Is sex too overrated?

[RSDCharlie]

I have had a very active sex life. There was a time a few years ago when I was kinda addicted to sex. Was doing it almost every weekend, sometimes even every day. I'm in my mid-30s now, unmarried. And do have sex occasionally. Like once or twice a month.

But the reason I ask this question is, why is sex so overhyped? I mean it's fun and everything, but gets boring really quickly. I haven't kept a lay count, could have reached 100 maybe.

But why is sex so overrated? It's not like anyone gains any special insight after having sex. But it's so prevalent in society, in movies or TV shows, and for some people in this forum, it's like the only goal in life.

I honestly feel when I'm not having sex for a long time and exercising regularly, I'm just more energetic and focused on other goals in life. After having sex, all my aggression and energy go away. It's like a vicious circle.

Just a rant. And the guys who are reading this who don't have an active sex life, trust me you're not missing much. Sex is boring and just empties you inside.

 

[SW15]

Sex is not overrated. It is properly rated. It's a basic human need. When men go without sex for too long, it is bad for their mental health.

 

[Ricky]

I think sex becomes a manner of validation for alot of us. I know that was the case for sure in the past for me

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

But the reason I ask this question is, why is sex so overhyped? I mean it's fun and everything, but gets boring really quickly.

Well, you're clearly not doing it right from my perspective, I'm in my 50's I have sex just about every day, sometimes with more than one partner and not quickies. It works for me.

 

[Epicenter]

I have had a very active sex life. There was a time a few years ago when I was kinda addicted to sex. Was doing it almost every weekend, sometimes even every day. I'm in my mid-30s now, unmarried. And do have sex occasionally. Like once or twice a month.

But the reason I ask this question is, why is sex so overhyped? I mean it's fun and everything, but gets boring really quickly. I haven't kept a lay count, could have reached 100 maybe.

But why is sex so overrated? It's not like anyone gains any special insight after having sex. But it's so prevalent in society, in movies or TV shows, and for some people in this forum, it's like the only goal in life.

I honestly feel when I'm not having sex for a long time and exercising regularly, I'm just more energetic and focused on other goals in life. After having sex, all my aggression and energy go away. It's like a vicious circle.

Just a rant. And the guys who are reading this who don't have an active sex life, trust me you're not missing much. Sex is boring and just empties you inside.

From google AI:

In his essay "The Metaphysics of Sexual Love," Arthur Schopenhauer argues that sexual love is a biological trick that nature uses to ensure the continuation of the species. He believes that when we fall in love, we are actually being deceived by our own unconscious minds, which are trying to push us towards a partner who has the ideal characteristics for producing offspring.

Schopenhauer begins by arguing that sexual desire is the strongest of all human drives. It is the only drive that cannot be satisfied in any way other than through procreation. This suggests that sexual desire is not really about our own individual pleasure, but rather about the will-to-life, which is the universal force that drives all living things to reproduce.

Schopenhauer then goes on to argue that romantic love is an illusion. He believes that when we fall in love, we are not really seeing the other person for who they are. Instead, we are seeing them through the lens of our own unconscious desires. We are projecting our own ideal qualities onto them and ignoring their flaws.

The purpose of this illusion, according to Schopenhauer, is to make us more likely to choose a partner who is well-suited for procreation. We are drawn to people who we perceive as being beautiful, intelligent, and healthy. These are all qualities that are important for producing strong and healthy offspring.

Once we have reproduced, the illusion of romantic love wears off and we see our partner for who they really are. This can lead to disappointment and disillusionment. However, Schopenhauer believes that this is ultimately a good thing. It helps us to avoid becoming too attached to our partners and to focus on the more important task of raising our children.

Schopenhauer's views on sexual love are pessimistic and cynical, but they are also thought-provoking. His essay challenges us to think about the true nature of love and desire. It also raises important questions about the relationship between our individual desires and the needs of the species as a whole.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

David Hume could out consume Schopenhauer and Hegel...

 

[mikedee]

Well, you're clearly not doing it right from my perspective, I'm in my 50's I have sex just about every day, sometimes with more than one partner and not quickies. It works for me.

Rambo #2

 

[mikedee]

I was kinda addicted to sex. Was doing it almost every weekend, sometimes even every day.

