in her life.. Pretty much all Cluster B disorders stem from a girl lacking that masculine father figure.

Daddy wasn't around growing up, where do these girls end up seeking that masculine protective energy that is lacking in there lives? Yup from the streets. They generally start fvcking early and in most cases with much older Alpha men.

They get imprinted by Chad & Tyrone at a very young age.

They don't know how to treat a masculine man with respect, because they have never seen what that looks like growing up.

By the time they hit age 23-24-25 they have collected so much trauma from all the men who have pumped and dumped them, that they are damaged for life (unless they seek therapy)

Don't be a captain save a hoe.. always ask these chicks about there relationship with the father.. Save yourself future Heartbreak.

 

[soulforge]

From my experiences and observations, here are some red flags that really stand out:

Continued Close Contact with Exes: When someone can’t seem to cut the cord with their exes, it often screams boundary issues or an inability to let go of the past. Sure, it’s fine to be friendly with an ex, but if your new partner is overly involved with theirs, you’re likely heading for a world of unnecessary drama and trust headaches.

Sleeps with a Lot of People: A track record of jumping from bed to bed can be a glaring warning sign of mismatched relationship goals. If they’re known for their extensive romantic escapades, brace yourself for potential conflicts over monogamy, commitment, and even sexual health.

Sexual Abuse Victim: Dealing with a partner who’s a sexual abuse survivor is no walk in the park. They come with a suitcase full of intense emotional issues. It takes a ton of support and understanding to handle this, and not everyone’s cut out for it.

Anxiety Disorder: Entering a relationship with someone who has an anxiety disorder can be like walking on eggshells. Their constant worry and stress can be draining, not just for them but for you as well. It’s a condition that requires patience and understanding, and let’s be honest, it can be a real test of your own mental and emotional stability.

Grew Up Without a Dad: Lacking a father figure often leaves behind some deep emotional scars. These individuals might grapple with trust issues or a fear of being left alone, adding extra layers of complexity to a relationship.

Past Pregnancies: Having been pregnant before, especially if they’re still tied up in co-parenting, opens up a whole can of worms in terms of extra responsibilities and emotional baggage. It’s a situation that demands a lot more than the usual relationship readiness.

Have you guys seen any of these and how did it play out?

And yes.. Have experienced several of these.

01. No Father figure in the picture
02. Traumatic upbringing sexual abuse
03. Anti depressants anxiety disorders
04. Lots of male friends
05. Promiscuis lifestyle

Run... It never ends well.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Excellent list my friend.

The biggest red flag here is a girl growing up without a father in her life.. Pretty much all Cluster B disorders stem from a girl lacking that masculine father figure.

Daddy wasn't around growing up, where do these girls end up seeking that masculine protective energy that is lacking in there lives? Yup from the streets. They generally start fvcking early and in most cases with much older Alpha men.

They get imprinted by Chad & Tyrone at a very young age.

They don't know how to treat a masculine man with respect, because they have never seen what that looks like growing up.

By the time they hit age 23-24-25 they have collected so much trauma from all the men who have pumped and dumped them, that they are damaged for life (unless they seek therapy)

Don't be a captain save a hoe.. always ask these chicks about there relationship with the father.. Save yourself future Heartbreak.

It’s a bummer to have my idealized image of a girl I like be tarnished by the idea of her being railed by Chad and Tyrone. Ultimately this breaking of the spell is important for treating oneitis. It’s just so easy to give girls a pass and practice self-deception because she’s pretty and gives me attention.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

And yes.. Have experienced several of these.

01. No Father figure in the picture
02. Traumatic upbringing sexual abuse
03. Anti depressants anxiety disorders
04. Lots of male friends
05. Promiscuis lifestyle

Run... It never ends well.

Thanks for getting back to me bro. Crazy how prevalent these things are.

 

[soulforge]

Thanks for getting back to me bro. Crazy how prevalent these things are.

Since the break up of the nuclear family & the father being pushed out of the house.. These damaged young girls raised by single moms will be very prevelant.

 

[soulforge]

Honestly most of the time the red flags reflect their behavior and attitude. It’s actually so easy to avoid damaged woman unless you are dealing with a high functioning psychopath, most of the time you should be able to sense instinctually that you are dealing with someone you should stay away from. Everytime I felt that, I was right there was no instance where I judged once wrong. Sometimes I believe some people just deliberately choose a woman with major red flags, because of their insecurities and it’s related past experiences

You make a very good point @DonBig

When you're around a crazy one, instinctively you can sense it, she is not good girlfriend material, however most of us don't go into these situations with the notion of turning her into an LTR, we often see the red flags and keep her around for sex only..

But at some point sex only turns into.. I'm beginning to like this chick, and this is When your troubles start.

You make a good point about walking away.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Honestly most of the time the red flags reflect their behavior and attitude. It’s actually so easy to avoid damaged woman unless you are dealing with a high functioning psychopath, most of the time you should be able to sense instinctually that you are dealing with someone you should stay away from. Everytime I felt that, I was right there was no instance where I judged once wrong. Sometimes I believe some people just deliberately choose a woman with major red flags, because of their insecurities and it’s related past experiences

bro if their face is symmetrical literally all those flags turn green i don’t know what the fu—ck it is. The male brain is so stupid.

 

[soulforge]

bro if their face is symmetrical literally all those flags turn green i don’t know what the fu—ck it is. The male brain is so stupid.

Depends.. Once you have been burned by a toxic witch once or twice you become alot more cautious about the red flags.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If you're looking at these type of women for monogamous LTRs, you are deluding yourself.