You were far from being addicted, you were just normal.

 

[Dr.Suave]

When sex is very abundant in your life, sometimes other things that you dont have available on demand start to look more interesting.

 

[Epicenter]

David Hume could out consume Schopenhauer and Hegel...

bard AI to it:

Indeed, Arthur Schopenhauer and David Hume were two very different philosophers, with very different approaches to the truth.

Hume was a Scottish philosopher who lived in the 18th century. He was a skeptic who believed that knowledge is limited to our sense experiences. Hume argued that we cannot know anything for sure beyond what we can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell. This includes things like the existence of God, the nature of the mind, and the laws of nature.

Schopenhauer, on the other hand, was a German philosopher who lived in the 19th century. He was a pessimist who believed that the world is a place of suffering and that life is ultimately meaningless. Schopenhauer argued that the only way to escape suffering is to transcend the will to live.

In many ways, Schopenhauer's philosophy is a reaction to Hume's skepticism. Schopenhauer believed that Hume's skepticism led to nihilism, the belief that nothing has any meaning or value. Schopenhauer wanted to find a way to ground morality and meaning in a world without God or objective values.

Schopenhauer's philosophy is often described as being "hard" because it does not shy away from the dark side of human nature. Schopenhauer believed that humans are inherently selfish and that the world is a place of constant struggle. However, Schopenhauer also believed that it is possible to achieve redemption through art, music, and philosophy.

In contrast, Hume's philosophy is often described as being "softer" because it is more optimistic about the human condition. Hume believed that humans are capable of reason and compassion, and that the world can be a better place if we learn to use these qualities wisely.

So, to answer your question directly, Schopenhauer did indeed talk hard truth, not like David Hume. This is because Schopenhauer had a much darker view of the human condition than Hume did. Hume believed that humans were capable of great good, while Schopenhauer believed that humans were inherently selfish and destructive.

 

[corrector]

Sex is not overrated. It is properly rated. It's a basic human need. When men go without sex for too long, it is bad for their mental health.

Why did you visit a shrink in the past then for anxiety issues if you were having sex?

 

[RSDCharlie]

You were far from being addicted, you were just normal.

I'm no expert. But addiction for me means something you can't live without. When sex becomes a need and not a want, that's when you know you're addicted. Like coffee or smoking. Some people can't function without it.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

bard AI to it:

It didn't pick up that thats a line from Monty Python's Philosopher Song:

 

[mikedee]

I'm no expert. But addiction for me means something you can't live without. When sex becomes a need and not a want, that's when you know you're addicted. Like coffee or smoking. Some people can't function without it.

I understand your point, but go to SA meetings, you will see what sex addiction looks like, people are out of control. You can watch these two movies on sex addiction: "Shame" and "Thanks for sharing".
I recommend.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Rambo #2

Just because its not your experience does not invalidate it.

It's a form of intellectual arrogance to assume that just because something hasn't happened to you, it hasn't happened at all. Ignoring or belittling someone else's experience often serves as a convenient way to sidestep challenging conversations or uncomfortable truths. In doing so, you not only shut down dialogue but also perpetuate ignorance and potentially cause emotional harm to others.

This isn't just about "agreeing to disagree." It's a matter of refusing to acknowledge the complexity and diversity of human experience. It's turning a blind eye to the possibility that your own viewpoint is just one among many, and it might not be the most informed, fair, or compassionate one out there.

Whether stemming from privilege, ignorance, or a simple unwillingness to listen, the act of invalidating others' experiences reveals more about your own limitations than it does about the experiences you're questioning.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It didn't pick up that thats a line from Monty Python's Philosopher Song:

The lack of culture on this server is positively atrocious.

 

[kavi]

Well, you're clearly not doing it right from my perspective, I'm in my 50's I have sex just about every day, sometimes with more than one partner and not quickies. It works for me.

Sex is not overrated. It is properly rated. It's a basic human need. When men go without sex for too long, it is bad for their mental health.

These are wrong ideas.

Sex is very overrated.

We live in an Information Universe. Everything is Information. Sex is a form of Information. When men see females and 'like' them it is the information they get from the womans looks, style behaviour etc. When men watch porn, it is the information wihtin porn that excites them.