"This is my rifle, this is my gun; one is for fighting, the other for fun."

 

[soulforge]

I've noticed the damaged one's will be very upfront about all the trauma or BS they have been dealing with. They literally tell you who they are... However often dudes believe they can fix her and make her a better person.

 

[jaygreenb]

Excellent list my friend.

The biggest red flag here is a girl growing up without a father in her life.. Pretty much all Cluster B disorders stem from a girl lacking that masculine father figure.

Daddy wasn't around growing up, where do these girls end up seeking that masculine protective energy that is lacking in there lives? Yup from the streets. They generally start fvcking early and in most cases with much older Alpha men.

They get imprinted by Chad & Tyrone at a very young age.

They don't know how to treat a masculine man with respect, because they have never seen what that looks like growing up.

By the time they hit age 23-24-25 they have collected so much trauma from all the men who have pumped and dumped them, that they are damaged for life (unless they seek therapy)

Don't be a captain save a hoe.. always ask these chicks about there relationship with the father.. Save yourself future Heartbreak.

From what I have seen, they have a crazy mother as well who was a massive ho who cheated and blew up all their relationships that the daughter saw growing up

 

[soulforge]

From what I have seen, they have a crazy mother as well who was a massive ho who cheated and blew up all their relationships that the daughter saw growing up

This is true and explains why the biological father is not in the picture.

If the mother is a crazy hoe, then it's likely the father dipped.

My ex's father was an alcoholic and died while she was young.. I wonder what drove this man to alcohol?

If he had a happy marriage with his wife, I doubt he would have resorted to drinking alcohol every day.

The mother usually has a string of boyfriends who come and go, and the daughter gets to hear her mom getting fvcked in the bedroom nextdoor.

Seriously girls raised without a father is the biggest red flag.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

I've noticed the damaged one's will be very upfront about all the trauma or BS they have been dealing with. They literally tell you who they are... However often dudes believe they can fix her and make her a better person.

I've noticed the damaged one's will be very upfront about all the trauma or BS they have been dealing with. They literally tell you who they are... However often dudes believe they can fix her and make her a better person.

DON’T SAVE HER

 

[CornbreadFed]

These are common sense

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

These are common sense

if she’s attractive, you risk overlooking things because you want to fu—ck. So it’s good to go over the basics.

 

[RangerMIke]

From my experiences and observations, here are some red flags that really stand out:

Continued Close Contact with Exes: When someone can’t seem to cut the cord with their exes, it often screams boundary issues or an inability to let go of the past. Sure, it’s fine to be friendly with an ex, but if your new partner is overly involved with theirs, you’re likely heading for a world of unnecessary drama and trust headaches.

Sleeps with a Lot of People: A track record of jumping from bed to bed can be a glaring warning sign of mismatched relationship goals. If they’re known for their extensive romantic escapades, brace yourself for potential conflicts over monogamy, commitment, and even sexual health.

Sexual Abuse Victim: Dealing with a partner who’s a sexual abuse survivor is no walk in the park. They come with a suitcase full of intense emotional issues. It takes a ton of support and understanding to handle this, and not everyone’s cut out for it.

Anxiety Disorder: Entering a relationship with someone who has an anxiety disorder can be like walking on eggshells. Their constant worry and stress can be draining, not just for them but for you as well. It’s a condition that requires patience and understanding, and let’s be honest, it can be a real test of your own mental and emotional stability.

Grew Up Without a Dad: Lacking a father figure often leaves behind some deep emotional scars. These individuals might grapple with trust issues or a fear of being left alone, adding extra layers of complexity to a relationship.

Past Pregnancies: Having been pregnant before, especially if they’re still tied up in co-parenting, opens up a whole can of worms in terms of extra responsibilities and emotional baggage. It’s a situation that demands a lot more than the usual relationship readiness.

Have you guys seen any of these and how did it play out?

Growing up without a Dad... or with an abusive Dad... causes all the other problems. They have abandonment issues, and difficulty setting boundaries which often leads to getting into abusive relationships. A women's relationship with her father is the single biggest factor in success with a relationship. If it's bad or non-existent, then the woman is going to need a lot of therapy to get over that.

Having a great Dad is no guarantee of success, but not having one or having an abusive one, is all but guaranteed to be an issue.

 

[MtmVaott]

My personal deal breakers:
- entitled
- overly ambitious

 

[soulforge]

Growing up without a Dad... or with an abusive Dad... causes all the other problems. They have abandonment issues, and difficulty setting boundaries which often leads to getting into abusive relationships. A women's relationship with her father is the single biggest factor in success with a relationship. If it's bad or non-existent, then the woman is going to need a lot of therapy to get over that.

Having a great Dad is no guarantee of success, but not having one or having an abusive one, is all but guaranteed to be an issue.

Honestly I keep pointing this out.

Girls who are raised without a father, have a whole bucket load of issues.

Most BPD/NPD types come from Single mom households.

Most have been ran through, promiscuous girls tend to come from Single mom households.

The point you make about girls raised without a father are more likely to get into abusive relationships is actually very true.

However it can go the other way too. Girls raised without a father growing up, lacked decipline from a masculine father figure, who set boundaries for her, she also never learned how to treat a masculine man with respect, considering a masculine man was never in the household.

These types of girls are more likely to treat men like crap, disrespect men and detest boundaries form male authority.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

My personal deal breakers:
- entitled
- overly ambitious

The entitlement is a bit—ch. You will be sucked dry with nothing return. And it erodes your faith in humanity.