Sex itself is purely an informational quantity. It is the just 'sensory' information we get from the womans looks, feeling of touch, feeling of d in v, the sheer amount of nerves, it is all about information.

The man who elevates his Informational content or density ceases to find informational value in sex. This can happen from having done it many times already, or simply by gaining higher information from other sources like spirituality, love, understanding, etc.

I also think we re now currently going through a massive social shift where men are valueing sex less and less. This is the natural progression of freedom.

You will notice that most animals do not value sex as much as humans. We need sex as an escape from our terrible lives, it becomes an addiction, the the extreme sensory information density and experience of sex can make us forget our problems and feel good for a while, like any addiction.

In the old days, the days of trad, sex was so controlled, that men always wanted it and overrated it, that was what we inherited from the 1950s onward, but since the freedom of sex has caused to now come to the equilibrium level where men are beginning to wake up and see beyond women and sex.

Those men who say sex is an important requirement for men are pushing very toxic and degenerate views.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Is sex too overrated?

No.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sex is not overrated. It is properly rated. It's a basic human need. When men go without sex for too long, it is bad for their mental health.

There are a lot of factions within society that obsess over it and unfortunately for us it is usually men 35 - 65 who are the main culprits , I mean the sex toy , porn and lingerie industry's are all multi trillion industries for good reason

Social media is awash with hyper sexualised content and sometimes I come across a " TAG HIM / HER" meme and I just think to myself
Urghh are we really this immature

Then I will see men openly drooling over a picture of a scantly clad woman and again I think Urghhh come on fellas

Whilst I agree its a main driver of our species as much as eating or sh1tting

I do think there are times where its over exaggerated in peoples minds and there are a hell of a lot of people who are absolutely obsessed with it

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The idea that sex is just 'information' drastically oversimplifies a deeply complex human experience that encompasses emotional, psychological, and physiological elements. Arguing that a higher "informational content or density" can just replace or make sexual experiences irrelevant disregards the multifaceted reasons people engage in sexual activity, which can range from emotional connection to physical pleasure and even procreation.

Suggesting that men are now valuing sex less because of some arbitrary notion of "informational freedom" lacks empirical evidence and is a sweeping generalization. People still seek sexual relationships for a host of reasons, including emotional fulfillment, and it's not a one-size-fits-all scenario.

The argument also wrongfully stigmatizes sex as an "escape from our terrible lives," implying it's merely a form of escapism or addiction. While some people may misuse sex in this way, it doesn't mean that the act of sex itself is problematic or overrated.

Furthermore, claiming that most animals don't value sex as humans do is a flawed comparison. Animals and humans have different contexts and reasons for sexual activities; it's not a straightforward apples-to-apples comparison.

Finally, labeling the view that sex is important for men as "toxic and degenerate" is a blatant moral judgment that lacks nuance. It's a reductionist view that fails to take into account the myriad perspectives and motivations surrounding human sexuality.

p.s. I love the way a nice vagina feels when my penis is inside it and there are few things in life I would prioritize higher than that experience. I realize you may not have had the good fortune I have in this department, and I’m sorry for you.

These are wrong ideas.

Sex is very overrated.

We live in an Information Universe. Everything is Information. Sex is a form of Information. When men see females and 'like' them it is the information they get from the womans looks, style behaviour etc. When men watch porn, it is the information wihtin porn that excites them.

Sex itself is purely an informational quantity. It is the just 'sensory' information we get from the womans looks, feeling of touch, feeling of d in v, the sheer amount of nerves, it is all about information.

The man who elevates his Informational content or density ceases to find informational value in sex. This can happen from having done it many times already, or simply by gaining higher information from other sources like spirituality, love, understanding, etc.

I also think we re now currently going through a massive social shift where men are valueing sex less and less. This is the natural progression of freedom.

You will notice that most animals do not value sex as much as humans. We need sex as an escape from our terrible lives, it becomes an addiction, the the extreme sensory information density and experience of sex can make us forget our problems and feel good for a while, like any addiction.

In the old days, the days of trad, sex was so controlled, that men always wanted it and overrated it, that was what we inherited from the 1950s onward, but since the freedom of sex has caused to now come to the equilibrium level where men are beginning to wake up and see beyond women and sex.

Those men who say sex is an important requirement for men are pushing very toxic and degenerate views.